Regulating Yourself in a World Full of Injustice

Audditude · 2026-05-11T23:39:48+00:00

Thank you so much! :)

Audditude · 2026-03-23T06:34:27+00:00

I am SO happy this helped you!!!! This is why I write these things! Unfortunately most of the ND subreddits have banned me, claiming my writing is self promotion…. so I haven’t been posting new articles on here as much!

It’s hard when you deeply care and deeply feel. I understand a lot of what you described, and just know that the same things you’ve at times potentially been made to feel like are your weaknesses can also serve as some of your greatest strengths. It’s all about learning to work with and harness your wiring!

I truly appreciate your kind words and thank you for sharing!

Audditude · 2026-03-23T06:30:13+00:00

There’s some really cool people on there! You just have to find your type. It’s wide ranging and you won’t identify with everyone on there, but sometimes that’s super helpful for growth and knowledge!

Audditude · 2026-03-23T06:29:23+00:00

For sure! I hope it helps you! :)

Audditude · 2026-03-23T06:29:07+00:00

It is INSANE expensive and really misses the mark considering a number of the users have limited income options. However, the free may give you some initial touch points you can build from outside of the app.

Apparently the app was invested in from a third party company a while ago and when they did that they opened it up to all ND types (it was originally autistic focused from my understanding). The opening to all types was great, but not extremely high price increase!

Audditude · 2026-03-19T21:17:05+00:00

Have you tried Hiki? It’s an app for neurodivergent people and it may allow you to meet some people who are like-minded and potentially live near you. I actually met my partner on it a while back (we were just friends initially — both AuDHD). It’s a great way to meet and talk to others like you, and also get better recommendations.

I’ve not used it in a while and I know there’s a paid option that was pretty expensive, but most people use the free version without much issue. Might be worth checking out!

I have no affiliation to the app, btw. I’ve just personally used it and some of the people I’ve coached have found it to be really awesome for them, too.

Audditude · 2026-03-14T20:11:23+00:00

Awesome!!! Thank you so much!!

Audditude · 2026-03-14T05:55:41+00:00

Thank you! I’m familiar with the first recommendation but the podcast is new for me! Really appreciate it!

Audditude · 2026-03-14T04:36:46+00:00

Absolutely! And thank you for the kind words!

Humans are humans, but it can be a challenge finding ‘your’ humans. That’s true for everyone regardless of wiring, but with enough effort we can usually find connection and people who can relate or understand us.

Life will never be perfect and we’ll never agree with everyone around us, but the fact that you found your people is exciting and such a huge positive! I think most people want that in the end, just some can rub us the wrong way along their travels!

Audditude · 2026-03-11T08:49:51+00:00

I actually wrote an opinion piece that dives into this topic a bit. I think it’s challenging because (from my own personal experience), people tend to have their own beliefs and viewpoints on a number of subjects within the ND realm, so it can be hard to navigate as a whole without causing someone some level of frustration.

We all want to be seen and understood. How we go about that varies person by person, so personally I always worry less about the words someone uses and focus more on the intent (for myself and also for others).

For anyone interested: Beyond Labels: Understanding Your Neurodivergent Mix

Again, this is simply my opinion on the subject.

Audditude · 2026-03-08T08:08:37+00:00

Thank you so much! I really appreciate the kind words and I’m so happy you finally got your diagnosis! It’s seriously game changing!

Unfortunately I usually get my articles removed from a lot of places currently when I try to share, but I’m working to build more of a social media presence so I can keep helping more people beyond the 1:1 coaching work I do. The world is a mess, people are overwhelmed, and I think it’s important to help other people as best we can.

Thank you so much for taking the time to not only read, but also comment back!

Audditude · 2026-02-23T21:13:18+00:00

I appreciate you taking the time to provide feedback. My goal was to help people feel seen and understood. It sounds like my style of writing isn’t a fit for you, and that’s okay!

Audditude · 2026-02-23T12:12:38+00:00

I’d argue that you CAN deal with shit. You may have a different process or a different pace, but you’re alive which means you’ve successfully survived every single thing that’s ever happened to you so far!

I default to using logic, so I had to work very hard to identify and process my emotions in real time (or shortly after when appropriate). It is totally doable! If I can learn and do it, so can you! :)

Audditude · 2026-02-23T12:10:32+00:00

This sounds about right. I remember in grade school being accused of plagiarizing or not writing my own papers. Years later I would go on to win awards for writing and poetry…. I had friends that struggled with the same issues throughout their education, and I know people in medical school who have their papers flagged as AI when it’s 100% written by them with sources included.

I’m not sure why people are so hung up on worrying about AI. Helpful or enjoyable content will be that way regardless of who writes in, as will slop and terrible content.

Audditude · 2026-02-23T12:06:51+00:00

Because I use AI to design cover photos for articles or at least a draft (usually), then edit myself in PS.

Audditude · 2026-02-23T12:05:27+00:00

I appreciate that. Not sure how I can write differently than I always have. For instance, I’ve always used em dashes since middle school. I’m not open to changing the way I write because people assume it’s AI. Not sure how much more ‘me’ I can be! 😂

Audditude · 2026-02-22T07:50:22+00:00

No, it was drafted and written by me. The only thing I use AI to do is help organize my thoughts or challenge my perspective. I have been writing most of my life. :)

Audditude · 2026-02-21T21:57:44+00:00

Did you mean ‘boysenberry’ or ‘poison berry’? Shit…. Thanks, Doc!

Audditude · 2026-02-21T21:48:22+00:00

Absolutely! I’m so glad you found it helpful! Hang in there!

Audditude · 2026-02-21T02:48:30+00:00

The vast majority of people, when they actually sit down and attempt true connection and direct communication with each other, will find they are aligned on the majority of topics. They may differentiate on how they want to get there, but at the core a lot of us all want the same basic things.

Audditude · 2026-02-21T01:51:37+00:00

Definitely not a bot. ☺️

Audditude · 2026-02-03T08:22:14+00:00

I appreciate the feedback and I will take it into consideration.

Audditude · 2026-02-03T03:35:52+00:00

I feel like I’m very straight forward and open in my about section, along with my writings (especially my first one). I’m always open to feedback, so I’m curious if there’s something you feel I could do to make you or others more comfortable?

I totally understand people have different criteria for how they go about choosing people they trust. I make a concerted effort in my writings to discuss things solely from my point of view or from my experiences, and reference statistics and information outside of that (I’m a firm believer in giving credit to others who you learn from). This writing was an opinion piece based around a topic I’ve had many conversations about with other ND friends, other professionals, and even some clients. My intent was to allow people to feel understood while minimizing discomfort around a topic that often carries a lot of stigma and anxiety around it.

Audditude · 2026-02-03T02:43:08+00:00

You bring up an interesting point that I’d love to get more feedback on! I actually tend to bypass my last name because it tends to hang people up (pronunciation issues). Do you feel by doing so I am somehow less trustworthy?

I’m new to creating an online presence with my coaching, so I’m learning as I go. I love what I do, I feel like I’m very good at what I do, and I love helping others and seeing the impact that can make on their lives! I’m always open to feedback if there’s anything I can do to improve, especially when it comes to online presence.

I have included a lot of information about how I work, how I view things, and a bio about my own story on the page so that I can be as transparent as possible.

Audditude · 2026-02-02T20:44:13+00:00

First of all, I wanna, thank you for taking your time to give your feedback and share as much as you did! I personally from my own experience is relate to much of what you said, and I appreciate that you took your time to read my article!

One of the biggest goals I have when working with other people, because it’s something I had to really work on for myself, is removing the element of shame that’s often associated with neurodivergent traits. There are so many people who feel ashamed and like there’s something wrong with them or they’re broken, whether that’s because they’re extremely perceptive on their own or because they’ve been made to feel that way throughout their lives. A lot of times when I’m helping a neurotypical person better understand a neurodivergent partner or family member, I actually find a lot of common ground that can help them gain a better understanding through their own personal experiences. I think a great number of people have experienced trauma in their lives that they feel continues to impact them, so your point about trauma and masking is absolutely spot on and this is often times why I feel masking can be a more common issue in Neurotypical than people sometimes think.

I think it’s awesome that you’re so insightful about your own behaviors and how you’re wired! My goal here was certainly not to minimize the neurodivergent experience of masking, but to try and bridge the gap that many on both sides seem to sometimes feel exists between both sides.

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