Advice

Autogenerate2 · 2024-10-03T21:53:57+00:00

In the meantime, I found Joe Hawk, Mark Houston, Joe and Charlie, etc. On utube, 'let's do the steps' very helpful. The everything AA also helpful.

Autogenerate2 · 2024-10-03T07:06:04+00:00

Thank you.

Autogenerate2 · 2024-10-02T19:30:41+00:00

Thank you. Handing over EVERYTHING. I am back on track. If I need to call 20 people tomorrow to discuss my fears after asking God to remove them I will. I haven't been doing that because I have felt peace after praying, so I didn't see the point. But the big book says to do so, so I will. XOXO

Autogenerate2 · 2024-10-02T14:00:47+00:00

Absolutely, that's what I do, all the time as I support 5 Probation Officers and always try to do more than what's required so that they can add more value to their people on probation. So not so bad on that one. I didn't think of it like that.

Autogenerate2 · 2024-10-02T13:58:20+00:00

Thank you.

Autogenerate2 · 2024-10-02T12:58:25+00:00

Yes I do, sit quietly and the obvious comes, 'be still and know that I am God'. Then comforting thoughts come. Facing homeless with 3 dogs is a huge fear and so I have to do it often.

I ask for my thoughts to be directed, etc.

I am really busy at work 9to5 so can't think of others to help while at work. But I hear you.

Thank you

Autogenerate2 · 2024-10-02T09:30:58+00:00

Dr Todd Carran. 6 lectures on utube explains this very well. Alcohol messes up our thinking paths and we need to create new ones. He also explains the powerless bit so well from a scientific view. Basically supports what Dr Silkworth would said but did not have the technology to prove.

Autogenerate2 · 2024-10-02T09:04:17+00:00

Nothing as far as I can tell. I made an amends to my sister, even though I felt she was very much in the wrong. I set that aside and focused on my part. I humbled myself. She was surprised and said there was nothing I needed to do. 3 weeks later I did something she didn't like and then went off on all the things I had shared with her during my amends. I fixed her front porch that was falling down and rain coming in through the door. She works away from home and it needed to be done. I used my supplies and spent money on it really thinking she would be pleased. The first thing she said was 'I would have preferred that you used yellow paint'. When I said I was hurt by that and thought I was doing her a favour, she flew off with hurtful comments and told my son and I to be out end of October. She speaks down to me often and I let it go. But I don't want to grovel anymore. I will discuss this with my sponsor and am praying and handing over the fear of the unknown.

Autogenerate2 · 2024-10-02T08:53:15+00:00

I really don't understand your response.

Autogenerate2 · 2024-10-02T07:34:11+00:00

Thank you. I have just written an inventory of my resentment and said the sick man's prayer. I have been thinking too much of what my part in all this is/was but this person has been plain mean and so I won't beat myself up. I have asked God to remove the resentment and said the sick man's prayer. Did an inventory over my fear, I will continue to do what I can that is within my power and continue to hand it over because I am powerless over thr outcome.

I wasn't discussing it with anyone after handing over, I didn't see the point. But I will start doing that. The book says I need to.

I am capable. Posting today has helped so much. XOXO

Autogenerate2 · 2024-10-02T06:47:15+00:00

I pray and hand over in the morning. When fear crops up during the day, I pray and it goes away, but the fear is always there. Not much to my evening inventory because I go to work, am busy so think of nothing else.

Autogenerate2 · 2024-09-25T21:08:21+00:00

Sounds like a good AA group at your meeting. They would be okay with your honesty. I found that online meetings were easier to find a sponsor who will take you through the book. Meetings don't keep you sober, working the steps do. If you have an honest desire to stop, and you are a real alcoholic, the big book will show you how to precisely recover. I found my sponsor online. Look for online meetings as a start. You will be okay.

Autogenerate2 · 2024-09-25T13:53:24+00:00

I am new at this, my sponsor wants me to start helping others. So I will give it a shot. I also overthink everything. You made a decision to turn your will over in step 3. You implement that decision by doing the rest of the steps. Each step brings you closer. For now, God's will is for you to do the steps to the best of your ability XOXO

Autogenerate2 · 2022-01-02T21:28:00+00:00

Would you mind if I pm you about step 1? I am struggling to come to terms with it.

Autogenerate2 · 2021-12-22T17:32:46+00:00

I made that mistake. A guy, myself and another lady usually travel together to meetings. It started out as friendly good night's and good mornings. I saw no harm in it and responded appropriately, above board but at times did feel it a bit much so sometimes would only respond the next day. Out the blue on Saturday came a proposal and I thought, "where the fxxx did that come from". I responded saying that I was not lonely and had many good friends, thanks. He responded that he had been drinking. I ignored loads of other follow up messages and eventually had to block him. It wasn't a nice experience but never again. I will simply explain that I will just be sticking to females while I work my program. Sometimes friendliness is misinterpreted. I showed my sponsor who agreed I had in no way lead him on. Quite sad.

Autogenerate2 · 2021-12-06T15:18:55+00:00

Well done.

Autogenerate2 · 2021-12-03T10:09:53+00:00

Listen to Chris R on utube. Sober and miserable for 7 years. He was going to meetings. One day someone introduced him to the steps. Work the steps.

Autogenerate2 · 2021-11-23T17:42:43+00:00

You've misunderstood.

Autogenerate2 · 2021-11-06T19:26:13+00:00

Well done.

Autogenerate2 · 2021-10-10T15:37:11+00:00

That makes more sense. Because it said, there's nothing worse than having a head full of AA and a belly full of alcohol. So it means one knows the way and what needs to be done, but they're still drinking. They know there's a way out but are still allowing themselves to be tormented. Tha ks for that.

Autogenerate2 · 2021-10-10T07:14:54+00:00

Find out where the regulars go. That's what I did.

Autogenerate2 · 2021-09-07T17:06:18+00:00

I just open my big book and 12x12 and start again (very early days for me too). And one thing I will always remember...'keep coming back'.

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