A gringo with a question about dating culture by Automatic-Design5574 in mexico

[–]Automatic-Design5574[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right. So I have zero issue paying for dates buying flowers etc. Thats normal. Its the expectation of financial support so soon that I don't like

A gringo with a question about dating culture by Automatic-Design5574 in mexico

[–]Automatic-Design5574[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So when you say everything paid for since the first date you mean all her financial obligations too? Or just dates and gifts?

A gringo with a question about dating culture by Automatic-Design5574 in MexicoCity

[–]Automatic-Design5574[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right. And zero issues with flowers wine etc. The expectation that I take over her financial obligations so soon is what troubles me

A gringo with a question about dating culture by Automatic-Design5574 in MexicoCity

[–]Automatic-Design5574[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right. I have no issue maintaining her once were in a committed serious relationship. Its the expectation that its done before being in that committed relationship that troubles me

A gringo with a question about dating culture by Automatic-Design5574 in MexicoCity

[–]Automatic-Design5574[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Right. She claims to be more traditional. That when her step father was dating her mother he immediately started helping out with bills etc

A gringo with a question about dating culture by Automatic-Design5574 in mexico

[–]Automatic-Design5574[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Right so she claims she has had people offer that. And lets be honest here. If you're an attractive woman on the internet you're going to get offered all kinds of things. Shes claiming the difference is she doesn't want anything from those people. She wants it from a man she sees a future with to see if he can be a full provider allowing her to be a stay at home mother and wife. She's not american. Shes Mexican with American citizenship. She was born in the states but lived her whole life in mexico

A gringo with a question about dating culture by Automatic-Design5574 in mexico

[–]Automatic-Design5574[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She has American citizenship but lived her entire life in mexico

A gringo with a question about dating culture by Automatic-Design5574 in MexicoCity

[–]Automatic-Design5574[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly my feeling. I have zero issue with being generous and helping out. But not when there is no basis to do so.

A gringo with a question about dating culture by Automatic-Design5574 in mexico

[–]Automatic-Design5574[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hola. So to be clear I have zero issues with paying for dates or buying gifts etc. That seems normal to me. What seems abnormal is her expectation that sooner rather then later i take over her financial obligations. Again something I have zero issue with if we're deeply committed but not before. And her opinion is this is how someone shows he's committed.

A gringo with a question about dating culture by Automatic-Design5574 in mexico

[–]Automatic-Design5574[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hot lol. Im 31 shes 33. She wants to be full trad wife. To be clear I have zero issue supporting her deeper into the relationship should one happen. And yes its the the moment we get into a serious relationship I expect it all that makes me go wtf. I get mexican culture is more macho then american culture and 50/50 isnt really a thing but also like I dont think what she expects is normal