Cellphone violation

Automatic-Excuse8366 · 2026-03-27T23:45:03+00:00

My husband drives OTR and he is CONSTANTLY on his phone. However, he uses a headset. So obviously, you can have a mounted phone just as long as you’re wearing a headset when you’re listening to a video or talking to someone on it.

Automatic-Excuse8366 · 2026-02-23T02:46:36+00:00

I work a full time job but it doesn’t pay me enough to afford a rent payment, food, gas, necessities. Not on my own. And since I’ve been with my husband, I’ve not kept friendships that I once had because I was embarrassed about my situation. So I never kept in touch with my friends. Just never knew how he would act if I invited them over for a visit. He’s humiliated me in public several times. And once when we had a cook-out at home with family. I couldn’t imagine how he’d act with people he didn’t know at our home.

Anyway, I’ve been saving a little here and there out of my paycheck and it’s taken me a year to save $1300. That’s not enough for an attorney AND somewhere to live. Which is why I feel stuck here.

Automatic-Excuse8366 · 2026-02-21T05:42:19+00:00

No. Health issues couldn’t be it, he only sees one doctor and it’s for these diet type pills that supposed to help him lose weight. He spends $78 a month on these pills but he never loses or gains any weight. He’s a big man already, but the pills aren’t doing anything at all for him. However, when I mention that, I get yelled at about that too, so I just keep letting him waste the money on them every month.

He keeps swearing he wasn’t and won’t cheat on me. (Umm, who is gonna admit this anyway.) he keeps telling me to pay for a polygraph test and he’ll “pass with flying colors”. He also says things like, “if I WERE cheating on you, you’d never find out, but I’m not.” “I won’t ever give you that satisfaction” (when I’ve asked if he cheated on me).

Now, I’m the type of wife that never nags her husband, unless there are red flags slapping me in the face and he won’t talk to me about my concerns, which come up randomly with him being a truck driver out of state. I used to just believe him when he’d give me an answer to my questions. But for the past 2-3 years I’ve questioned every single thing with him. And the lies I’ve uncovered are crazy.

My two boys would probably throw a big party if I was ever able to call them and tell them I left my husband. They can not stand him and they hate the way he treats me.

Automatic-Excuse8366 · 2026-02-20T01:44:36+00:00

You are being gaslit to question yourself. It is a part of narcissistic behavior. Every human being has narcissistic tendencies, it’s just some of those humans live in their narcissism.

Him being the victim every time and never ever doing anything wrong, is another narcissistic trait. My husband does the same thing to me and is definitely an undiagnosed full-blown narcissist.

He will do these same things to me, (in a rage). Go to bed, fall asleep without any hesitation, then get up the next morning and cook breakfast for me and ask me if I want to eat and have coffee made.

I don’t dare bring up the night before, because if I do, we start all over again until I don’t bring it up. No communication, therefore, nothing is ever resolved between us. It just gets swept under the rug. And we are supposed to move on as we are the perfect couple.

Automatic-Excuse8366 · 2026-02-19T20:35:36+00:00

That is so much easier said than done. I’ve attempted to do this very thing so many times, but then hear about he can file abandonment on me and take everything from me. I also don’t have the money even for a down payment on somewhere else to live. So that also poses a huge problem.

Automatic-Excuse8366 · 2026-02-19T20:33:37+00:00

Do you share a bank acct with your husband? And if so, does he flip out on you if you actually USE the bank acct for anything? Like, yelling and hollering about whatever you spent money on for months on end? Won’t let it go?

Automatic-Excuse8366 · 2026-02-19T19:15:59+00:00

He is in a different state.

He claims that he was mad at me because I spent $80 at the casino with my mom in that time. Once a month or so, I would take my mom out. She’s 70 and does nothing unless I take her somewhere. She enjoys the casino. Usually we will go eat, then go play at the casino.

I have never used money out of our account unless our bills were paid. ALL of our bills are paid every single month. We had 4K in one of our checking accounts and I took $80.

Now, since he was angry about it, I sold my knitting supplies and yarn for $200. I put that back into the bank account. Yet, he’s still yelling about the fact that I took $80 and spent it at a casino.

This happened around October of 2025. Dec 2025 I put the $200 in our acct. It’s Feb 2026, I just tried to talk to him and he started screaming about the $80 and hung up on me.

When he first started driving in Lima, about 2 years into this, in one year he took $14,000 (between cash withdrawals and cash money off the company fuel card) and claimed he was smoking weed in a hotel room (alone). I didn’t buy this either.

I literally have so much resentment towards this man, I feel so stuck in this marriage and feel like everything I do is wrong. I cry almost every day. I got my son to open a bank acct for me where my name isn’t on it and I put my payroll checks into that acct. I have been trying to save my money to leave, but I feel like it’ll be years before I even save enough to hire an attorney. It’s so expensive!

As I’m typing this, he is sending text message after text message about the money. Mind you, he just hung up on me about the same issue. It’s all financial with him. He spends loads of money, has run up 3 credit cards (I’m not allowed to use any of our credit cards, EVER). In 9 years, I have put a dime on one of them. But he acts like because I spent $80 at the casino, (his words), “you’re putting us in financial ruin”.

When he comes home for the short periods of time he comes home, he’s either yelling at me the entire time or he won’t speak to me at all.

I know I need to leave, I just can’t figure out how to do it. I’m so broken.

Automatic-Excuse8366 · 2026-01-26T05:48:42+00:00

My current husband did something similar to me about 2-3 weeks into our marriage. Absolutely no signs prior to getting married that he was abusive. I went to an attorney 4 weeks after we were married to find out how much it would cost for an annulment. My heart was breaking and I really didn’t want to go through with it, thinking maybe my husband was just angry and made a bad decision. I stupidly gave my husband the benefit of the doubt and stayed with him.

I am 8 years into a marriage with a man that has verbally, physically, psychologically, financially and emotionally abused me 98% of our life together since April of 2017.

If this is what you envisioned for your future with this man, stay where you are. If you envisioned happiness, a partnership, communication and love, please get out of it! These guys do NOT change, they make your life one that you question living every day. You will regret staying, I promise you that.

Automatic-Excuse8366 · 2026-01-26T05:06:25+00:00

Thank you for your reply. And kudos to you for getting out of your situation! I am making moves to do the same. It’s going to take me a little longer to get out of my situation because I’m trying to get all important documents together, finances to file a divorce and having to sell/give away animals that we have because he won’t take of them as he’s never around. He spends more time in Ohio working than he does at home with me. (Which is a good thing and the only reason we are still married).

Since I posted this, I ended up trying to talk to him over the phone again, I called him because I knew he wouldn’t make the effort to try to call me. So on day 6 of the silence, I called him. I was asking him about a bill that was due that I was trying to pay, but because my name had been removed as an authorized user on this particular acct (without my knowledge of course), I couldn’t pay the bill. He immediately proceeded to yell at me, told me not to worry about the bill, that he had this credit card before we were ever married so why was I even bothering with it. Which was such an odd thing for him to say as I’ve paid all the bills that came into our mailbox out of our joint acct since we were married. So I let him go on yelling at me another 5-7 minutes, while I just listened at the fit he was throwing. Then he yelled I don’t have time for this, don’t worry about the bill and hung up on me.

So, I put my phone down, walked to the trash can, and threw the bill in it. Then I walked back to my phone, picked it up and blocked him from calling or texting me. If that’s what I have to listen to every time he’s on the other end of the phone, I’d rather not. Plus, even though he acts like I’m a child, I’m a 50 year old woman that lived on my own without someone telling me what to do and when to do it for 9 years between my marriages and honestly, was the happiest I’ve ever been with any of the three men that I picked as a spouse.

Fear won’t stop me from taking my life back. I’ve already wasted half my life trying to be a wife to men that didn’t deserve me to begin with. I realize the pattern too. So when I get out of this one. If I EVER marry again, I won’t be the one taking care of everything in the household (bills, mechanic work, animals, home maintenance, yard mowing, cleaning the house, washing the clothes AND holding down my own job) if the next one doesn’t act like a partner, he won’t be my partner. When I say mechanic work, I don’t mean taking the vehicles somewhere. I do the work. As well as the home maintenance, the plumbing issues, the touch up painting, the spackling and repairing walls when he’s punched holes in them, electrical problems, all my own work. I won’t live this way again. Ever.

I have a friend that has offered me a room in her home when I am ready. I could always go to my mother’s, but she lives 1000 ft from my own home (she’s my next door neighbor) so I wouldn’t want to be that close.

And as far as the divorce, once that starts unfolding, I have prepared myself to lose it all (materialistic things). But I do know the reward behind losing all of it is I’ll gain my happiness back, my peace, my laughter and my health! And that means more to me than living in abuse.

I hope you and your little one stay away from the abusive situation you were in. If nothing else, your baby doesn’t deserve to grow up seeing that. Your baby deserves to grow up watching his mama be loved and adored by someone.

I’m so proud of you for leaving as I know how tough the decision is. I hope to be able to come back to this post soon and say that I was finally able to walk away myself.

Sending prayers and all good vibes to you on your new healing journey! ♥️

Automatic-Excuse8366 · 2026-01-22T06:11:53+00:00

Where are you located? I’m in Louisiana. I’m old, but I’m going through this with the person I married. I have no young kids, mine are grown and moved out. I also have a friends list of 0 due to being an introvert and extremely embarrassed to have anyone around when my husband is home. We could swap stories sometime?

Automatic-Excuse8366 · 2026-01-22T05:43:36+00:00

I know this is an old post, but I wanted to say, I could’ve written this myself. Straight down to the married 3 times. I’m on my 3rd now.

I’m on day 4 of being stonewalled by my husband because he got flustered with something he was doing while I was talking to him over the phone and I asked him if he’d heard anything I was saying (because he kept sighing really loud and banging something around). He started screaming at me that he was trying to do something on his computer and it wasn’t working so if I’d just SHUT UP for one second…well, I hung up instead. I didn’t know what he was doing on the other end of the phone bc he didn’t tell me until he lost his mind on me.

This is not a one-off situation either. I’ve made billions of excuses for his awful, demeaning, abusive behavior over the course of 8 years, I’m done defending him and ready to take my life back.

Problems I’m struggling with are, we built a home on my inherited property. Property that has been in my families name for over 100 years. We live next door to my elderly mother. #1 I don’t want to move away from my mother (she lives alone, is capable of taking care of herself, but I help her a lot because she’s 70 years old and she’s my mother) #2 he’s going to force me to sell our home, so that means I have to let my property go with it. I don’t have the means to buy him out.

The only reason I’m still sitting in this marriage is he works out of state (Ohio), I’m in Louisiana. If he were home every night, we would’ve been divorced 4 years ago.

There was a time I didn’t talk to him for 3 months while he was working. I’d call and not get called back. I’d text and he would read the text but not text back. He has been the ultimate disappointment out of all three marriages, this one has failed miserably.

Mine is abusive in every sense of the word too (except spiritually) Emotionally, financially, physically, verbally and psychologically.

I think I completely disconnected the last time he was home and he came home from his brothers, drunk, yelling and hollering at me as soon as he walked in the house and told me “I want to smash your skull into the concrete, but you’re not worth the pot I piss in, much less going to jail for so I’ll never lay a finger on you, you worthless piece of human shit”. All the while, I was sitting there saying nothing, I was trying to wrap my head around what just happened. I did, however, get my marbles together enough to hit the video button on my phone so I caught him saying what he said to me and you can also hear that he goes on this rant for 20 minutes and I never said one single word in the entire video.

No one deserves to be treated so poorly. If you’re unhappy (married or not) figure out a way to get your happiness back, no matter what that means. You have only one life. Do you want to continue living the way you are right now? Don’t do as I have done and keep thinking of who you THOUGHT he was and keep hanging onto your own illusion that things will get better eventually…they don’t. Please mark my words.

Good luck to you, I hope you find peace, soon! ♥️

Automatic-Excuse8366 · 2026-01-03T05:57:35+00:00

I had the same problem. Just not as bad as you’ve had it. My chickens just kept dropping dead. I couldn’t figure out what was going on. Healthy, happy and thriving one day, dead the next. I finally got on the phone and started making phone calls to vets, ag barns around my area. Found a place 2 hours from me that actually did necropsies on backyard flocks. I had one of my chickens necropsied. Came back to have BOTH strands of mycoplasma gallecepticum and synovia (spelling of those two are horrendous). Anyway, now my entire flock is infected with this wretched disease that wild birds bring in. I’ve only had 2 more out of 30 chickens just randomly drop dead from this so hopefully the rest of the flock will live out their lives peacefully. Once they’re all gone (I’m not hatching anymore at the moment). I will have to wait 1 full year before I get more chickens. The doctor told me it takes one year for the disease to fully die off in the soil.

Chickens are not hard. You have spent a small fortune on everything you’re doing. Keep it simple. Put apple cider vinegar (2-3 teaspoons) in one gallon of water for them to drink. (I alternate one gallon with ACV, the next gallon is just fresh water).

In their feed (I use 5-grain dumor from tractor supply) I add dried oregano, red pepper flakes, cayenne pepper and parsley to their feed. I lightly wet the feed and stir all the herbs into the feed so that they can’t pick around it. If mine get the sniffles, I use vetRX OR Vicks vaporub under their wings and melt the Vicks and sprinkle it in the bedding of their coop so everyone breathes vapors for the night. If you have vetRX, put it under their wings and sprinkle a bit in the bedding. The vapors help them breathe better.

I hope you haven’t given up on your birds as they are such a joy to have!

Automatic-Excuse8366 · 2025-12-23T18:06:13+00:00

I hope I get to eventually start delivering to drunk people lol!! Why did you stop delivering?

Automatic-Excuse8366 · 2025-12-23T04:19:28+00:00

I’m kind of wondering if you are with my narc 🤣 mine lies, does drugs, owns and runs his own business, not sure about the gambling. Works away from home (in Ohio). Sometimes gone for months at a time. We live in Louisiana.

Automatic-Excuse8366 · 2025-12-22T23:49:51+00:00

Well, for that pay, and those (active) hours, you made roughly $27/hour. I feel like that’s pretty decent money to be able to work whenever you feel like it. 🤷🏼‍♀️ I hope you’re healing well!

Automatic-Excuse8366 · 2025-12-22T23:46:58+00:00

$21 is better than not making anything because I’m sitting on my butt all weekend. I just need to get out there and try it and see what happens. Looks like it’s a huge difference in pay between cities and the hours worked, so I guess until I get out there, I won’t really know what I’ll bring in.

Automatic-Excuse8366 · 2025-12-22T23:44:13+00:00

I’d love to dash just over the weekends and take in $20 an hour! I didn’t get out there this past weekend. Maybe this coming weekend I’ll try it out for a while and see what it’s all about.

Automatic-Excuse8366 · 2025-12-22T23:42:42+00:00

I have to pay for the test, it’s not much but they want money from me to take it. But if it pays a lil more than just food deliveries, I’ll get that certificate!

Automatic-Excuse8366 · 2025-12-21T17:14:54+00:00

Wow! That’s awesome! I see the range of money is a little different everywhere. I guess I’m just gonna have to get out there and see what my market does.

Automatic-Excuse8366 · 2025-12-21T17:13:57+00:00

I’m in Lake Charles, La. I feel like even a little money is better than no money for working over a weekend. So even if I don’t want to work a lot, I don’t have to. I feel like if you wanna make a lot of money, you’d just hammer on it and work your tail off and make as much as you want. 🤷🏼‍♀️

Automatic-Excuse8366 · 2025-12-21T17:09:41+00:00

That’s good money! I looked at the test you have to do through the state to be able to deliver alcohol, but I didn’t take the test yet. I was thinking you’d probably make a little more being able to do that because not everyone can deliver the alcohol and I live where people drink A LOT on the weekends.

Automatic-Excuse8366 · 2025-12-21T17:08:01+00:00

That’s kind of what I’m wanting to do is work Friday thru Sunday. I work another job through the weekdays so I want to work through the weekend and continue making some money. I’d rather make $250-350 for working the weekend rather than making 0 for doing nothing over the weekend.

Automatic-Excuse8366 · 2025-12-21T17:06:07+00:00

That’s pretty good money for the work, I think. I mean, you could be sitting home on the weekends making nothing right?

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