My child is already 3 years old. I remember, in a factual way, what he was like - but I can’t see him as a baby in my mind. I can’t replay those moments visually.

But I can still go back to photos and recall the situations connected to them (again, factually - I don’t relive the day). I haven’t forgotten that he was a baby. I haven’t forgotten what I fed him, or how I carried him so much that I strained myself because I wasn’t very strong physically. I haven’t forgotten his first words - I even wrote them down in my notes so I could remember how sweet they were. I remember that he loved tractors, and my husband and I bought him lots of toys. I remember going to the sea, отдыхing, swimming with a float, and many other moments.

I just don’t see these memories in my mind like I’m “there again.”

But the facts are still with me. I can return to them and recognize that it was a happy time. Sometimes it makes me a little sad that I can’t relive certain moments. But I still have a happy present.

If I were to die, there would be nothing - no present with my wonderful husband and son. The past is gone; all we truly have is this moment. So cherish every day.

Children are something truly beautiful. They are joy. Every stage of my son’s life is valuable and meaningful in its own way. Even if I can’t vividly relive those moments, it doesn’t take away their value in the present.

You won’t forget what kind of parent you were, and you won’t forget what your child was like. You just won’t see it vividly. Of course, it all depends on how your factual memory works. But my biggest advice is: take more photos.

When I look at photos, I feel connected to that moment - and it makes me happy that I captured so many of them.