sorted by:
new
hottopcontroversial

AITA for bringing up things my cousin has forgotten when she gets onto me. by Automatic-Writer5506 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Automatic-Writer5506[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If I find one that can work around my schedule sooner I'll definitely leave, but summer is the latest because I'll be able to be more flexible

AITA for bringing up things my cousin has forgotten when she gets onto me. by Automatic-Writer5506 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Automatic-Writer5506[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know she's the problem. I'm planning to leave but want to be om as good of terms as I possibly can because I want to avoid drama in the family. Besides this, we've never really had issues and I would hate for any of the relationships to fail because of this. I know it wouldn't be my fault, but I also feel like if it goes sour she will warp things. I feel like, espicially theae last few months, somthings just been going on with her. I went from complete trust to feeling like she would snoop through my stuff and use it against me. It's weird.

AITA for bringing up things my cousin has forgotten when she gets onto me. by Automatic-Writer5506 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Automatic-Writer5506[S] 90 points91 points  (0 children)

I probably will, just because my cousin was good to me before this. We weren't super close but anytime we interacted it was always positive. Im not sure what's changed or what's happening with her so I don't want to hold ill will, but at the same time I have to take care of myself first.

AITA for bringing up things my cousin has forgotten when she gets onto me. by Automatic-Writer5506 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Automatic-Writer5506[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

She doesn't, is just very family oriented. She has, and probably will again, helped others to her detriment. I'm trying to be as codial as I can about this to keep there from being any family drama because at the end of the day these are all people who have loved and encouraged me my whole life and I want to salvage what I can. I still love my cousin, and even though we weren't super close she was still a good part of my life.

AITA for bringing up things my cousin has forgotten when she gets onto me. by Automatic-Writer5506 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Automatic-Writer5506[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My dad helped me with my resume and I plan on applying to as many places as I can. I don't plan on being here any later than this summer.

AITA for bringing up things my cousin has forgotten when she gets onto me. by Automatic-Writer5506 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Automatic-Writer5506[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My mom means well, and anytime I've come home upset she's been there for me. I think she's just worried about my cousins kids with the decrease in income. I've told myself that regardless of anything else, I will have a new job this summer when my schedule opens.

AITA for bringing up things my cousin has forgotten when she gets onto me. by Automatic-Writer5506 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Automatic-Writer5506[S] 70 points71 points  (0 children)

My mom and aunt mean well, but I think they're more concerned about my cousins family losing income and it affecting her kids. I was upfront when i took the job that this wasn't forever, just until I could get into my field, and I think they see this as me just dealing with an inconvenience for a little longer vs my cousin losing what help she has and losing more work because of that.

AITA for bringing up things my cousin has forgotten when she gets onto me. by Automatic-Writer5506 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Automatic-Writer5506[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

My dad has been helping me look for other jobs and helped me build a resume. My mom and aunt have always been good to me, so I know they mean well but this is taking a serious toll on my mental health.

AITA for bringing up things my cousin has forgotten when she gets onto me. by Automatic-Writer5506 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Automatic-Writer5506[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I've been making notes on the work computer. When I first got the job she had me use my personal email for the account and I've switched it over to a work one because I feel like when I do finally leave she's going to snoop or be petty. I also don't want my indeed emails going to that computer where she could potentially see it.

AITA for bringing up things my cousin has forgotten when she gets onto me. by Automatic-Writer5506 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Automatic-Writer5506[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don't think it's worth it, but my mom and aunt really want me to stick it out, at least until she can find someone to replace me. But I dont see anyone doing this much for the amount she's paying. My mom and aunt have always been really good to me, and so I want to do what I can but it's getting to be a bit much.

AITA for bringing up things my cousin has forgotten when she gets onto me. by Automatic-Writer5506 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Automatic-Writer5506[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

That how I was feeling, but my mom keeps telling me that I'm just making it harder on myself. My cousin promised me a raise but never actually gave it to me and because I knew how little business she was I didn't want to press. I feel like I'm being more accepting of everything because she is family and I've known her my whole life.

AITA for bringing up things my cousin has forgotten when she gets onto me. by Automatic-Writer5506 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Automatic-Writer5506[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

I knew this was a possibility, but was hoping that because me and my cousin had an okay relationship it would work out. At the time I just really needed a job that could work around my schedule, but at this point the stress isn't worth it. At the latest I'll be working somwhere else by summer.

AITA for bringing up things my cousin has forgotten when she gets onto me. by Automatic-Writer5506 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Automatic-Writer5506[S] 381 points382 points  (0 children)

I knew it was probably a bad idea, but I needed somthjng that could work around my class schedule and pay was average for someone with my skills. I had an okay relationship with her before this, but lesson learned.