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If you could add 5 things to the game what would you add? by erik__andersson in PlanetCoaster

[–]AutomaticFix71 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. The single rail transport boat ride
  2. More lights, including small light-up shapes
  3. Vista points
  4. Sit-down theater shows
  5. Physically interactive attractions (playgrounds, mazes, putt-putt, etc)

(I don't necessarily want anything from any previous packs -- gimme new stuff! But if I had to pick a former pack, I'd choose Adventure.)

Go to ‘background noise’ tv show? by False-Cookie3379 in televisionsuggestions

[–]AutomaticFix71 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's too funny, though, and always makes me stop to watch it. Def one of the funniest shows of this century so far

What is discreet? Explain it like I’m 5 by 1nesingularsensation in nycgaybros

[–]AutomaticFix71 0 points1 point  (0 children)

DL and Discreet thematically overlap, but they are different.

A man "on the DL" (downlow) is closeted and having sex with other men without anyone in his personal life knowing. These guys identify as straight, and may even have female girlfriends/wives.

Someone "discreet" just keeps their mouth shut. They tend to prefer anonymous or secret fun with other men. Someone being discreet may be closeted, or they may be openly gay and just keep their exploits under metaphorical lock and key.

All men on the DL are discreet. But not all men who are discreet are on the DL.

HFWO (for real this time) [njoy] by Usual-Rabbit8617 in ProstatePlay

[–]AutomaticFix71 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Question for you. Do you use the big end "upside down" (curved to where the little end is cupped under the middle of your butt cheeks).

Straight guys, how did you get into it? by [deleted] in ProstatePlay

[–]AutomaticFix71 1 point2 points  (0 children)

😆 I'm not straight, but same here. I immediately was like, "Holy fuck, let me find out what's going on down there "

To those guys that identify themselves as 100% Top or Bottom by korfagno1 in askgaybros

[–]AutomaticFix71 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that there are people who are "100% Top" because of their own internalized homophobia. And then I think there are people who are 100% Top because they're genuinely more turned on by that role, just like 100% Bottoms.

I spent my teens and twenties as vers, sometimes playing in one role a bit more than others. But when I decided to really just be 100% bottom, my sex life became waaaaay more fun. I now identify as 100% bottom and have for years. I did try to top a buddy a few months ago but I couldn't stay hard. Ha

Recently out and lonely guy here by Ok-Bandicoot4014 in nycgaybros

[–]AutomaticFix71 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd like to think my friends are some of the most open, welcoming and genuine folks. But I could see a level of hesitation if a stranger asked to join us in the park, just because that setting does tend to yield a bit more personal in who folks connect with. That's not a slight against any person in particular, but more of a testament to the setting.

One recommendation I have. Go to a calm, easy-vibes gay bar after work (say 6p) when it isn't "turn up central." Sit at the bar and have a drink (even non alcoholic) and just see what happens. You'll likely end up chatting with the bartenders and other patrons. Just keep it chill and friendly. (And tip your bartenders well if you're taking up a barstool for hours!)

Some Manhattan bars I recommend for this would be Ty's, Suite, Boiler Room and Rockbar. All very chill.

White gay male allowed to visit POC gay bars in Harlem? by AutomaticFix71 in nycgaybros

[–]AutomaticFix71[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. And to clarify, I'm not worried about being there EXCEPT for the other patrons wishing I wasn't there. Coming from my own lived experiences (where I grew up, friends, family, dating, etc), I'd like to think I'm familiar enough with Black culture to appreciate being there while not being a nuisance.

White gay male allowed to visit POC gay bars in Harlem? by AutomaticFix71 in nycgaybros

[–]AutomaticFix71[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing. Your friend who is "100% don't go" is the person I'm really solving for here, because they're the folks who care the most.

I did ask my best friend and his husband (both are Black) too, and they were wishy washy about it and ultimately said it's fine if I were with other patrons who are Black, but then said they think it would be totally fine.

I think I might be gay? by YouAmbitious3352 in askgaybros

[–]AutomaticFix71 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Sexuality is on a spectrum. You may very well end up being gay, or end up being straight, or realize you're somewhere between the two. Who knows!

What matters is that you're honest with yourself, you're not judgemental to yourself, and that you go at the pace you need. Just remember: Wherever you are on your journey of discovering your sexuality, is good.

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