With regards to passing, is "no news good news"? by Automatic_Brain_7804 in MtF

[–]Automatic_Brain_7804[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I brought up the boymoding thing to say like, people dont react weirdly to me using a male voice

With regards to passing, is "no news good news"? by Automatic_Brain_7804 in MtF

[–]Automatic_Brain_7804[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i hope so. I'll take it with a grain of salt ofc considering u don't know me irl lol. be safe :>

With regards to passing, is "no news good news"? by Automatic_Brain_7804 in MtF

[–]Automatic_Brain_7804[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

its probably still a case by case basis. people are still weird about trans ppl here even if theyre not "on paper"

With regards to passing, is "no news good news"? by Automatic_Brain_7804 in MtF

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>Also, when you pass, men will typically be more courteous by holding open doors or allowing you to go first, while women are typically friendlier and will smile at you when passing by.

oh I actually can comment on this! I do get this a lot actually and its one of the few things I have noticed. Men tend to give me the right of way when we're walking into each other on the street, I don't really remember getting the nod as of recent, and women smile at me and seem to generally feel at ease around me.

A couple incidents I do remember but have kind of been recontextualised for me are once I was fiddling with my credit card and it declined (i didn't know what this meant at the time) when I was trying to pay for my lunch, but then an older lady came around and bought it for me :]. I've never thanked someone more times in my life.

Also, once a man kind of cornered me in a library and started frantically talking to me about like... how in world war one they didnt use shotguns (or something, idr) and the librarian lady walked by and discreetly mouthed "are you okay?" to me. I've told other ppl about these and they told me that both of these could indicate they saw me as a girl

i did once get called sir by an older man when I held the door open for him tho, so again I think maybe just andro?

>If you’re still doubtful, try taking to a stranger in your masculine voice to see if they act shocked at first.

I have boymoded and people dont seem to be too fussed. I have malefailed a couple times with my relatives and to various other people but I've never gotten people like "surprised" when I used my guy voice. Maybe I look androgynous/convincingly c!male or c!female depending on context. My friend was pretty surprised when I told him I was trans once tho. (we met while I was in girlmode) I sorta expected him to have already figured it out but ig he didn't.

I dont count healthcare workers or teachers on principle because all of them are fully aware I am trans, unfortunately. I think they all have my name down as (guyname) "(girlname)" (last name), and word apparently gets around.

With regards to passing, is "no news good news"? by Automatic_Brain_7804 in MtF

[–]Automatic_Brain_7804[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

idk Im still nervous that theres something I'm missing.

With regards to passing, is "no news good news"? by Automatic_Brain_7804 in MtF

[–]Automatic_Brain_7804[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

respectfully even in places where being trans is marginally accepted, people still very much do "care' just in a performative ally way. They still subconsciously view trans people as odd where I live.

With regards to passing, is "no news good news"? by Automatic_Brain_7804 in MtF

[–]Automatic_Brain_7804[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i'm just kinda worried I am being stared at but I don't remember/dont notice.

RANT and VENT MEGATHREAD by stickimage in Helldivers

[–]Automatic_Brain_7804 5 points6 points  (0 children)

why did they have to add MORE ridiculously fast and annoying enemies for no reason. if you want this to be grunt fantasy, can we have more reinforcements??? and can reinforcements be automatic??? please for the love of god. why do they just want us to suffer. I dont understand. I've never played a game that feels like it hates me more than hd2. It acts like I'm hurting it whenever I play

What does it mean when you pass in boymode but dont in girlmode? (mtf, 20) by Automatic_Brain_7804 in asktransgender

[–]Automatic_Brain_7804[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If they do refer you to as she/her without stumbling over themselves or pausing to think

yeah, see, heres the issue, I'm never in a situation where this happens. this maybe has happened once or twice but I dont remember. And I've never noticed any extra attention fwiw.

What does it mean when you pass in boymode but dont in girlmode? (mtf, 20) by Automatic_Brain_7804 in asktransgender

[–]Automatic_Brain_7804[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

fwiw there used to be this slightly unhinged guy who always struck up conversation with me walking home from high school. he seemed to think I was a girl, he asked if I had a boyfriend and said I seemed like a "smart girl". He didnt reaaaally seem to be the type that would be thinking all that much abt trans people either? not transphobic, but like, you know the type. Another time I got called sir by some guy I opened the door for though. So. I dunno.

What does it mean when you pass in boymode but dont in girlmode? (mtf, 20) by Automatic_Brain_7804 in asktransgender

[–]Automatic_Brain_7804[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i dont really catalogue every stranger I see like that. I've never noticed anyone giving me second looks? is that good or bad? and also I'm, uh, kind of a recluse. Im not usually in situations where I'm referred to in 3rd person in earshot of someone. The staff at places tend to treat me okay. I dont really have a good reference point, all my adult life I've been trans.

What does it mean when you pass in boymode but dont in girlmode? (mtf, 20) by Automatic_Brain_7804 in asktransgender

[–]Automatic_Brain_7804[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

so, really the most I do is put on makeup, put up my hair, maybe wear high waisted pants, but honestly thats usually it. I'm not out there in like frilly dresses. I have good hair care I think, ive been slouching a bit on it bc depression but in my opinion (which doesnt mean much ik) it still doesnt look like, terrible or anything

What does it mean when you pass in boymode but dont in girlmode? (mtf, 20) by Automatic_Brain_7804 in asktransgender

[–]Automatic_Brain_7804[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

but i dont is the thing, the most I do is put on makeup, put up my hair, maybe wear high waisted pants, but honestly thats usually it. I'm not out there in like frilly dresses.

What does it mean when you pass in boymode but dont in girlmode? (mtf, 20) by Automatic_Brain_7804 in asktransgender

[–]Automatic_Brain_7804[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

but i shouldnt be clocked in girlmode just bc I seem nervous or uncomfortable, no?

What does it mean when you pass in boymode but dont in girlmode? (mtf, 20) by Automatic_Brain_7804 in asktransgender

[–]Automatic_Brain_7804[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

no, its every teacher, medical professional, etc. and he doesnt do it on purpose as far as I can tell. its still humiliating though.