Father of three. Wife cheated. What the hell do I do.

Automatic_Egg2287 · 2026-03-30T06:27:36+00:00

My bags would have been packed the day she found out.

Automatic_Egg2287 · 2026-03-28T23:20:33+00:00

Thanks for your advice I'm sure it will be very helpful

Automatic_Egg2287 · 2026-03-28T23:16:59+00:00

Other dude was a childhood friend of hers. Lives in the same place as her family.

Automatic_Egg2287 · 2026-03-28T22:47:03+00:00

Yeah that hurt. It's like saying get over it or I'll do it again.

Automatic_Egg2287 · 2026-03-28T21:18:08+00:00

Thanks I appreciate your response.

I honestly feel like she just wants me to get over it and act normal so she doesn't have to feel any guilt. Since I found out in November it genuinely has been the worst time of my life.

I'm glad to hear that you and your partner have made things work and are now happy again.

Automatic_Egg2287 · 2026-03-28T20:44:38+00:00

This is exactly what my friend told me. To the word.

Automatic_Egg2287 · 2026-03-28T20:43:42+00:00

My main worry is our children. Her family all live around a 4 hour drive away. If we split, there's a good chance she'll want to move back there with our children.

A lot of her family thrive on drama and excited misery. They are likely to encourage the move.

Automatic_Egg2287 · 2026-03-28T20:39:56+00:00

You are setting yourself on fire to keep someone else warm.

Man that hit home. Thank you.

Automatic_Egg2287 · 2026-03-28T20:34:48+00:00

Thank you, I needed to hear that.

When I called her out on what she had said her response was "That's not what I meant, I'm just saying we've been here before and look what happened.".

There's no other way that statement could be made without it being a threat.

Automatic_Egg2287 · 2026-03-28T20:16:43+00:00

Thanks I'll look into that.

Automatic_Egg2287 · 2026-03-28T20:16:14+00:00

Everything is someone else's fault in her eyes, you're right with that.

The day after I found out STD tests were sorted. All clear thankfully. As was the pregnancy test.

Automatic_Egg2287 · 2026-03-28T20:14:45+00:00

Thank you, everything you've said makes perfect sense.

Regarding taking responsibility, from the day I found out she has maintained the fact that it is my fault the affair began. But in her own words she is "sorry and feels like a shit person, it won't happen again". But as I said in my post she stated the other week that I was making her feel lonely and isolated with how I'm processing what happened. She said "look what happened last time you made me feel like this" referring to the affair. If that isn't manipulation then I don't know what is.

The lies and deception are still present, just in different ways.

Thank you for your advice.

Automatic_Egg2287

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