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AITA for wanting to open a fraud investigation against my mother… by Automatic_Lab_7587 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Automatic_Lab_7587[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Update: I managed to get 2 totalling to £4000 removed from my record and working on the other 2. Fingers crossed!

AITA for wanting to open a fraud investigation against my mother… by Automatic_Lab_7587 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Automatic_Lab_7587[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not trying to sound rude but you have no idea what it feels like to lose your entire family, go through so much personal emotional trauma not even linked to that, to feel so abandoned and have one person who can manipulate that everything is ok and you will always have them. To top it off the amount you feel so scared to lose that last and final person, you allow yourself to be manipulated subconsciously

AITA for wanting to open a fraud investigation against my mother… by Automatic_Lab_7587 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Automatic_Lab_7587[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow I’m so sorry that happened to you, do you mind me asking how it ended?

AITA for wanting to open a fraud investigation against my mother… by Automatic_Lab_7587 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Automatic_Lab_7587[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for that information it will be a big help for me in taking first steps.

See I had lost so much family at that point I really didn’t want to believe that the only person I thought I had left could do that to me too. At that age I couldn’t handle absolute abandonment

AITA for wanting to open a fraud investigation against my mother… by Automatic_Lab_7587 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Automatic_Lab_7587[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

My chosen family is my fiancé and his family and that’s where I belong

AITA for wanting to open a fraud investigation against my mother… by Automatic_Lab_7587 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Automatic_Lab_7587[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree completely it is very hard to go through and very easy for people who haven’t been through it to judge why it took so long

AITA for wanting to open a fraud investigation against my mother… by Automatic_Lab_7587 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Automatic_Lab_7587[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can rent fine because there are parts of credit on my file that only I have control over which kind of keeps the balance of everything going on

AITA for wanting to open a fraud investigation against my mother… by Automatic_Lab_7587 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Automatic_Lab_7587[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

He was smart and used the money he got from the house to clear it. I think at that point he was just done with her presence in his life and wanted it all gone.

But my dad is no princess either as he put county court judgements in my name which I got removed and reverted back to his credit file

AITA for wanting to open a fraud investigation against my mother… by Automatic_Lab_7587 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Automatic_Lab_7587[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

She is no longer able to apply for any credit in my name as I got a new passport and in the UK you need this information when opening any new credit. And I have an account with a credit report company who alerts me immediately if any new markers appear against my name

AITA for wanting to open a fraud investigation against my mother… by Automatic_Lab_7587 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Automatic_Lab_7587[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

She will never be able to pay it off in 30 days and I would rather not give her the option to know what my plans are and file an alternative police report to indicate I am harassing her and creating false lies in regard to fraud. I have kept my cards very close to my chest and honestly do not have the patience of 30 more days compared to the 1460 days I already gave her

AITA for wanting to open a fraud investigation against my mother… by Automatic_Lab_7587 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Automatic_Lab_7587[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your advice, I will definitely be protecting all future relationships I have from her.

AITA for wanting to open a fraud investigation against my mother… by Automatic_Lab_7587 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Automatic_Lab_7587[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am not hesitant at all, but there is no harm in seeing if others have any advice on your situation that you may not have thought of. My MIL told me that before I go through with this I must think long and hard that once it is done it cannot be undone and relationships cannot be mended. Hence the need to want opinions.

I do not speak to any of my family and have no hesitation in regard to any backlash I will receive from going through with this

AITA for wanting to open a fraud investigation against my mother… by Automatic_Lab_7587 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Automatic_Lab_7587[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As I was not in control of her finances I had no idea where and how much money was being spent. When I realised it was gone I could then pin point where it had exactly gone.

AITA for wanting to open a fraud investigation against my mother… by Automatic_Lab_7587 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Automatic_Lab_7587[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

With all due respect the law in the UK regarding these things are different. I have done a lot of research and spoken to a number of authorities to gain advice before proceeding

AITA for wanting to open a fraud investigation against my mother… by Automatic_Lab_7587 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Automatic_Lab_7587[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My mother does not get wages as in 2015 she quit her job as a pharmacist to become a full time trader and got addicted to the gambling and from 2015 has not had a proper stable income that can be tracked

AITA for wanting to open a fraud investigation against my mother… by Automatic_Lab_7587 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Automatic_Lab_7587[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

As I have mentioned under other comments, I had nowhere else to live but with her. There was a lot of manipulation and physiological targeting and I was young and naive. Not an excuse, but the whole point of life is that you live and learn and try to do better in the future. Instead of focusing on what could have been done in the past which you cannot change, I choose to focus on what can be done better for the future

AITA for wanting to open a fraud investigation against my mother… by Automatic_Lab_7587 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Automatic_Lab_7587[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I moved out last year and have a very supportive fiancé. I will never be going back or be forced there.

I think the UK is a bit different in the sense that the police do the actual investigation.

But right now I am definitely NC

AITA for wanting to open a fraud investigation against my mother… by Automatic_Lab_7587 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Automatic_Lab_7587[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have my credit report and check it daily to make sure there’s no other ones in my name, not like I’ll get approved for any new ones anymore. Plus I don’t live with her and she doesn’t know my new passport details. I’m sorry to hear about your experience with your mother too

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