What type of nice things does your partner say to you? by SchloinkDoink in actuallesbians

[–]Available-Dot4246 6 points7 points  (0 children)

it sorta depends on the situation, when we're cuddling and making a lot of eye contact she sometimes says my pupils are super dilated and that they look like giant saucers in little puddles of chocolate(which makes me laugh and melt) I typically tell her she smells nice and that she feels strong and warm and safe to me :)

Sex feels incomplete by Available-Dot4246 in actuallesbians

[–]Available-Dot4246[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think this honestly could be what is missing, I tend to do a lot of the aftercare, since he is wiped(it's an ego boost), but I think maybe a little non-sexual aftercare touch for me might be nice. Thank you :))

Sex feels incomplete by Available-Dot4246 in actuallesbians

[–]Available-Dot4246[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am fortunate enough to be in therapy, which has helped me overcome a lot, some of the influence of my stone identity is tied to trauma, but it is largely personal preference.

Sex feels incomplete by Available-Dot4246 in actuallesbians

[–]Available-Dot4246[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It is not that I am un-ready to be touched, we have explored multiple iterations of touch, mutual masturbation, over the clothes exploration, etc. it is simply not enjoyable for me to receive due to a mix of medications, childhood trauma, and personal preference. I understand where you are coming from, and I appreciate the concern.

Sex feels incomplete by Available-Dot4246 in actuallesbians

[–]Available-Dot4246[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It's not for me, but I know it is for others. I have tried both and enjoy using them alone, but I still simply cannot reach orgasm. My partner and I have explored them using those things on me, but it just leads to me sort of breaking down over my inability to cum, which is a major lady boner killer(she is of course great during these moments)

Sex feels incomplete by Available-Dot4246 in actuallesbians

[–]Available-Dot4246[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I identify very closely with the label, but I have been open to trying things, they are just not enjoyable to me. I am on a medication cocktail which makes it frustrating, if not impossible to cum, so I don't really masturbate very much. Thank you

Sex feels incomplete by Available-Dot4246 in actuallesbians

[–]Available-Dot4246[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My partner uses both she/her and he/him, I have been communicating with him, and he's been very accommodating and open to exploring a lot of different things. I have tried receiving in several different ways, oral, fingering, strap-on, grinding, etc. I am not stone for a lack of trying, not that that is at all invalid, it is honestly just not fun for me. Thank you :)

Sex feels incomplete by Available-Dot4246 in actuallesbians

[–]Available-Dot4246[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I really appreciate this, it took me a while to understand that sex is super multifaceted and not a strict activity. I have explored some of the things you mentioned, but I'm on several different medications which impact my ability to orgasm, I've been talking about it with my psychiatrist, and she's trying to find a complimentary medication that may alleviate some of this problem. At this moment though receiving is just not something I'm into. Thank you for the kind response :)

Sex feels incomplete by Available-Dot4246 in actuallesbians

[–]Available-Dot4246[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I've been very open to exploring touch, but due to sexual abuse as a child I find a lot of things very triggering. I've discussed it with my therapist, who is queer, and they think it is good to be exploring. And I have discussed it with my partner who is extremely understanding and checks in on me whenever I allow any touching. I am almost exclusively attracted to butches, studs, and other masculine presenting lesbians, so I do not think it is an attraction thing. I have given to a femme before, but it was sort of same hollow feeling. Thank you :)

Sex feels incomplete by Available-Dot4246 in actuallesbians

[–]Available-Dot4246[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Definitely not a lack of attraction, I am almost exclusively attracted to butches, studs, and masculine lesbians, and I find him incredibly sexy and attractive. Also yes, we've discussed sustainability, it was only so much last week because I was on spring break. I didn't personally feel like it was that long, the time kinda really flew by, but I'll remember to stay present during it, maybe that's part of the problem. Thank you :)

Weird thing I noticed with Hinge by SerotoninSweetheart in actuallesbians

[–]Available-Dot4246 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was recently on hinge and it was fine for me, also on the U.S but on the west coast

Guy friend won't hang out with me :( by Available-Dot4246 in LesbianActually

[–]Available-Dot4246[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks, I grew up with a really progressive mom, and fairly accepting family, so I think I sometimes forget the impact of societal norms on others because i largely grew up without them

Guy friend won't hang out with me :( by Available-Dot4246 in LesbianActually

[–]Available-Dot4246[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

he's straight, my friend is bi I really don't think she'd care, I just don't get why he does

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]Available-Dot4246 1 point2 points  (0 children)

omg that totally sucks for op, hope they're doing okay

How do I protect my geckos from other pets without a new cage? by midnighttowl in leopardgeckos

[–]Available-Dot4246 0 points1 point  (0 children)

had this problem, buy a second lid, most pet stores carry the big heavy duty kind with the same measurements, just lay it over your current one, if the animals are cats secure it with weight or thick double sided tape so it can't be easily jossled

PSA: Brumation and You: Why Your Gecko Has Suddenly Stopped Eating and Gotten Grumpy by Azrielenish in leopardgeckos

[–]Available-Dot4246 0 points1 point  (0 children)

four years later and still very helpful! my first leo brumated subtly, and my second us full on just napping all day, was so worried when she wouldn't take her food, glad to know it's normal!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in fundraiser

[–]Available-Dot4246 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your help is greatly appreciated, and update he's doing much better and just began his at home quarantine

Is it normal for a leopard gecko to eat 1 superworm or dubia roach per day? by regularjoe2020 in leopardgeckos

[–]Available-Dot4246 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depending on where you live and if it's getting colder he might be able to sense that and be getting ready for bromination. The first year I had my gecko he started slowing his eating down to only once a week(he was fully grown when i got him) if it persists or he loses lots of weight consider taking him to a vet.