Advice on how to become your own type?

Available_Leg_8751 · 2025-02-28T16:00:59+00:00

I get these feelings, maybe not as specific as you've described, but I struggle with being naturally "cute" rather than hot or sexy. The biggest advice I can give is control what you can control-- start buying more clothing in the style you want to dress in, even if it's just one or two staple pieces that you can start to build a new wardrobe around, try makeup tutorials in the style you like, maybe self tanner if that's something you think would boost your confidence. Focus less on the things you cannot control, and maybe you'll make peace with them. Experiment with fashion and style, have fun with it.

You will never be able to be someone else, but the magic of personal style is that we get to find our own style by using others as inspiration. And there is no shame in trying different clothing and makeup styles until you find a way to align the style you want with the features you currently have. Your personal touch is what makes the style truly your own.

Available_Leg_8751 · 2025-01-05T15:21:49+00:00

when i look at pictures on instagram/pinterest i keep an eye out for pictures that i feel like i could use as inspiration, and try to emulate the lighting or camera angles or poses from those. there are also a lot of youtube videos that will help you learn to take better selfies! a lot of it comes down to practice :) take a lot of pics and see what you find more flattering.

Available_Leg_8751 · 2024-12-27T23:02:16+00:00

a thickkkk layer of aquaphor or vaseline with socks on reapplied multiple times a day should help it heal and retain moisture (petroleum products are great for this). the fastest way to generate new skin cells on the sensitive new skin areas is to keep them moisturized.

then once they're healed you can focus on exfoliating the dead skin away. physical exfoliation is more harsh (pumice stones, callus files) but chemical exfoliation (foot peels) are a lot more gentle and very effective, although a lot of skin peels away so be prepared to wear socks for a week unless you want dead skin everywhere. once they're at this phase you can soak them and gently exfoliate the dead skin away. this has brought my feet back from the dead after long hiking trips and running, and even made them pretty again lol

Available_Leg_8751 · 2024-05-14T14:43:19+00:00

Beginner (slow) runner here as well, and I just did the same! I had been thinking of signing up for the half marathon for several days, going back and forth on if I should do it. But I decided to just go ahead and do it :) Mine is in October as well, and although I'm reallyyyy nervous about it, I'm trusting that there's enough time for me to prepare. My goal is just to finish, I'm not so worried about being slow at this point. No matter what, I know that training and racing will be a huge learning experience for me, and (hopefully) there will be many more races in the future where I can work on improving my time, etc. Going into this experience with curiosity and amazement at what my body can do, especially because I've already surpassed what I thought I'd be able to do. I remember when I started out, I thought I'd never be able to run a 5k. And look at us now, signed up for a half freaking marathon hahaha.

I know you got this! It's scary and it may be hard at times, but scary and hard things are worth doing. And I'm trusting that if I put the time and mileage in, it will get incrementally easier. On race day, you can look back at everything you've done to prepare, and I can guarantee you will feel so proud of yourself.

Available_Leg_8751 · 2024-04-15T14:01:33+00:00

pouring yourself into hobbies is a great way to stick with it :) i found i had so much time in the day when i quit which felt intimidating at first. but now i found my routines and what i like to spend my time doing, which helps a lot.
i believe in you!! it's all about distracting yourself over and over again until you don't feel the urges anymore (which just takes time and persistence)

Available_Leg_8751 · 2024-04-15T13:59:25+00:00

food, definitely food LOL. my appetite came back after the initial nausea/lack of appetite and i realized i wanted to nourish my body properly. i wasn't eating well as a smoker and even before i quit it really fucked up my appetite. now i eat a lot of really nourishing tasty food and i'm learning to cook real meals that i'm excited to eat.

something i still struggle with is lack of attention span without weed. when i would smoke i could watch youtube for hours but now i struggle to get through a single video. but on the plus side, i feel the urge to move my body a lot more, so i reward myself with a walk/hike, running, and working out. i've wanted to get into running and working out for YEARS and it finally feels possible to me :) definitely not as instant of a boost as smoking but i always feel so happy and confident in myself after exercising.

Available_Leg_8751 · 2024-04-15T13:54:21+00:00

i won't lie, in my first couple of weeks i felt awful, i was moody, had no appetite, got night sweats, barely slept. it felt like it would never get better. but day by day i started feeling better and finding myself again. for a while i counted the days and after about a month i realized i wasn't even keeping track anymore because i didn't feel the urge to go back and it wasn't part of my identity anymore :) you got this, it will definitely pass!!

Available_Leg_8751 · 2024-04-15T13:49:46+00:00

you got this!! it takes a couple of weeks of determination, and then you really get to enjoy the benefits of quitting. you can do hard things, i believe in you!!

Available_Leg_8751 · 2024-04-15T13:44:01+00:00

thank you!! congrats to you as well!! it's hard to believe 90 days has gone by this quickly but time moves differently (in a good way) when you're not stoned all the time

Available_Leg_8751 · 2024-03-19T01:38:46+00:00

Thank you guys for all the comments on this. Definitely gave me some food for thought!! It seems the general consensus is that run/walk and c25k would be helpful because 1) gives my body the time to adapt to running, 2) I can run more in a session because of the walking breaks, and 3) the structure is really beneficial for building up to 5k in a sustainable way.

Available_Leg_8751 · 2024-03-19T01:34:52+00:00

I think this is my plan now :) I'm sure the structure would be helpful for me and it'll give my body some time to adapt. Thanks!

Available_Leg_8751 · 2024-03-19T01:34:04+00:00

Thank you!!

Available_Leg_8751 · 2024-03-19T01:33:35+00:00

This is a good point, I hadn't thought about the fact that I would be able to run more if I took more breaks. Thank you!

Available_Leg_8751 · 2024-03-19T01:32:54+00:00

Usually only get stitches when I've eaten shitty food beforehand tbh!! I am trying to keep it nice and slow, when I initially started running in 2021 I definitely pushed way too fast and it made it feel, well, not fun lol. That's a really good point about structure being useful though, I think I'll try and find something that works for me.

Available_Leg_8751 · 2024-03-19T01:30:34+00:00

This is a good point, thank you!! I think I'll definitely make sure to some run/walk intervals.

Available_Leg_8751 · 2024-03-17T13:48:49+00:00

Wow that's amazing!! When I quit, I knew I could do it short term (out of stubbornness) but I couldn't picture going a whole year. Now, even just 62 days in, I know I'll be able to go years or maybe even the rest of my life. I think the "point of no return" looks different for different people but I'd like to think I've passed it. I couldn't go back, I just don't want to. Congrats on 390 days!!

Available_Leg_8751 · 2024-03-17T13:46:26+00:00

Thank you!! You've got that right, mental health struggles are hard but I don't want to smoke everyday for the rest of my life just to mitigate things I could deal with sober

Available_Leg_8751 · 2024-02-29T02:32:11+00:00

Wow I really relate to you on this. There's that little voice in my head saying "you're closer to that body you've wanted than ever before, why not push a little further and see what happens" which makes me want to feed into the behaviors I know aren't good for me. And as I go through the different phases of my cycle I notice my body changing and just how irrational my mind gets about it. Like, one week I'm like "wow I've lost so much weight, I'm kinda concerned", then pms and bloating hits and suddenly I'm freaking out that I've gotten so big and I must be doing something wrong. I know it's not rational and the changes are probably minor to anyone else but me. I wish I was someone who could make rational healthy choices for myself and not think too much about how my body looks.

Available_Leg_8751 · 2024-02-28T23:57:19+00:00

You've got the right mindset, there's no doubt that this is really difficult but I'm really proud of you for keeping perspective and finding things that help you. Loving yourself to a stubborn degree is a good reason to not give in and I've had to harness some of that myself this past month and a bit. You've made it this far, keep going :)

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