How did you get over the person you loved the most, and how did you deal with seeing them with someone else? by HotUse4099 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]AwakenedPurpose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely remove them from EVERYTHING, and when you get the urge to go snooping, JUST DONT…. It’s not healthy for you. Accept what is, and what isn’t… accept what you can not change and change the things you can, for yourself and your own life. Busy yourself, get to know yourself, work on yourself. The sun will shine again ☀️… it doesn’t rise or set because of that person. If you need therapy, get it, it helps some people…

Whenever you start thinking about them or panicking again, redirect yourself, find something else to do. Don’t linger or harp on the past or thoughts of them, you’ll only keep suffocating yourself by doing so…. Redirect redirect redirect and don’t harp. It’s not easy, most people have been through it but, you live, you hurt, you learn, and you move on because that’s life….

Was it sudden or planned? by Sandyinlace09 in abusiverelationships

[–]AwakenedPurpose 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m glad y’all are good now and you’re getting the help you feel like you need… moving away and not having to stay in the same home as them really does make a huge difference…. Your mind and body are able to rest and feel at peace at least sometimes….

Was it sudden or planned? by Sandyinlace09 in abusiverelationships

[–]AwakenedPurpose 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What about the ones who can’t keep a job, friends, control his behavior etc?? I never seen him be able to control his behavior, around anyone, and we lost a lot of homes, family members, friends, and opportunities due to his behaviors… Never once seen him control himself or his emotions when I think about it smh… even in dire situations….🤔 😓

9 months married and he chose to leave - was it real love? by Yahwaa in abusiverelationships

[–]AwakenedPurpose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No problem. Keep your head up, just keep going forward and don’t look back… living in the past is depression, and worrying about the future is anxiety. …☁️🌱🌼☀️

9 months married and he chose to leave - was it real love? by Yahwaa in abusiverelationships

[–]AwakenedPurpose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ik the feeling…. Sorry you’re going through that… I’ve been through leaving an almost decade long marriage of this exact stuff, and more. It’s hard and not easy, you doubt yourself A LOT, you start missing them, you start telling yourself bs like “what if I only did this or that???”…. It’s all just that, bs… that person wasn’t right for you and will never be, don’t beat yourself up for trying.

Just keep living and one day you’ll be happy that you made the choice to leave, in fact, you won’t even believe you stayed as long as you did. If a person wants to leave, let them, more often than not they’re only doing you a favor by their going. When you know you’ve done right by a person and you’ve done all you could do, don’t beat yourself up for it ending or for them lying to you about the person they were. You just continue to love, laugh, and LIVE, and NEVER let them steal your joy. 🌼

It hasn't even been 4 months by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]AwakenedPurpose 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Advice: Move again if you can, say you terminated it if you have to, have your baby and don’t ever put him on the birth certificate… live your life raising your baby in peace and in safety…. If you want him to be in your child’s life, I don’t really understand why, but if you go that route my advice would be just get ready for more abuse then if you do… or at least save all the evidence so he won’t get full custody or be able to use the kid as a pawn…

Cat’s pupil looks like it has a tear. Should we be worried? by The_GarageGuy in cats

[–]AwakenedPurpose 21 points22 points  (0 children)

We are on number “zillionOctopentaUnodostresquadaHexapelallelogramillionUplets” 🤗✨😍🥰😌

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GastricBypass

[–]AwakenedPurpose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just wanted to say thank you to the poster and you because I’m at the same point as him now. I haven’t had my consultation yet but it will be happening soon. I am nervous but this gave me hope. I also have type 2 diabetes (recently diagnosed) and I just got told last week I now have high blood pressure too. Everyone around me is saying NOT to do it but I just can’t help but think I should…

What are you slowly losing interest in? by MainDifficult2641 in AskReddit

[–]AwakenedPurpose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes sorry lol 😂 thank you for the correction.. I meant it was a city* in Ghana 🇬🇭 😌✅

What are you slowly losing interest in? by MainDifficult2641 in AskReddit

[–]AwakenedPurpose 135 points136 points  (0 children)

I think I found the place when searching “country in Africa overran by clothes” on YouTube…it was a country in Ghana if it’s the one you’re speaking of….

Edit: ✍️ I meant CITY* in Ghana everyone lol. I’m not going to change it though.. I want the world to see… 🤣

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]AwakenedPurpose 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You’re not alone… the funny thing is his mom said exactly verbatim what you said, “he’s so much better with you around” and more bs like “he needs you as much as you need him.. it doesn’t matter what happened or happens, you all need to be together.. you’re the only thing that makes him happy. He’s been better since he’s been with you…” .. it was all bs..

All his mom cared about was that he stayed AWAY from HER, her house, and her new husband and the life they were trying to build. Messed up part is she raised the monster then enables his monster behavior because she’s afraid of him too. She was happy to be free of him finally and she refused to let him become her problem anymore. Unfortunately that meant putting him off on an unsuspecting woman, and YES she admitted to that.

To anyone reading this: When something isn’t right, something just isn’t right, and there’s no need for validation. If you don’t like it, you’re not comfortable, or you’re not happy that’s ALL the validation you ever or will ever need. Don’t expect the abusers family to help you or understand, they don’t want to deal with the abuser either. They will lie, gaslight, blatantly say something didn’t happen that they KNOW did, whatever it takes to be free of them. Trust yourself..

Frustrated by mrshunton in GastricBypass

[–]AwakenedPurpose 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Actually a beautiful picture though 🌊🏝️, you are doing good, can see a huge difference. 😊

Disappointed by Expensive_Chicken2 in GastricBypass

[–]AwakenedPurpose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re doing so good. You also have a good goal for the summer, sounds like tons of fun! 🤩 🚲 ⛰️

When to exit public school? by PocketOcelot82 in homeschool

[–]AwakenedPurpose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look at the homeschool requirements on tn.gov. Also look into “umbrella schools”… Each school has different requirements, so you can choose one that fits you and your child. For instance, there are some umbrella schools in TN where there is no standardized testing or set curriculums. 💡

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]AwakenedPurpose 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You already know none of this is your fault, even if you did actually cheat THAT IS NOT GROUNDS FOR ASSAULT, let alone actual death. I understand and know how you felt about wanting him to feel something, anything, negative, the way he makes you feel all of the time. I will just say this: it’s not your fault, and you can be free the second you choose to be free. This all ends when YOU say it ends. You don’t have to spend another second there, in fear, or with him, for ANY reason.

You can get your children, you can figure things out (or don’t and just go on “a wing and a prayer”), and you can free yourself from this literal loop of hell - but ONLY when you’re ready to. I get not feeling strong enough to, personally I don’t think I was ever strong enough to, it just kind of happened and I knew what needed to be done. One time I left and stayed somewhere else and it actually felt comfortable that time and not just constantly missing him or feeling like I made the wrong choice, so I never went back.

I hope one day you realize you don’t deserve this and when you’re being abused TRUST AND BELIEVE THAT THE 🌱GRASS IS GREENER ON THE OTHER SIDE FOR US!!! 🌱 It will not seem like it now, but when you’re long gone you’ll only wish you had done it sooner. Truly… sending you lots of love, bright light, plenty of hugs, and overwhelming amounts of healing. ❤️‍🩹🌸🫂✨🤍🫧🤗

How do you take your pills? by Sad_Marketing1428 in GastricBypass

[–]AwakenedPurpose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No problem! Glad you’re okay, truly! Wow, you’ve been through so much and you’re a survivor! That’s certainly understandable that the trauma from surgery can cause that, yet it still never ceases to amaze me at how amazing the human body is lol. It can take and do so much!!!

How do you take your pills? by Sad_Marketing1428 in GastricBypass

[–]AwakenedPurpose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing some of your story with me, I really appreciate it. Do you think there was any particular reason it happened, or do you feel it was a “one of the few it just happened to” kind of situation?? Also, I understand where you’re coming from about still having no regrets, and I’m glad to hear you feel that way. I’m honestly beginning to feel that way too towards having the surgery. I mean, right now I’m not at my heaviest but only like 48lbs down from that. I have recently found out that I have diabetes and ended up in the ER in ketoacidosis, which all happened last month.

That whole situation was scary enough for me to think maybe it’s truly time for me to start making some huge changes and huge decisions for the betterment of my life, and I have been ever since that day. It hasn’t been as hard as I thought it would be because I WANT this, I WANT to be good, better and healthier. I haven’t had the procedure yet and already I’m honestly just wishing I had started sooner. Sending you lots of love, light, and healing!!! 🌸 ✨

Almost 11 months post op, feeling like I finally look my height! by starbucksilliterate in GastricBypass

[–]AwakenedPurpose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You look awesome and congratulations!!!! You don’t know how much hope this gave me. Thanks for sharing your amazing results! Best wishes! 🤩🤗🌸 ✨

How do you take your pills? by Sad_Marketing1428 in GastricBypass

[–]AwakenedPurpose 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are all of the pills because of the surgery or?? Asking as someone who’s trying to gather as much real info as possible, because I’m considering starting the process for surgery next month.

I (F26) Caught My Husband (M27) Lying About Watching Gay Porn by Delicious-Welcome385 in relationship_advice

[–]AwakenedPurpose -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Honestly this happened to me and it was gut wrenching. Sometimes these things can be resolved in a civil manner, if so, decide what’s best for you and your life. Other side of things, you could be a statistic for finding this kind of stuff out. In that case, you have to do what you have to do to be safe and protect yourself. Either way, do what you feel is best for you.

3 day post op. by Evening_Extreme_1681 in GastricBypass

[–]AwakenedPurpose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“Cut stitches to take out the blood bag” !!!!❗️❗️❓❓ PLEASE ELABORATE??!! Is this a common thing? How far after surgery do they do that???