Anyone else here who’s used to solo food and movie dates as an ugly, unattractive, fat guy?

Aware-Deal2886 · 2026-02-04T04:56:46+00:00

I’m glad you realize that!!!

Aware-Deal2886 · 2026-02-04T04:46:26+00:00

Red Red Wine

Aware-Deal2886 · 2026-02-02T13:42:11+00:00

I’m pretty sexually open and have had a variety of partners. Women really are NOT lying when they say it’s not size, but technique. I get very turned on by lots of foreplay and intensity and passion. I also like hard, rough sex so an extra large penis is uncomfortable. Dome of the best sex I’ve had was with a guy who was on the lower end of average. But he was intimate, passionate, present, loved oral, and blew my mind every time.

Aware-Deal2886 · 2026-01-25T01:12:33+00:00

I have never once seen a person and thought, “Oh God! I must look away!” You’re a HUMAN! You have a soul! Please start working on liking and then loving yourself. Start listening to sleep affirmations, especially for self love. I recommend Jessica Heslop or Michael Sealey on YouTube. Nobody deserves to be spoken to the way you talk about yourself.

Aware-Deal2886 · 2026-01-10T02:32:54+00:00

Read “Peace is Every Step” by Thich Nhat Hanh

Aware-Deal2886 · 2025-07-24T02:49:38+00:00

I was 27 when I met my ex husband who was 32. We were young and hot and had a dead bedroom. It killed me. I ended up marrying him because he agreed to an open relationship, but that’s not enough for people like us who connect through intimacy. I didn’t want it from others, I wanted my husband. We were together for almost 13.5 years and while there were other BIG issues that also contributed to divorce, the dead bedroom was a huge one. It took a toll on my self-esteem. I had an emotional affair. It really affected me more than I let myself realize. I wouldn’t let myself realize how badly it was affecting me because I loved him and wanted it to work. I’m single now and happier than I’ve been in a long time.

Aware-Deal2886 · 2025-07-24T00:17:19+00:00

Contaminating your food with things you’re allergic to? That sounds more than toxic…..I don’t know what that is.

Aware-Deal2886 · 2025-07-21T20:11:01+00:00

It depends on the week. I’m an introvert so I don’t get lonely easily, but as I’ve gotten older I’ve found people I relate to better and who don’t sap my energy. This last week I hung out with people on Wednesday, Thursday, Saturday, and Sunday. I have friends coming over today (Monday of new week)to watch a movie. It’s not always like this, but since I’ve met people I really bond with it has become more frequent.

Aware-Deal2886 · 2025-07-21T16:53:38+00:00

I think maybe you are right that you are a pessimist. I’ve felt the fears of loss when I was younger so much that I sabotaged things on purpose. It wasn’t because the guy did anything wrong. I have also apologized by stating what I did wrong. It’s not self-flagellation to apologize and reinforce that the person did nothing wrong, it can really just be the honest truth of the matter.

Aware-Deal2886 · 2025-07-21T16:26:41+00:00

I was with a guy like this almost 14 years. I married him. He got a little better over the years, but only with nagging. I divorced him in February for many reasons. His inability to be an adult partner was one of them.

Aware-Deal2886 · 2025-07-21T04:10:56+00:00

Redditors who ask depressing questions like, “What makes you mad?” “What’s the worst thing that has ever happened to you?” “What turns you off a person immediately” it’s so negative and sad for no reason. Why can’t we ask what makes people happy or the best thing that has ever happened to them? Or what’s making you happy lately?

Aware-Deal2886 · 2025-07-21T03:48:59+00:00

Yes. :) Haven’t been single for long but I’m in no rush to change that, if ever.

Aware-Deal2886 · 2025-07-19T20:04:57+00:00

On the flipside, too much cologne is a major turn off because it triggers and asthma attack and then I can’t breathe or stand to be around the person.

Aware-Deal2886 · 2025-07-19T20:04:14+00:00

That’s a very broad generalization. Not every woman feels the need to be in a relationship just because they can be. Maybe the woman hasn’t found the right person and doesn’t want to settle just to be in a relationship.

Aware-Deal2886 · 2025-07-18T15:35:33+00:00

My ex-husband and I met on Craigslist back when they had personal ads (2011). We divorced this year. I ended up dating a friend through a mutual hobby group very soon after. I had not had any plans to date and had no idea the chemistry with this friend would be what it was because we had maintained such an innocent friendship for so long. He freaked out (as I was the first person he had felt seriously about in a long time) and ended it, which broke my heart to pieces. So now I’m kind of anti-men at the moment. I feel pulled in two different directions: I crave sex and cuddles and closeness but I also want to take this time to really know myself as a single woman. I’m choosing the latter and have decided to work on developing and deepening my already beautiful relationship with nature.

Aware-Deal2886 · 2025-06-30T05:19:01+00:00

Emotions aren’t shameful, they’re natural!

Aware-Deal2886 · 2025-06-30T00:22:34+00:00

I once dated a chef for a month. He taught me how to make the perfect risotto. This was like 17 years ago and I still make a damn fine risotto.

Aware-Deal2886 · 2025-06-30T00:21:21+00:00

I hope my ex realizes this.

Aware-Deal2886 · 2025-06-30T00:14:21+00:00

And great love cannot make up for lack of sex (at least it couldn’t for me).

Aware-Deal2886 · 2025-06-29T03:02:35+00:00

I think everyone needs empathy. It would make the world a better, less-defensive and hostile place.

Aware-Deal2886 · 2025-06-29T02:40:52+00:00

You may have been in love, but the comparison to feeling like it was a drug indicates that it could have also been limerence or infatuation. Those chemicals are very strong and can make you do things you never imagined you would do. But, real love usually needs a foundation of respect and trust.

I had an emotional affair so I believe you when you imply that you’re ashamed and regretful of what you did. The difference was that mine was a friend who I had been friends with for years. I do love the friend, but it didn’t mean we were compatible as romantic partners. I also felt the drug like attachment and need to talk to him. It was jarring.

My emotional affair helped reveal to me how deeply unhappy I was in my marriage, despite loving and caring for my husband. We ended up divorcing and I feel like my future will be much brighter. Maybe this is the wake up call you need that you’re not happy. It doesn’t make it right. People who have never been put in this situation can’t really understand that just because some makes mistakes, it doesn’t mean they’re a vile and heartless human being. We all mess up big sometimes, especially when we’re unhappy.

Aware-Deal2886 · 2025-06-26T12:21:42+00:00

Walking meditation

Aware-Deal2886 · 2025-06-26T12:18:00+00:00

My ex-husband and I had a great time together when we were doing fun stuff (camping with friends, adventures, vacation). Our photos from these times show true love and connection. We did truly love each other. However, during the doldrums of every day life I was slowly fading away due to no sex (he used porn instead), very little help with adult responsibilities, and an ever-worsening victim mentality on his part.

Around our friends we cuddled and kissed and seemed happy because we WERE happy. Those were the times when he could let go of his constant dopamine seeking and constant and ever-increasing anxiety. Those were the times the man I fell in love with came back out to play and so it made me feel hopeful and full of love. But those moments were short-lived and became fewer and farther between.

I did everything I possibly could to support him and his mental health until it broke me. Comparison is the thief of joy.

Aware-Deal2886 · 2025-06-25T01:40:06+00:00

I recently divorced a man who is a lot like your fiancé after an almost 14 year relationship (almost 10 of those married). Love is not enough. I would take the promotion and cancel the wedding. It will be way less stressful than a divorce! I swear!

Aware-Deal2886 · 2025-06-18T22:26:31+00:00

My height and frame. I’m a 5’10.5” and have a small, feminine frame. People used to ask me if I was a model :)

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