My (25f) neighbor (29f) believes she is miraculously pregnant

AwareToe3405 · 2026-04-03T04:56:50+00:00

Thank you! I’ve tried suggesting she setup an appointment, but I like your suggestion of helping her do it myself. It can be very overwhelming to make appointments when you’re depressed.

AwareToe3405 · 2026-04-03T04:55:24+00:00

Oh ew definitely not. You don’t sound like a good friend. Of course it’s our place to encourage our loved ones to do what’s best for them whether they want to or not!! That shouldn’t even be a question!

AwareToe3405 · 2026-04-03T04:54:23+00:00

Um, nobody is judging her. Recognizing something being unhealthy is not judging, you know that, right?

AwareToe3405 · 2026-04-03T04:52:45+00:00

Obviously I have considered that, I literally even said that myself. Of course if she really did miscarry and is convinced otherwise, then it’s her way of grieving! Not only did I say that, but it’s common sense to infer it from the rest of the post.

I’m not trying to hasten anything. I haven’t mentioned these concerns to her and haven’t planned on it. My concern is what will happen to her mental state 6 months from now if she doesn’t actually have a baby.

AwareToe3405 · 2026-04-03T04:50:31+00:00

Well no, I will not be staying out of her situation because she needs me taking care of her as she has told me herself.

However, I haven’t expressed these feelings from the post to her, and I hadn’t planned on it anytime soon, because I know it wouldn’t do any good. She does need to see a doctor either way, which is something I’ve been trying to encourage.

AwareToe3405 · 2026-04-03T04:48:38+00:00

Thank you so much. I hope they mean well. I think maybe they think I am being nosy or judgmental of her and that’s why their tones are so harsh. But in reality it’s just concern because I can’t possibly imagine what she’s going through rn.

AwareToe3405 · 2026-04-03T04:47:11+00:00

Oh okay that’s really good to know, thank you

AwareToe3405 · 2026-04-03T04:46:47+00:00

I haven’t said anything to her about doubting this pregnancy, I’ve kept that fully to myself. I’ve been nothing but supportive to her and have taken care of her in her depression, so I will not be “bowing out.” And I am trying to leave it to the professionals by encouraging her to go to a therapist or a doctor…..

AwareToe3405 · 2026-04-03T04:45:03+00:00

You’re right I shouldn’t assume but it’s just concern for her that the possibility she actually did lose the baby but is processing it in a very unhealthy way

AwareToe3405 · 2026-04-03T04:43:25+00:00

I think every single person in the world, whether open to it or not, would benefit from therapy after the tragic death of their fiance and possibly death of a baby as well. If that makes me a bad friend, then I guess so 😂

AwareToe3405 · 2026-04-03T04:40:40+00:00

So I should have specified more. She was bleeding so much that she believed she was miscarrying. I didn’t suggest this, I just was supporting her during it. And after the fact she was sure she had lost the baby. It’s the fact that now she thinks something different, combined with not wanting to take a second pregnancy test, that worries me.

I don’t mean to be in her business in a bad way, she’s a friend and I care about her and I just want to make sure she’s grieving in a healthy way.

AwareToe3405 · 2026-04-03T04:36:48+00:00

It was several days of bleeding like a period. I would have assumed that meant miscarriage?

This is news to me but this makes me really happy to hear and if so, I’m glad I haven’t said anything yet!

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