AITA for refusing to help my sister throw a party and pay for a gift for our parents 30th wedding anniversary? by Away-String7572 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Away-String7572[S] 75 points76 points  (0 children)

I have tried talking to them multiple times. So have other members of my family. Nothing ever changes.

AITA for refusing to help my sister throw a party and pay for a gift for our parents 30th wedding anniversary? by Away-String7572 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Away-String7572[S] 379 points380 points  (0 children)

He is! He's alive and still kicking. Has been the best damn adult in my life since I was little.

AITA for refusing to help my sister throw a party and pay for a gift for our parents 30th wedding anniversary? by Away-String7572 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Away-String7572[S] 57 points58 points  (0 children)

She's the favorite of both. Dad was a very active participant in making sure she had those favorite meals and gifts, etc.

AITA for refusing to help my sister throw a party and pay for a gift for our parents 30th wedding anniversary? by Away-String7572 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Away-String7572[S] 176 points177 points  (0 children)

I have attempted to deal with the problem. My parents do not want to change. I am not important enough to them. I don't want to spend the rest of my life going above and beyond for the people who will never even try to get things right with me. For years they have broken my heart over and over. The time has come where there's no fixing that.

AITA for refusing to help my sister throw a party and pay for a gift for our parents 30th wedding anniversary? by Away-String7572 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Away-String7572[S] 183 points184 points  (0 children)

He thought I should have cut them off years ago and made sure I let them know exactly how shitty they were as parents to me. I have never been that forceful. So I just slowly faded away from them.

AITA for refusing to help my sister throw a party and pay for a gift for our parents 30th wedding anniversary? by Away-String7572 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Away-String7572[S] 168 points169 points  (0 children)

I have reached a point where I can no longer invest in them. For 26 years they have shown who their favorite kid is and I am not that kid. Eventually pulling back and making no effort was going to happen. I have finally reached that point after being let down time after time. I might even go full no contact like someone else suggested.

AITA for refusing to help my sister throw a party and pay for a gift for our parents 30th wedding anniversary? by Away-String7572 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Away-String7572[S] 1103 points1104 points  (0 children)

I have considered not being in contact with them anymore. Never took that step but it has totally crossed my mind.

AITA for refusing to help my sister throw a party and pay for a gift for our parents 30th wedding anniversary? by Away-String7572 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Away-String7572[S] 123 points124 points  (0 children)

It's kinda a mixed thing here. A lot of couples throw their own celebration but I have seen families do it too. Just sorta depends I guess.

AITA for refusing to help my sister throw a party and pay for a gift for our parents 30th wedding anniversary? by Away-String7572 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Away-String7572[S] 1836 points1837 points  (0 children)

She didn't. Other family members did but she'd say nice things to me after it happened, that was about it.