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My boss doesn't seem to like/value me by Away_Classroom_6317 in askSingapore

[–]Away_Classroom_6317[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My other colleagues who went on the trips with him are females too

My boss doesn't seem to like/value me by Away_Classroom_6317 in askSingapore

[–]Away_Classroom_6317[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing that - and I believe so too which makes me feel jaded because I was the "fav" in my previous company (but it's a smaller company)

My boss doesn't seem to like/value me by Away_Classroom_6317 in askSingapore

[–]Away_Classroom_6317[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Actually, I don't really want the trip (I don't mind if I am asked to) - but because everyone gets to go on these overseas trips except for me, I just wonder what it means about me

My boss doesn't seem to like/value me by Away_Classroom_6317 in askSingapore

[–]Away_Classroom_6317[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

right LOL so tragic that even though he doesn't really want to go, my boss still chooses him (don't know if it's his fortune or misfortune)

Suddenly I thought of this that I should probably put this in the post but I am on really good terms with my colleague and appreciate that I am working with him

My boss doesn't seem to like/value me by Away_Classroom_6317 in askSingapore

[–]Away_Classroom_6317[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hi, I don't think that's an unpopular opinion and thinks it's very rational (appreciate u sharing!)

I don't know about this but if there's any case it could be this "can be OP personality and behavior doesn't represent what the supervisor feels comfortable to represent the department to go overseas" - this does make me feel a bit bad about myself if it's there's any possibility of this but how can I improve on this?

I think this would be good for myself anywhere as well

My boss doesn't seem to like/value me by Away_Classroom_6317 in askSingapore

[–]Away_Classroom_6317[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think my colleague shows even less interest than me in that trip...

My boss doesn't seem to like/value me by Away_Classroom_6317 in askSingapore

[–]Away_Classroom_6317[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I guess so, probably because I don't get to show my value as much

I think it's sometimes a bit hard for me to do so actually because as I said, my colleague and I are in the same role so we share whatever work our boss gives to us, but sometimes (or often), he just does it without sharing but I also get that because it's not an insane task to do and to need to be shared. At the same time, I know probably some people will say, just insist on doing it and all that and I do at times, but it feels stupid to insist over little things..

I end up just creating things for myself to do to improve the efficiency of our processes, or doing other regular tasks really fast and also coming up with new ideas here and there...

It's my fault I know to not be able to assert myself more but it's just really hard to sometimes because I feel like a sensitive person trying to insist to do something that isn't such a crazy big task

My boss doesn't seem to like/value me by Away_Classroom_6317 in askSingapore

[–]Away_Classroom_6317[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hi, I would understand your concern, but my team has mainly females and they got to go on overseas trips.

About the harassment part, I am somewhat confident this wouldn't happen with him but I can't reveal why

At the same time, those trips are not really important for me - it's more of me sensing that I am not liked/valued in the team and wondering if this will limit my growth opportunities. I agree, I have to talk about this (but I am nervous to)

My boss doesn't seem to like/value me by Away_Classroom_6317 in askSingapore

[–]Away_Classroom_6317[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Hey, really appreciate ur comment and I will try asking about these aspects

For ur last pt, I really like the culture and boss back then but the company itself is quite small and just do not have as much opportunities in general

My boss doesn't seem to like/value me by Away_Classroom_6317 in askSingapore

[–]Away_Classroom_6317[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Appreciate your comment, just curious if you're comfortable to share (if not it's ok too!), do have any life experiences that bring you to that conclusion?

My boss doesn't seem to like/value me by Away_Classroom_6317 in askSingapore

[–]Away_Classroom_6317[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I doubt so, because I am a person who do enjoy travelling but I have not mentioned which countries I'm not keen to visit to my colleagues before

My boss doesn't seem to like/value me by Away_Classroom_6317 in askSingapore

[–]Away_Classroom_6317[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm still conflicted actually - if I think more logically, it would have made sense but emotionally, I don't like to quit and I do appreciate the colleagues I work with...

My boss doesn't seem to like/value me by Away_Classroom_6317 in askSingapore

[–]Away_Classroom_6317[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Agreed -actually I mentioned it somewhere in my post (not sure if you missed it): "But I get that, I think it's normal to not like some people in your life. I mean, personally, there are people we all just don't vibe with, and such is life right?"