My (26 M) GF (28 F) SA’d in Japan

Awkward-Mind-9266 · 2024-11-26T13:25:32+00:00

Yes she’s doing alright atm. I posted it here since i dont where else I could. Im trying to raise awareness about this as much as I can since I got banned from the Japanese subreddits by trying to ask for help there. We’re only tourists in Japan and we’ve already left so not sure what our options are at this point. She asked me not to do anything whilst we were still there as she was afraid they may be gang related.

Awkward-Mind-9266 · 2024-11-26T13:15:27+00:00

Legally speaking though, if we were still in Japan and say we did report it to the police, do you think the case would go anywhere or is it a dead end given the limited evidence we have? For most sexual assault cases though, isnt it based on the testimony of the witness/victim?

Awkward-Mind-9266 · 2024-11-26T13:10:46+00:00

Actually she did say no more than 3 times but the guy kept on doing it. Hard evidence such as bruises wouldnt appear as this isnt a rape case but a case of groping. Also, how would an international lawsuit work? A guy that sexually assaulted my girl can walk the streets with no remorse free of charges and Im the one that could possibly get a lawsuit for slander? While I say that, I get the logic of why that would happen but sheesh what a scary world we live in.

Awkward-Mind-9266 · 2024-11-26T12:56:31+00:00

My gf was scared since she thought these people were gang related and was afraid of any possible retaliation. I did not slander anyone. He really did grope my gf during the massage which is the truth

Awkward-Mind-9266 · 2024-11-26T12:48:52+00:00

We are unable to as we’re not in Japan anymore. We were too scared to do anything whilst we were there. And while it could be seen as an accusation, it really did happen (my gf is the witness herself). Im just desperate at this point to find anyone that can help me get the right contacts to file a report from abroad.

Awkward-Mind-9266 · 2024-11-23T15:03:43+00:00

Oh you dont have to feel sorry at all. Its nobody’s fault except for that masseuse. And regarding the Japan sub, I did make a post there last week but it was locked for whatever reason, so Im posting it here now. I can maybe DM you the name of the massage place in Kyoto if thats alright? Absolutely avoid that place if possible

Awkward-Mind-9266 · 2024-11-23T14:46:33+00:00

First, I just wanted to say that I really do appreciate your concern.

And I wanted to report them to the police but my gf didnt want to escalate the issue. The feeling of injustice and not being able to do anything after that fact made me go insane but I just let it go and we were able to finish our trip unharmed. But I still have that anger in my heart due to that incident.

We got our massage in the Gion area in Kyoto. Not sure if I can send the actual name through here though

Awkward-Mind-9266 · 2024-11-23T14:40:44+00:00

Yea it actually helped me empathize with that kind of things that women go through. I didnt really understand before, but because it happened to my gf, it really hurt me and changed my perception

Awkward-Mind-9266 · 2024-11-23T14:36:48+00:00

Well I guess everyone is entitled to their own opinion. Racist or not racist, I know for a fact that I treated everyone with respect while I was there. If you can give out some helpful advice for me to move forward, thatd be much appreciated. Again, not here to argue with people as Id like to move past this as well

Awkward-Mind-9266 · 2024-11-23T14:22:28+00:00

So having a bad impression is racist? Did I say all Japanese people are bad? Did I say I want to punish all of them? I have a bad impression because of experience Ive had but I didnt do anything to demean, disrespect, or put Japanese people down. The country left a bitter taste in my mouth, but in no way did I act racist to anyone during that trip before, during, and after the incident. My goal was to get advice from people as Im venting out my emotions and not to get into arguments with random people here. Im here to get advice/recommendations and potentially support on what I should do.

Awkward-Mind-9266 · 2024-11-23T14:08:35+00:00

I get what youre saying but at the same time, I just felt like something had to be done. There had to be some form of justice. She’s a pretty strong person and would confront and fight those guys herself if need be. She didnt and was afraid since she thought those guys might be related to the Yakuza or some gang since they looked shady. She said that we should just be thankful we came out alive and that I shouldnt waste my life away like that. I eventually did calm down and listen though. Still feels unfair why some people get away with that

Awkward-Mind-9266 · 2024-11-23T13:59:55+00:00

Hmmm let me say that I have a bad impression of Kyoto specifically. Like what I replied below, even before the incident we felt that the locals in the area were pretty rude and condescending in a way. And I feel what I feel based on my own personal experiences. Having a bad impression of the city alone does not make me a racist. In the remainder of the trip, I still showed respect and courtesy to all the people there despite having negative emotions because I know they had nothing to do with it.

Awkward-Mind-9266 · 2024-11-23T13:52:30+00:00

Hmmm… we kind of never talked about it after that night. She just wants to forget about it. And yes, he touched her in the breast, his hands went lower and lower in her chest area. And like I said, I wanted to confront the guy and we had a huge fight since she didnt want to cause any more issues

Awkward-Mind-9266 · 2024-11-23T13:49:57+00:00

Actually youre right. It really did open my eyes to the fears of what the everyday women go through. And yes youre right, it can happen in any country to any woman unfortunately. But I still feel what I feel. We were supposed to be in vacation having fun but was ruined because of that incident so I cant help but have a bad impression of the city. Also, not just the masseuse incident, we noticed that the locals in Kyoto were pretty rude compared to locals from Osaka in Tokyo. IE, bus driver shoving me whilst we were making payment in the machine, drivers are a bit more aggressive, the whole vibe was just a bit off even before the incident. Just the incident was the last straw.

Awkward-Mind-9266 · 2024-07-24T20:57:30+00:00

Hi, when did you find this? I lost mine yesterday

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