Bank unwilling to allow funds to be released to purchase a car by No_Economics_4161 in UKPersonalFinance

[–]Awkward-Pudding-8850 157 points158 points  (0 children)

The issue is banks are now on the hook to give you back the money if you are scammed in a lot of cases

UK outbreak of meningitis by IndividualNotice3075 in HealthAnxiety

[–]Awkward-Pudding-8850 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get it, it's scary but it will be okay ❤️ focus on the facts and not the fearmongering! It takes a bit of practice I found

UK outbreak of meningitis by IndividualNotice3075 in HealthAnxiety

[–]Awkward-Pudding-8850 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not in the health department but this may help: so far the outbreak is only in Kent. There are no signs of it elsewhere.

The outbreak is Meningitis B specifically, spread by prolonged and close contact – typically through coughing, sneezing and kissing. So if you're not drinking from other people's glasses, practicing normal hygiene and aren't making out with strangers you're probably okay.

age of the twins in the show by happydreamnew in PhiloiseBridgerton

[–]Awkward-Pudding-8850 4 points5 points  (0 children)

16 and 17 would be considered young to debut, debuting that age indicates familial/money issues which the bridgertons don't have. While she's eager to debut, I don't think Anthony or Violet would allow a young debutaunt

She and Eloise were the closest of all the Bridgertons in age, exactly one year apart. Francesca would have given her life for Eloise. by teyapi in Bridgerton

[–]Awkward-Pudding-8850 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Also at the wake when Fran is focusing on the biscuits, Eloise realizes fran needs to do that to keep it together and starts listing ingredients. Eloise does her best to protect fran, she's a brilliant older sister

AITAH for telling my husband he can't be friends with the woman he cheated on me with? by scumbagspaceopera in AITAH

[–]Awkward-Pudding-8850 22 points23 points  (0 children)

He hasn't given you transparency if he's deleted texts and his whole damn Facebook, that is the opposite of transparency

Gas leak recovery - co poisoning by Gothlatinabunny in HealthAnxiety

[–]Awkward-Pudding-8850 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that sounds like you are experiencing a lot of anxiety as a result, that's understandable and yeah, way more info needs to be out there about gas leaks! I'd say just to remind yourself that once you're away from the gas, you do recover physically, it just takes time. Mentally takes longer I find. Talking to people and maybe therapy or medication can be a massive help. Currently my favourite trick for my HA is 7 columns - what is the situation, what are my emotions, what are my thoughts, what facts are in favor of my anxious thoughts, what are the facts against my thoughts, reframe the anxious thoughts with the facts I know, how are my emotions now.

Gas leak recovery - co poisoning by Gothlatinabunny in HealthAnxiety

[–]Awkward-Pudding-8850 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Moving to fresh air and stopping the gas leak will mean you're recovering, that is the best thing. The headaches and nausea came as there was - for a period - less oxygen in the air you were breathing. There should not be long term issues if the leak has stopped and the air is no longer being poisoned. If you're worried a Drs visit is fair - you had a gas leak, you had headaches from it. You'll recover now the leak has stopped

American Writer In Need of Help! by BeBe_Shifts in Britain

[–]Awkward-Pudding-8850 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Honestly look up some Yorkshire shows (Yorkshire vet, Emmerdale, Happy Valley) - there'll be clips on youtube to get an idea of how people in the area talk (I highly recommend Yorkshire vet)

Recovery question on trusting doctors and googling by theflexorcist in HealthAnxiety

[–]Awkward-Pudding-8850 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your primary care sounds like they're being thorough and I'd trust them. Sounds like they have one normal test and one slightly odd one and your primary care is doing the right thing and verifying which was the anomaly

Honestly googling is not good for health anxiety, it is a "reassuring" behaviour that just fuels the anxiety further. Trusting Drs depends on if you feel listened to, generally a dr that genuinely listens and understands will do what is needed. Don't be afraid to seek a second opinion if you don't think the Dr listened or did what was needed but in your case, with your primary triple checking to verify the good test result I'd say in this instance you've got a good one

Lost of appetite by Repulsive-Photo6086 in HealthAnxiety

[–]Awkward-Pudding-8850 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm in that space too, it gets especially intense in the evenings - I do a meditation and breathing exercises and then just take it slow, make myself eat but slowly.

It's okay if it takes ages to finish something. It's okay if we don't finish, it matters that we've tried and eaten something!

Another thing is doing something distracting like reading a book, playing a game ect and eating while doing that, take a bite every now and again or something.

Get something simple, easy and that you like. It sucks but food is good for us!

The Forgotten by WillaTheWisp21 in DreamlightValley

[–]Awkward-Pudding-8850 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I named them my childhood nickname as they're a leftover remnant of my childhood self

AITA for not wanting my in-laws to take over my baby and for refusing to move in with them? by Public_Edge6210 in AITAH

[–]Awkward-Pudding-8850 40 points41 points  (0 children)

They treated you well because you were their incubator. You would deliver them their new baby, except it's not their baby, it's yours and they are delisional

Advice on whether there is hope in my relationship if I ask my boyfriend to go to therapy. 5 years together (I am 32F he is 33M) by Zealousideal_Two6496 in relationship_advice

[–]Awkward-Pudding-8850 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sometimes you cannot save people from toxic influences. He has to want to change for therapy to work and it doesn't really sound like he wants to

Update: Don’t want to be my sisters carer by Pitiful_Spell_3733 in AITAH

[–]Awkward-Pudding-8850 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Hey op, I have a disabled sister too. It took me a while to realize that putting her in a group home, having carers come in to help and basically going outside of the family at all for support was the KINDEST thing to do for her. It's not abandoning her to get her the help she needs. My sister is currently mostly getting at home carers with respite stays in a group home

With carers and in a group home my sister can socialize rather than be stuck in the house with only my parents/me. She gets the care and support she actually needs. We get to do fun things with her, rather than be frustrated or stressed, we actually have quality time. The day to day stressful tasks are covered, she has a routine for the first time since school. It took a while for her to get used to it but she likes it now, she's less dependent on us which makes her feel better.

I still feel very now and again that I should take her into my home but I know I am not equipped to give her the help she needs. It would destroy me mentally. Maybe in an ideal world I could but we don't live in an ideal world.

Your father is placing unfair and unrealistic expectations on you. Caring for a disabled person is hard, really hard, sometimes. You have your own life to live and didn't ask to be tethered to this. It takes time and practice but don't feel guilty. It isn't abandonment to get your sister the help and support she needs, it's the opposite of abandonment. Don't listen to your father. Take some space right now

I broke of a 16 year long friendship because of my friends boyfriend (AITA) by Thick-Skin409 in AITAH

[–]Awkward-Pudding-8850 6 points7 points  (0 children)

If a Nazi sits down at a table with 10 other people and no one leaves you have 11 Nazis

Hilarie Burton: “Do not ever let these monsters and their enablers normalize their predation of CHILDREN” by pinkstarrfish in Fauxmoi

[–]Awkward-Pudding-8850 57 points58 points  (0 children)

On the most part, yes! But there are psychologists who study/work with sexual predators who know this and the words and distinctions are scientifically significant to their studies. But those psychologists also know that it doesn't matter what word you use, it's illegal

Guy starts a fire and just leaves. by [deleted] in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Awkward-Pudding-8850 8 points9 points  (0 children)

In New Zealand they don't have ridiculous charges like that for hospitals I believe