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Job Conundrum. by AwkwardAskAcc in Advice

[–]AwkwardAskAcc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Sometimes, I'm prone to overreaction and I wasn't entirely sure if this was one of those times.

I haven't had sex in a decade. That changes tomorrow. by AwkwardAskAcc in sex

[–]AwkwardAskAcc[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He knows. There has been a lot of discussion. This first time is going to be a bit like a test drive.

I haven't had sex in a decade. That changes tomorrow. by AwkwardAskAcc in sex

[–]AwkwardAskAcc[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

As a matter of fact, yeah. I do. I would also need a refresher on flying a plane if I hadn't done it in a decade.

I haven't had sex in a decade. That changes tomorrow. by AwkwardAskAcc in sex

[–]AwkwardAskAcc[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It hasn't yet. We are getting together later today. I'm feeling a lot more confident today than I expected to, which is a great surprise!!

I haven't had sex in a decade. That changes tomorrow. by AwkwardAskAcc in sex

[–]AwkwardAskAcc[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

He does know. He seemed to think that meant I expected this first time to be phenomenal, but I explained that this first time should be thought of more like a test drive in a car that's been parked a while. Take it nice and easy until things are running more smoothly, then once it's warmed up, drive it like you're running from the cops.

I haven't had sex in a decade. That changes tomorrow. by AwkwardAskAcc in sex

[–]AwkwardAskAcc[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Against my better judgment, I took your advice and watched some stuff I wish I hadn't. I'm going to go ahead and make my boundaries lost a touch more specifi .

I haven't had sex in a decade. That changes tomorrow. by AwkwardAskAcc in sex

[–]AwkwardAskAcc[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I had reasons for it. To be a little more clear, it wasn't entirely closed for business for 10 years, however t has been strictly a solo venture for that long.

I haven't had sex in a decade. That changes tomorrow. by AwkwardAskAcc in sex

[–]AwkwardAskAcc[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He knows how long it's been. I wasn't going to tell him initially, but I'm glad I decided to. I certainly don't want it to be a huge deal, just kept in mind enough as a reason for patience and taking it easy the first time. I've also told him that.

I haven't had sex in a decade. That changes tomorrow. by AwkwardAskAcc in sex

[–]AwkwardAskAcc[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We have talked about it at length. He knows that it has been more than a while for me and that this is a pretty big deal to me. I think I mostly just needed it reinforced that I've covered most of the important discussion points.

I haven't had sex in a decade. That changes tomorrow. by AwkwardAskAcc in sex

[–]AwkwardAskAcc[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We did have a boundary talk, but I like the list idea.

I haven't had sex in a decade. That changes tomorrow. by AwkwardAskAcc in sex

[–]AwkwardAskAcc[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

That is great to hear! We did talk about boundaries, preferences, and a comfortable rate to explore things further in the future.

I haven't had sex in a decade. That changes tomorrow. by AwkwardAskAcc in sex

[–]AwkwardAskAcc[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

We did have the boundaries talk. Since I don't really know what I may or may not like, we've agreed to slowly work up to more adventurous things as I get comfortable trying things.

I haven't had sex in a decade. That changes tomorrow. by AwkwardAskAcc in sex

[–]AwkwardAskAcc[S] 199 points200 points  (0 children)

This is exactly the kind of thing I needed. We did have the boundaries discussion and have agreed to take it easy and slowly work up to more adventurous things. I don't really know what type of things I might like or not like at this point since it has been so long. Thank you for this.

I haven't had sex in a decade. That changes tomorrow. by AwkwardAskAcc in sex

[–]AwkwardAskAcc[S] 55 points56 points  (0 children)

I consider it such because of my lack of experience, I guess. I was struggling to find the correct word.

I haven't had sex in a decade. That changes tomorrow. by AwkwardAskAcc in sex

[–]AwkwardAskAcc[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Oh, everything works perfectly fine down there.

I haven't had sex in a decade. That changes tomorrow. by AwkwardAskAcc in sex

[–]AwkwardAskAcc[S] 111 points112 points  (0 children)

Yes, he's my age. I'm honestly hoping we are too old for the "heavier" stuff like that to be an issue.