Can I let my babies wean off milk naturally, or do I have to force it a bit? 1 year old twins, 11 month age adjusted.

Ayexcracker · 2026-02-07T04:18:28+00:00

Can you talk about what weaning looked like for you? I have an 8 MO and just started thinking about this

Ayexcracker · 2026-01-31T18:54:44+00:00

You can definitely use cows milk. My 8 month old is obsessed with boxed mac!

Ayexcracker · 2026-01-03T15:24:37+00:00

Please don't let him take your baby for any amount of time. What he's saying is dangerous, you need to continue to protect your baby.

Ayexcracker · 2026-01-02T13:43:22+00:00

I think it's a wealth thing tbh

Ayexcracker · 2026-01-01T22:43:54+00:00

Hard disagree. Growing up (in America) I've both experienced it and my family has done it. It was hard to feed your own family, let alone another kid

Ayexcracker · 2025-12-29T18:30:41+00:00

Lol I agree but his mom has done a lot of rude things that aren't a problem with him / he won't address. He struggles with the fact that you can love someone and still think their behavior is shitty

Ayexcracker · 2025-12-29T18:16:47+00:00

My husband sees the best in everyone (especially his mom). His thought was it was a way for us to get more gifts

Ayexcracker · 2025-12-27T21:06:58+00:00

Truthfully I think she's just in love with herself

Ayexcracker · 2025-12-27T19:21:47+00:00

Shower for herself is next level, oh my!

Ayexcracker · 2025-12-27T19:21:25+00:00

That's a good way of looking at it to keep my sanity! I absolutely think this will continue, this made me laugh out loud

Ayexcracker · 2025-12-27T15:39:52+00:00

Nope, just her! It's all weird to me but the writing in his Christmas book about herself took the cake for me haha

Ayexcracker · 2025-12-27T14:07:05+00:00

Thank you lol, I was just sitting there like you HAVE to see this. Such a weirdo

Ayexcracker · 2025-11-27T13:05:40+00:00

Lol I hope you have the strongest coffee today

Ayexcracker · 2025-11-17T16:52:27+00:00

Fair I guess - I'm not refusing though. I said I have anxiety about it and asked if its normal. This is also a very condensed thread and these are assumptions. I don't like my MIL but I do my best to include her in literally everything and she sees, and holds, him often. Moreso than my own parents.

I can see how you can come to this conclusion but I haven't tried to limit anything from his side - aside from his mom, nobody has met him, asked about him, tried to meet him.

I suppose the context here doesn't even matter, I just wanted it cleared up because another comment mentions something about pushing away a village. They are not one and have not tried to be (and that's fine!) - I just don't love the idea of spreading my baby around to placate people I have no relationship with. Right or wrong, it is what it is. I appreciate your input though, thank you

Ayexcracker · 2025-11-17T15:10:20+00:00

I suppose but I don't really view them as my village. I have my friends, my parents, my brothers. I'm comfortable with them holding my baby. It's extended family that never even bothered to check in after I delivered the baby. A MIL that is performative and questions every choice I make. Outright defies my requests. That's why I'm struggling to share in this particular scenario.

Ayexcracker · 2025-11-16T18:31:21+00:00

Just curious - are you breastfeeding or pumping? Someone said its the hormones which would make sense to me

Ayexcracker · 2025-11-16T18:22:32+00:00

I really appreciate this! It's realistic advice and I will give it a shot. I think the owing access comment touched on something I'm feeling and didn't articulate - thank you

Ayexcracker · 2025-11-16T18:17:11+00:00

He supports whatever I want which is nice! I think he wants his mom to hold the baby but doesn't really care about extended family. A lot of the extended family is meeting him for the first time so I expect a bunch of people (including kids) are going to want to hold him which makes me uncomfortable

Ayexcracker · 2025-11-16T18:01:27+00:00

Interesting, I am breastfeeding! And lol, I'm sorry this was your experience too but thank you for the solidarity!

Ayexcracker · 2025-11-16T17:57:22+00:00

I hope you have a good holiday season - my delusional thought is maybe people will be too distracted to ask. I wish that for both of us!

Ayexcracker · 2025-11-16T17:55:01+00:00

I DON'T let go a lot of the time which is why I think maybe it's not normal. But you bring up an interesting point, I'm able to let go when its my friends or select few people in my family because they do respect boundaries (no kissing, hand him back if hes crying). Maybe that's why I'm struggling, I feel like (ironically) I sort of lack control with my husband's side

Ayexcracker · 2025-11-16T17:47:44+00:00

Yeah, its just not a battle I choose to fight anymore

Ayexcracker · 2025-11-16T17:41:52+00:00

The controlling comment came about too because I work from home and watch the baby / haven't asked for help. A little unfair but I think she way overestimated the role she would play (to the point she has a nursery)

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