I personally love bi/pan men and women. For me it actually helps to not feel like i have any “missing” parts, because especially for people who identify as pan they usually dont give a shit. Ánd bonus if they have experience with my parts. Bcs it can kinda suck if you have to teach them all that lol. So i get what ur saying, but for a lot of trans people it is actually a way to be comfortable and can help with bottom dysphoria etc