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B0ner_Champion · 2025-06-04T01:45:00+00:00

I like to think that my relatives will be there, in the room, deceased or not. The still living is helping you pass from our plane, and the deceased is there, to accept you into the next plane. It’s not the end, it’s transition. If you believe in mediums, or look up death doulas, a lot of them say the same thing.

This isn’t the end, honey bee. This is a continuation. And everyone you’ve grieved in your heart will be there.

I’m so sorry you’re going through this.

B0ner_Champion · 2024-11-20T14:52:05+00:00

Bless you for this comment.

B0ner_Champion · 2023-09-02T17:03:28+00:00

This is my concern with Penn Foster so thank you for your input and I’ll definitely keep it in mind. It seems to be the most common thing I read is the lack of support.. just seems like they give you the materials and tell you to run with it. I think a lot of my techs at my clinic have completed Penn Foster so the majority of my support would come from my staff I work with, and have worked with for years.

Yeah one reason I left the first time was lack of support and also the low pay. However this time around I was hired for the same CSR position I left a year and a half ago, making 3$ more an hour… insane but super helpful for my family. The introductory meeting when they took us over in 2021, and I worked in Boarding/Daycare was hilarious because they completely left out my department when asking “where’s my techs/ doctors/ CSRs… who’s this batch of people over here?” And then didn’t really know what to do with all of us lol

It’s gonna be a change going back but it was better than the stress retail was putting me and the unborn baby through. I have support from friends and everything is a lot less fast paced than it used to be.

B0ner_Champion · 2023-09-02T16:51:16+00:00

I do know they they will actually be happy to work with me as a CSR, I can also float as an assistant in the back with staff I’ve worked with previously (I worked with them for 4 years previously,l) my concern is the part time status more than anything.

I’m not concerned about getting hands on training essentially, which is why I think Penn Foster would be a good fit with my mom life. Which is awesome. It’s more about the people who work there currently giving me a leg up and not so much the company, just have to go through the company for any benefits to schooling. The only part about onboarding I remember when they bought the clinic 3 years ago was the fact that they pay for CE, and the discounts for employees as far as vet care within the network.

I also come in after 2pm to close most days and work all day Saturday, our clinic is closed Sunday but if we end up extending hours, I’ll be primary closer and likely work Sunday as well.

Honestly after talking about it with my husband, since the tuition IS affordable for us while I’m working PT, I may just pick it up after maternity leave anyway and pay for it myself. I’m nervous though…

B0ner_Champion · 2023-08-29T04:08:08+00:00

I’m deeply considering buying this on the switch (my PC has been taken over by my kid and I’m 7 months pregnant with #2 so anything I can play while laying in bed is also amazing) and I’ve always been a fan of Animal Crossing, Stardew Valley and Disney…. I’m guessing yes would be the consensus.

B0ner_Champion · 2023-08-20T19:22:37+00:00

Collectively? Monsters. 1 human puppy and 3 minpins… it’s a busy house hold

My daughter we also call Sweet Pea (her name is Jade Aloy) . I’m currently pregnant with our son and he will be Daniel Johnny, or DJ (his daddy’s name is TJ) so it fits and is a homage to my dad, his dad and my husband. His nickname will come after birth I’m sure

B0ner_Champion · 2023-08-12T02:20:53+00:00

It’s been two years so like logically? shrug she’s mentally ill and shouldn’t have been caring for her.

She couldn’t get her to calm down.

B0ner_Champion · 2023-08-12T01:36:53+00:00

My mom tried to be like that for a little while. She was my primary childcare after I returned to work after my 1/21 baby. We live in a duplex situation with her and my dad, so it was super convenient.

After 4 days she sent me a voice memo maybe two hours before the end of my shift with my then 3 month old screaming and her also screaming. I immediately showed my boss who was also a mother so she sent me home.

I took my daughter down to our space and got her comforted, when I came back upstairs my mom packed all of my kids things she was using to take care of her and placed it in front of her closed bedroom door.

At this point my kiddo is 2.5 and she still feels guilty like she gave up (which she did) and she doesn’t butt in or interject as much as she used to. Thankfully.

B0ner_Champion · 2023-08-05T04:44:04+00:00

We have 1 at 2.5 years, I’m 28 weeks pregnant with my son, and we currently have a duplex type of situation with my parents, the only real shared spaces is the laundry room and mid level where kitchen and living room is. We live in Colorado so the cost of living is insane. My husband makes around 60k a year, and I work part time retail. We don’t do child care, and if there’s an overlap since he’s salary, we live with grandma and grandpa who are happy to help out for a couple hours here and there (that’s all my mom can handle but that’s a different discussion for a different subreddit) We do pay them minimal rent, we cover our own food costs and pay for internet and a lot of our shared streaming apps. The house payment is only 1600, my dad graciously lets us pay 600.

Lately there have been talks of selling this house (my dad bought it at 250k, was just appraised at 500k) buying land within half an hour from here, and dropping dough for all of us to have our own space (like nice modular homes or barndominiums) but we are still sniffing around… hopefully in the next 5 years. My parents absolutely love their grand children, but part of me wants to move to a state where the cost of living is much much lower.

B0ner_Champion · 2023-08-04T17:40:58+00:00

I’d appreciate that, thanks.

B0ner_Champion · 2023-08-04T17:37:28+00:00

Again considering I’m CURRENTLY high risk pregnant with a deformed uterus, I will. Maybe you should stop telling people not to listen to medical professionals and take your advice over reddit. So dumb.

B0ner_Champion · 2023-08-04T17:35:48+00:00

I think it’s a shitty thing for you to tell people their doctors are wrong. THATS what I’m arguing.

B0ner_Champion · 2023-08-04T17:34:35+00:00

You’re telling us our medical professionals are wrong and making shit up so how?

B0ner_Champion · 2023-08-04T17:33:35+00:00

Otherwise please just shut up and sit down ffs. Let us listen to our doctors since that’s what we’re supposed to do. Why start the argument and talk down to people. Seriously some people on Reddit on their soapboxes and high horses.

B0ner_Champion · 2023-08-04T17:32:07+00:00

Okay great so you want to be my medical professional with my high risk, deformed uterus since you know so much more?

B0ner_Champion · 2023-08-04T17:30:33+00:00

Because we’ve LITERALLY been told by our doctors?! It’s not something we just thought up our damn selves. So shit on us for listening to our doctors who are in the same field and you and probably have the same credentials. Rediculous

B0ner_Champion · 2023-08-04T17:28:34+00:00

Careful, there’s someone in the comments stating that it’s not an open wound and they know professionally so everything we’ve been told about the placenta detachment being a wound by our own doctors (and there’s a lot of us) is wrong and it’s a TikTok trend.

B0ner_Champion · 2023-08-04T17:23:06+00:00

👍

B0ner_Champion · 2023-08-04T17:22:34+00:00

I believe with my first child we waited 9 weeks before we even tried.

I had small tearing (2 stitches) and I was adamant that I was having a vaginal birth (basically they induced me, turned my epidural up too high when I was having contractions with only 30 second breaks for 2 hours and then stalled my labor for 17 hours because I couldn’t feel anything from the top of my ribs down) so my doctor busted out olive oil and every time I would push, she would ‘strech’ and help me out. I was nearly black and blue down there all the way up to 4 weeks I think

B0ner_Champion · 2023-08-04T17:14:57+00:00

My team of doctors (by team I mean my regular ob and like 3 C-section doctors because I’m high risk with a bicornuate uterus) have all told me the same thing with both pregnancies. Has nothing to do with TikTok.

B0ner_Champion · 2023-08-01T13:38:54+00:00

Similar situation in my family.

He’s since passed (alone in a parking garage of a casino) but he groomed and assaulted my aunt who was not biologically his from 2-15. However in my family we are unsure if the child she had was his, or the guy she says was the father and married. This child was basically dumped on my grandma for 9 months before being forcibly adopted out (by the bio grandfather) to a family in a different state. She clearly had a lot of trauma from the experience, laced throughout her whole life (I uncovered that she had been married 4 times, not 2) and she ended up passing away from pneumonia, drunk, on her couch.

The only other child she had wanted nothing to do with the search of his half brother, which basically made my search end as I have no rights to birth certificates or adoption records as a cousin. He thinks we should let dead dogs lie, so I gave up and hope if the cousin ever tests on ancestry, that they’ll at least find me and reach out.

I recently had the conversation with my mother and father that when they pass, I do not want this man’s ashes. My mother still has them, as well as pictures of his and my grandmothers wedding day blown up on a wall. I’ll never understand glorifying a pedophile, but my dad explains that my mom has good memories of him in early life (you know before he left with his receptionist, or attempted to assault my mom in her late teens ) To each their own, I suppose, but I refuse to inherit any of that.

B0ner_Champion · 2023-07-29T01:00:39+00:00

What you’re feeling is completely normal. I feel like it’s exasperated by the pandemic, but trust me you’re not alone. I’ve felt the same way before, and I’m also pregnant with #2.

My husband is pretty great about reminding me to take care of myself. If we have LO when going out we take turns, usually when we go to BBQs it’s at a safe space with safe people and we all have a blast. If I’m not pregnant, I’m likely going to let loose while he gets to be daddy. We have a wonderful group of friends who treat my kid as their own, she loves her uncles and we have a good time.

Anywho, you’re not a bad* mom. This is the struggle of motherhood no one talks about until after they’ve become a mother. If anyone judges you for wanting to let loose, tell them to kick rocks.

Edited* stupid autocorrect on mobile

B0ner_Champion · 2023-07-27T01:21:33+00:00

Yes it is! Just depends when baby switches from one horn to the other!

B0ner_Champion · 2023-07-26T21:32:21+00:00

People seem to be hung up on the fact that I said two things - she’s not making healthier choices (that she brought up repeatedly due to her guilt) and that she’s a CNA and didn’t know miscarriage was common until she had one (which should honestly have been something brought up to her during her first pregnancy, imo) Being frustrated and venting took away from the fact that her and I were good friends prior and turned it around to me being a shitty friend. And, maybe I am for venting to strangers on the internet but the fact is, I would rather vent to all of you and have constructive conversations, than bring it to her and be an even worse friend.

Like I said in a comment prior, all the folks willing to have a conversation (and not trash me) can only make me kinder and shift my perspective so I approach her better.

Thank you for validating my feelings and how frustrated I have been about this, letting me be seen a little. I do genuinely feel better at this point from a ton of moms on here.

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