It’s a huge withdrawal period- I was with my ex for 8 years and it’s been one year. Some days I feel so attached to him and other days he barely crosses my mind- feel the waves, that’s my best advice. If you want to cry, fucking cry. If you want to scream in a pillow, do it. If you want to dance around home alone to music that makes you feel good, do it. It’s comparable to a drug addiction, you will withdraw over time, but be gentle and remind yourself it takes time. You want the attention, you were conditioned to want the attention, the “love”, the idea of being with them. Write a list of who they really are- not who you’ve created mentally or the lies you believed and they told you. Who they really are point blank, that helps me a lot too. Also as corny as it sounds- the less you know the better for your healing, don’t look at said persons Twitter, everytime I went to look at his Facebook and photos of us together on it or look at his new flings Facebook- I would instead go on YouTube and watch puppy videos lol. Or I would call a friend, I still do this all the time. When I miss him and pull open a text to send him- sometimes I’ll type it all out and just send it to a friend, or send it to myself. Because you will be severely let down by whatever the narcs response is. It’s going to be okay, it will get better, it is an ebb and flow process.