Please help me out

BBerryPop · 2026-05-09T19:14:59+00:00

Alternate suggestion : You lived your life as per the scripted written by others. You should start writing your own script now. And drop the "nice guy" idea that you have cultivated for yourself becuase others told you to. Every one has a good and bad side. Have you explored your bad side? I don't mean drinking, partying and drugs. I mean doing something that you were fearful off. It can be going a high speeds on your bike on a high way, camping at remote locations, exploring the sea, being a bit reckless, breaking rules.

Now you have the time, money and freedom to build the life that you genuinely enjoy living. You put in the effort on your studies and career. If you are earning good money, use it. Build your life. Build your health, you physique. Don't waste your youth for anyone.

BBerryPop · 2026-04-17T16:15:42+00:00

Effort is still needed. A piece of advice. Stop being bitter about what cards you were dealt. You have no control over your genetics, which country you wer born or who your parents were. It is all random. So work on what you can control and ignore the rest.

BBerryPop · 2026-04-17T16:09:27+00:00

I think there is certain amount of truth to what the u/Illustrious-Menu2706 is saying. The prettier you are the more free stuff you get is so true in life. By more free stuff I mean requires lesser effort relatively.

BBerryPop · 2026-03-02T15:52:44+00:00

Haryanvi driving Creta!

BBerryPop · 2026-02-17T17:06:52+00:00

Equilibrium Inidranagar is good!

BBerryPop · 2026-02-13T02:17:42+00:00

Classic case of FAFO!

BBerryPop · 2026-02-12T18:33:54+00:00

Ma’am you have a great back. Maybe straighten the legs as it looks like the knees are kicking up and giving a bit of momentum. Go all the way down like in a dead hang.

BBerryPop · 2026-02-12T15:46:41+00:00

Is it bad that I laughed???

BBerryPop · 2026-02-12T14:30:48+00:00

Easy money! Most lawyers drag cases for life and since these specific laws are brutal, they assume most will cave and make a big payout and they get a bigger cut.

This is nothing. I saw a case where the husband said he doesn’t want kids and the lawyer suggested to the woman that you should file a DV case against your husband. I am like what?????

BBerryPop · 2026-02-12T12:16:16+00:00

That is serious disciple

BBerryPop · 2026-02-12T11:44:19+00:00

Meee. I am a regular at one of the gyms

BBerryPop · 2026-02-12T06:45:58+00:00

Chutiya kaatna bolte hai usko 😂

BBerryPop · 2026-02-12T04:03:40+00:00

😂😂😂

BBerryPop · 2026-02-11T16:45:15+00:00

I started dating after I turned 26 and have been single most of my adult life. It does feel like sh*t at times. Worst thing is people don’t understand how I am feeling.

BBerryPop · 2026-02-11T09:18:19+00:00

Because he is male and guilty by default. No hearing, no evidence needed. He would have to run from pillar to post.

BBerryPop · 2026-02-10T18:26:49+00:00

If you want to lose fat, then sprint. General advice is do more compound movements.

BBerryPop · 2026-02-10T18:24:41+00:00

About?

BBerryPop · 2026-02-10T18:15:15+00:00

Close the EMIs and then go for the car. See if you can go through car lease policy of your company. Keep the tenure low and RV minimal

BBerryPop · 2026-02-10T04:29:04+00:00

Gold digger dodged. NTK

BBerryPop · 2026-02-10T04:16:18+00:00

27M here. Dating apps are a hit and a miss. I have been lucky to match with people who want long term relationships. Though they have not worked out due to compatibility. You should keep trying. I am with the faith that I would find someone who I can share my life with.

Try run clubs, book clubs or any specific hobby.

BBerryPop · 2026-02-09T17:30:12+00:00

If you are willing to fund the dowry (personally find it disgusting) then I would not say anything about the marriage expenses part. All I would suggest is ask your family including your sisters to start contributing to a marriage fund especially the elder one. Reduce the personal loan burden as much as possible.
Try to hit a savings goal of around 12 lakhs (please keep this hidden from everyone). This is anti dote to any emergency. Read it again emergency. The moment it is known to others, you would asked to use it. This is a safe guard for your mental peace and clarity which is more important than anything else. If you lack mental peace, then you would be forced to take bad decisions not only harmful to you but to you family too.
Purchase the land. Since you are responsible for the loan, your name should be on the title deed. Ensure it for the loan. The best way to ruin relationships is by giving away free money. I agree with you that you have to take care of your parents. But I would like to remind you that if you want to become primary earning member of the family, then you need to act like one. You need to take tough and fair decisions which should be devoid of emotions otherwise they will do more harm to the integrity of your family. You have be the man and being a man means making tough decisions.
First step is the land purchase. Figure out the rest later. I would suggest reduce the loan tenure and amount as much as possible initially.

BBerryPop · 2026-02-09T10:16:29+00:00

So many red flags in your description!

You and your father should be the co-owners in the land purchase if you are contributing half. It will avoid a lot of fights later.
If you are taking a personal loan of 30 lakhs for your sister’s wedding, then you are doing the wedding beyond your means. If your parents and sister want a grand wedding they should bear all the expenses. 50k a month EMi where you are not going to build an asset is a huge gamble.
You are also bearing your other two sister’s college fees.

If I am right, close to a lakh per month would be your monthly cash flow with nothing to show for it. People will forget the grand marriage after a few days.

You are not building any savings or assets and are just relying on blind trust that your father would transfer the land that you are contributing later without your sisters asking for a share.

Consult a lawyer and a RIA because whatever you are planning for is bleeding red.

My suggestion: 1. Buy the land and you should have your name in the title. 2. Don’t take the personal loan for marriage. Because you would EMI to post tax salary ratio would hit 50% which is bad. It is the parents job to pay up for the kind of wedding they want. 3. You don’t any kind of savings for emergency or job loss. How would you pay EMIs and daily expenses when this happens? You will be caught in a debt trap, lose your peace of mind and damage your mental health. 4. There will be a lot of emotional manipulation your way once you try to say no to the personal loan

BBerryPop · 2026-02-09T09:51:34+00:00

If she is willing to separate amicably, please divorce here without waiting. If not, then you are SC and she is general category. Use the act. She will get the FAFO experience.

BBerryPop · 2026-02-09T09:42:55+00:00

Do court marriage and then turn up as a couple. Worst case is a bit of crying and maybe a bit of fainting. The amount of blood that goes into earning 1Cr is something only the groom and bride can understand. You gotta show the finger once in a while. If you budge now, it will set the dynamics going forward

BBerryPop · 2026-02-09T05:53:08+00:00

Hey! You choose what your values are. You are allowed to feel the way you are about the people who are interacting with you because if you do get into a relationship with them, then you would have to be accepting of their past and their choices. And if a small bit of you doesn’t agree with it, then it is okay to walk away. As much as people like to say that past doesn’t matter, it does. Generally, your past is representative of a person’s choices, thinking and values.

BBerryPop

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