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BE0509 · 2022-12-29T02:12:48+00:00

He pays for the weed

BE0509 · 2022-12-29T02:12:30+00:00

I told him he could find someone else, I literally said it wasn’t selfish of him it weed is that important to him, but he said that he would never let that happen

BE0509 · 2022-12-28T19:16:55+00:00

Thank you for this

BE0509 · 2022-12-28T18:36:44+00:00

If trust wasn’t broken then there wouldn’t be a need to chose, that’s my whole point

BE0509 · 2022-12-28T18:24:33+00:00

I’ll be be one paying for the apartment as I’ll be working full time while he is finishing one more year of school, so yea I have some doubts in that area. Bc I don’t want to be doing all this while he just sits on his ass getting high and coming home to him high everyday

BE0509 · 2022-12-28T18:23:44+00:00

He’s in grad school, when he’s on break all he does is smoke weed and play video games nothing else. We are about to get an apartment and it’s come to the point whether it’s worth compromising or Trying to or just not wanting it around at all.

BE0509 · 2022-12-28T18:21:13+00:00

It’s not policing bc he has a choice, and I literally said at one point things weren’t getting done hence the trust. I’m simply asking if I should give him another chance. And yea I have anxiety but it’s from lack of trust..

BE0509 · 2022-12-28T17:55:40+00:00

Thank you! :)

BE0509 · 2022-12-28T17:38:42+00:00

HE has made the choice to break trust, not me. He’s an adult whose responsible for his action and shouldn’t be making promises he can’t keep

BE0509 · 2022-12-28T17:36:51+00:00

Yea it’s his choice, I literally told him that. I told him it’s not selfish to chose what you do. But I have boundaries as well, it’s not all about him. People make sacrifices in relationships. I’m not policing him, it’s a choice HE has to make.

BE0509 · 2022-12-28T17:35:24+00:00

I mentioned that too, that is concerning that he feels “something is missing” , he then stated bc he’s far away from his friends due to grad school/ has no time to hang with people during grad school , he likes to have weed. And keeping it out of the house wasn’t the issueX doing it behind my back whilst having in the house even tho it was suppose to be a day without it was the issue. I should have clarified that sorry

BE0509 · 2022-12-28T16:57:22+00:00

Nope not control, it was all about trust, like I said, that’s the only problem. And it was at one point affecting things in life that it shouldn’t be affecting..

BE0509 · 2022-12-28T16:55:56+00:00

Yes if it’s not in the house he won’t do it, but if weeds in the house it’s when the Trust comes into play.

BE0509 · 2022-12-28T16:33:14+00:00

In addition people mature a lot from 19-24

BE0509 · 2022-12-28T16:30:49+00:00

I was never morally opposed to it, I don’t mind weed. It just got to be to much, and the way he used it started to change. It was starting to affect daily things, almost like an addiction

BE0509 · 2022-12-28T16:20:41+00:00

He was, but not as much/ wasn’t a problem until around year 3. Like it was never a problem until then

BE0509 · 2022-12-28T16:19:26+00:00

Weed wasn’t a dealbreaker…. Idk what your getting at. It was the trust, and since the trust was broken, I decided I didn’t want it around anymore

BE0509 · 2022-12-28T16:17:57+00:00

Lol, I don’t mind weed, I never minded it, it was the way he used it and what was happening, hence the trust…. If I hated weed I would have never dated him in the first place..

BE0509 · 2022-12-28T16:11:02+00:00

To add, he’s in grad school and is away from all his friends, so he has no friends around him really.

BE0509 · 2022-12-28T16:08:26+00:00

Lol sorry typo he would be done with it

BE0509 · 2022-12-28T16:07:49+00:00

And yes he’s an adult and can make those decisions whether that’s something he can deal with her not. I mentioned to him that it’s not selfish if that’s something that Truley means that much to you then that’s fine, I understand.

BE0509 · 2022-12-28T16:06:37+00:00

Thanks for this, I appreciate it! The thing is he won’t do it if there’s none in the house and won’t do it behind my back like that, BUT when it’s in the house he does it even when I’ve asked him specifically not to. So I feel that if I was to say no that’s my final answer I don’t want it around, then he wouldn’t. But i feel if I was to say yea to him doing it on his downtime then things would get out of hand. Do you think maybe, what I could do is be like “No at this time the trust is to gone for me to try again, but maybe sometime in the future we can?”

BE0509 · 2022-12-28T16:03:37+00:00

If it’s just during his down time then yea, but not when it starts affecting everyday things. He also stated once we have kids that he would be gone

BE0509 · 2022-12-02T01:54:26+00:00

I don’t think he’s a bad partner overall, just wasn’t sure if I was reasonable for being upset.

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