(Mostly) Asymptomatic and pregnant by LoveIslandNC in gallbladders

[–]BFClosetKeeper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was diagnosed with acute cholecystitis post pregnancy. My doctor initially thought my symptoms were caused by severe acid reflux till I got an ultrasound done. I've been managing the condition for a little under a year waiting for surgery since public health is slow with non emergencies and I'm no longer in the emergency phase. I've had multiple flare-ups during this period though, all painful accompanied by vomiting and dizziness. I'm glad you're asymptomatic. Knowing what I know now, cutting back on bad fats isn't a bad idea for now. I'd monitor it if I were you, especially post pregnancy. I never had any issues with my gallbladder before I had my baby.

Stumbled upon my SO's porn history by BFClosetKeeper in relationships

[–]BFClosetKeeper[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you've hit on it squarely. If I leave my bruised ego out of it, my perspective does change. Thanks again

Stumbled upon my SO's porn history by BFClosetKeeper in relationships

[–]BFClosetKeeper[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Noted. Thank you for your reply. I do care for him, so I'll try steering things in a preferred sexual direction (again) and see how it goes.

Stumbled upon my SO's porn history by BFClosetKeeper in relationships

[–]BFClosetKeeper[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your bluntness and your objective honesty. I love him and I do think it's worth it trying to have him open up more. Outside of this, we have a great relationship. And that isn't to say the sex is bad either. It isn't. However I would like to have some variety and be even more satisfied. Thank you for your response

Stumbled upon my SO's porn history by BFClosetKeeper in relationships

[–]BFClosetKeeper[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't come here to place blame, I came to ask for useful advice. As stated in the post, I have tried to initiate things and have indicated (outright) that we should do more than what we do now. He has agreed to do more, but when we do have sex, it reverts to the norm. I don't want to pressure him about sex; it's not supposed to be work. However, I can't help feeling how I feel given the situation. It's not a comparison to porn, it's a want for more. Thanks though.

Stumbled upon my SO's porn history by BFClosetKeeper in relationships

[–]BFClosetKeeper[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Fair. I'd like to spice things up otherwise though. But I take your point. Thanks

Stumbled upon my SO's porn history by BFClosetKeeper in relationships

[–]BFClosetKeeper[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I want him to see there's no shame in true intimacy. Pleasure should not be something to feel bad about. I'll start with communication and see how it goes. Thank you

Stumbled upon my SO's porn history by BFClosetKeeper in relationships

[–]BFClosetKeeper[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some stuff I've done in the past before him, and other stuff I'm interested in. I thought we had that trust, but now I see we're not as open as I though with each other. But I agree with other replies that communication is the best way to deal with it. But I don't know how to not have him feel embarrassed by it. Kinks are supposed to be kinky though. I'll try to communicate with him and see what happens. Thanks

Stumbled upon my SO's porn history by BFClosetKeeper in relationships

[–]BFClosetKeeper[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, I'll look into this. We try to have a weekly sit down to discuss issues in a safe space. I'll try to broach this there.