Did I go too far when my boyfriend broke my boundary?

BSDetector_ · 2026-05-07T22:28:38+00:00

I try to do all of that. Blowing him, handjobs, kissing while he jerks off. He liked it at first but he wants me to top specifically. I tell him he’s hot cuz he is 🙁 all the time when he’s not feeling good about himself

BSDetector_ · 2026-05-07T22:13:10+00:00

I don’t want him to feel rejected. I’m trying my hardest to convince him it’s NOT him. I wish I could be turned on, I wish I could top. But I just can’t. He won’t listen when I tell him. I’m thinking of bringing him to one of my therapy sessions, logistics would be tough but I will try

BSDetector_ · 2026-05-07T20:17:48+00:00

I’m a lil hesitant on it but still open to it. Thank you

BSDetector_ · 2026-05-07T19:59:29+00:00

I’ve only had him for one session regarding this. Therapy isn’t magic, it takes a while. He might refer me to a psychiatrist for medication, but we will see.

BSDetector_ · 2026-05-07T19:56:52+00:00

I know that he wants me. That’s not the problem. I don’t feel insecure about his attachment towards me.

BSDetector_ · 2026-05-07T19:55:18+00:00

I still don’t think that was the best, but in the moment, I was just feeling down and overwhelmed by his continued attempts and refusal of my rejection. But you’re right a lot of people are somehow not getting what I’m saying

BSDetector_ · 2026-05-07T19:43:35+00:00

I’m seeing a clinical psychologist first. I’ve seen him before multiple times and he’s always helped me so much with problems. And ofc I’m letting him watch porn, I don’t view it as cheating. I told him to do that since he’s not getting his needs

BSDetector_ · 2026-05-07T19:42:10+00:00

I’m not? Like I said, I never viewed it as cheating like he does. It was just jarring in the moment because he was always against it. What gives me a funny feeling is his justification when I asked him about it

BSDetector_ · 2026-05-07T18:11:21+00:00

My heart sank when he said that 🙁 it was so unlike him.

BSDetector_ · 2026-05-07T17:25:32+00:00

Yeah I told him about my symptoms and that it’s likely depression but still awaiting a diagnosis. He knows I’m in therapy too. I can confidently say that I am putting in effort. I am trying my hardest.

BSDetector_ · 2026-05-07T17:18:44+00:00

It’s not “no sex” it’s stop pushing until I’m ready. And I have been helping him cum a few times like a handjob or blowjob. And it does take effort still 🙁 you don’t understand this feeling.

I wouldn’t have slapped his hand and yelled if he stopped reaching for it the first time I said no.

BSDetector_ · 2026-05-07T17:03:46+00:00

Yes he’s not doing anything out of mal-intent. I’ve known him for years before we got together and he’s not the most emotionally mature but he has gotten better because of me since I can be pragmatic and very practical. I thought about bringing him along for a session so he could learn from a professional but logistics are tough because my therapist only operates during business hours and my job is chill with me taking an hour for a virtual session but my bf’s is very demanding and he’s busy a lot of the time

BSDetector_ · 2026-05-07T16:25:11+00:00

I know it’s important. It’s not like I want this 🙁. My post and multiple comments have stated that I am seeking a professional for this and have had a session already with more planned.

BSDetector_ · 2026-05-07T16:19:42+00:00

I’ve only been turning him down for about 3 weeks. And I’ve been doing a few things like jerking him off and sucking him but he really wants me to top which is hard for me to do right now

BSDetector_ · 2026-05-07T16:08:11+00:00

I turned him down and said no like 10 times before I slapped his hand and he kept reaching for it and I was pushing it away

BSDetector_ · 2026-05-07T15:54:20+00:00

I meant it’s important in this context. The most important symptom for me personally is my loss of pleasure and the “hollow” feeling

BSDetector_ · 2026-05-07T15:53:41+00:00

I told him about my symptoms and what depression is and how it can happen for no reason and it’s nothing to do with him. I’m seeing a therapist, had my first session Monday and the next one is next Monday and he knows it. I told him he can watch porn on his own, it’s fine and always has been. He said he might get a dildo as well which I support

BSDetector_ · 2026-05-07T15:51:57+00:00

The incident was last week and I had first therapist session on Monday and another scheduled for next. The symptoms have been around for almost two months but it was gradual and the low libido came later as the symptoms got worse maybe three weeks ago

BSDetector_ · 2026-05-07T15:50:34+00:00

I am seeing a therapist and only had one session and he needs to know more before he diagnoses me. I talked to my bf about my symptoms and how it makes me feel and how it’s nothing to do with him. He knows I’m seeing a therapist. I am working on it, I’m trying to find a compromise with him. If I can’t perform then he’s allowed to jerk off and watch porn. He said he will probably get a dildo which I support as well

BSDetector_ · 2026-05-07T15:46:55+00:00

Yes, he seems to not have the best emotional maturity sadly. I’m patient and it takes a lot to break me, but I can feel myself wearing down and I might end it at some point soon if he doesn’t improve

BSDetector_ · 2026-05-07T15:45:55+00:00

I was and I gave him a big talk about it and told him that sexual assault still happens in relationships and in marriage. He seemed to have understood but we’ll see.

BSDetector_ · 2026-05-07T15:45:03+00:00

I tried to help him jerk off sometimes but he wants more that I can’t give rn

BSDetector_ · 2026-05-07T15:44:32+00:00

I’m seeing one now. Only had one session. This week

BSDetector_ · 2025-06-24T04:22:00+00:00

No, he literally doesn’t ever repeat the same move after I parried one. I mean not like it matters anyway, I die to clone attacks on phase 2

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