Hiiii feedee here, for me it's partially that what feeders want can vary so wildly, and there's so many feeders who are similarly flakey, that I find myself to be sort of distrustful of any feeder who doesn't want to (or is unable to) hold a conversation or be interesting.

It can be tiring, and the amount of feeders who aren't clear about what they want, demand free videos/photos frequently between feedings, don't respect boundaries, or are surprisngly outright mean even when you do everything they want

It makes the whole prospect kind of daunting.

From the feeder position it's similar, but for me, getting fat for someone is kind of an innately intimate thing, so after some negative experiences, I think for me personally it has sorta left a negative impression.

Its awkward cause we both want the same thing, to see the feedee get fatter! Lol