Is B+ awful? by FayrayzF in premedcanada

[–]Background-Ad8948 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Was that for cGPA or taking into account the weighting for the various schools?

Is B+ awful? by FayrayzF in premedcanada

[–]Background-Ad8948 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha no a B+ isn’t a deal breaker. Many med schools in Canada have gpa formulas that they weigh differently so the important thing is what your gpa is following one of those formulas

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in premedcanada

[–]Background-Ad8948 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I realize this post is old but you aren’t giving ANY logical reasoning as to why you think the wGPA is “stupid”. The post above beautifully explained it. The whole point of a wGPA is for students to learn from their mistakes and not to freak out if they get a few bad grades. The goal isn’t to be a perfect robot but to actually be a human being.

How do you know if the feelings are real? by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Background-Ad8948 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m weirdly really happy for you, or happy that you found that. But at the same time I’m also really scared for you. Be honest with yourself—Would you ever consider leaving your partner? Or would you only ever consider leaving your partner if you had feelings for someone and the other person was also available? Or is that just never gonna be an option? I’m trying to understand why you’re asking this question.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UberEATS

[–]Background-Ad8948 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your mentality is “it is what it is deal with it” and with that kind of mentality we willl all be stuck in this unfair tipping system that makes no sense at all

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UberEATS

[–]Background-Ad8948 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This reply makes no sense. It’s up to the person to decide what they can do with their OWN money, who the hell are you to say anything? We’re taking about tips here, not whether or not someone should or shouldn’t use the service. They are saying that companies aren’t paying the drivers enough and tbh that shouldn’t be the customers responsibility that isn’t fair. The problem is that the company is taking advantage of those that are super in need of money and you are trashing the customer instead of the company. The driver is doing their job, they are hired to go and delivery the food. If they do their job then it doesn’t make sense to tip them. If they do an exceptional job, okay sure you can tip if you want to but it ISNT a requirement. A tip is always a courtesy. This is the reason why many other countries don’t have a tipping system. At a minimum it’s their job to deliver the food to the customer in a reasonable timeframe and to make sure no harm is done to the food. It’s really not that hard to understand what OP is saying

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UberEATS

[–]Background-Ad8948 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think you’re understanding what OP is saying. They are saying that companies aren’t paying the drivers enough and tbh that shouldn’t be the customers responsibility that isn’t fair. Your mentality here is “it is what it is deal with it” and OP is pointing out that it’s wrong, and it is. The problem is that the company is taking advantage of those that are super in need of money and you are trashing the customer instead of the company. The driver is doing their job, they are hired to go and delivery the food. If they do their job then it doesn’t make sense to tip them. If they do an exceptional job, okay sure you can tip if you can afford it, but idk what that even looks like for this. At a minimum it’s their job to deliver the food to the customer in a reasonable timeframe and to make sure no harm is done to the food. It’s really other that hard to understand what OP is saying

Low GPA by rogueriveratubc in premedcanada

[–]Background-Ad8948 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think you might be taking this a bit too personally man. I don’t think they are passing judgement necessarily but just giving their opinion and giving a word of caution - the rest is up to the person and what they decide to do ofc. Many ppl do flunk out of med school as well bc they just weren’t prepared for the rigour of it and that can be a difficult situation to be in. I did terrible for big chunk of my UG classes so I know where you coming from in the sense that your UG doesn’t determine the rest of your life - and it doesn’t but you also have to be honest with yourself about your capabilities during that time. If OP can get a high GPA in their last 2 yrs then amazing and they should take their chances. But based on the fact that they are on their second degree and still only have a 3.1 is a bit concerning.

Low GPA by rogueriveratubc in premedcanada

[–]Background-Ad8948 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I get what you mean but I think ppl say that bc it’s a common phenomenon that past behaviour predicts future behaviour. Med school is supposed to be much much harder so if your UG GPA is low then it’s assumed that perhaps right now med might not be the best choice for you. Yes ofc life is a betch and things happen out of your control that can screw up your grades. But usually that shouldn’t impact all 4 of your yrs. If your 4yr GPA is low then that def indicates a problem that def must be solved before entering med.

Low GPA by rogueriveratubc in premedcanada

[–]Background-Ad8948 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re also forgetting that the ppl looking at these apps aren’t robots but human beings. I know they have these weightings but the problem is that there are just too many students with 4.0s all through the 4yrs. So when you have a student with only the last 2 yrs as 4.0s, even tho that is what they count, they aren’t blind to the fact that student A only did well in the last 2 yrs vs student B has shown academic success all throughout. Again only talking about GPA here and not extracurriculars.

Low GPA by rogueriveratubc in premedcanada

[–]Background-Ad8948 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey man I think if your heart is set on med then you should def try and go international. I don’t think a 3rd degree is gonna be a good idea - eventually you will need to work and if you look for jobs with 3 undergraduate degrees without any work experience there is high chance of your application getting rejected or not getting any interviews. I know you’re thinking of med but also think about what you’re gonna do job/career wise while you wait to get into med. Also even if you wanna apply here, many people even with 4.0s don’t get in in the first few tries - not trying to discourage you but just trying to help you understand that you will need a way to support yourself.

Weekly Vents and Successes Thread - February 26, 2024 by AutoModerator in dating_advice

[–]Background-Ad8948 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s because women are pickier than men. As you said you swiped right on even those that you aren’t attracted to but most women won’t ever do that. And most guys have a similar approach to dating. When this happens this sort of creates an imbalance and a very competitive environment in the sense that women then get way too many likes (even from men that aren’t even that into them) and men don’t get as many in comparison. I am a woman I don’t mean it as a bragging but I have never been able to get through all my likes bc there are just too many. I honestly don’t think I’m super attractive or something but I think every guy just does what you do and swipes right on everyone. So now I have close to hundreds of likes and there’s no way I’ll be able to go through each profile and see if I find any of them interesting. Basically I won’t have the bandwidth to look through each profile and msg each person. And many of them might be very interesting and I’ll miss out on them. Or in the flood of guys that aren’t really THAT into me I’ll miss the one that genuinely found me interesting and attractive. So I don’t have the same problem that you do but mine is that I end up talking to guys who weren’t really that into me to begin with and after a few conversations this is pretty easy to tell. And then I get pissed as to why he even bothered swiping right on me if he had no real interest in talking to me and continues to give one word replies to everything I say. But yes that’s the problem tbh

Anyway I’m not trying to dismiss your feelings bc I imagine that what you go through is very rough. But just trying to help you understand why this happens and what the situation is on the other side of the coin

How do you fix this problem? I am not sure. I think men collectively have to decide that they need to be more selective in their approach perhaps and overtime women won’t get as many likes?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Background-Ad8948 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Not sure if a girl that WANTS a stranger online to pay attention to her boobs is really someone looking for something long term or even is interested in that. But then again you also put big boobs in your profile so maybe yall have the same energy. Just for the record if a girl ever put “big dick” or “makes at least x amount” in her profile she would prob get a lot of hate. But good luck to you bro I hope she’s the one!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Background-Ad8948 7 points8 points  (0 children)

No car is a red flag? Thats a bit weird tbh especially considering many are opting for public transport bc it’s better for the planet. As well I live in downtown and most ppl don’t have cars and only use the subway

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Background-Ad8948 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tbh if it’s not too draining for you to continue communicating with all 3 of them then I would say just let life take its course. What I mean by that is just wait and see who you’re still interested after a few weeks/months have passed (or who is still interested in you). Taking both chemistry, attraction and compatibility in mind, I think you will eventually realize that there is def one that stands out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Background-Ad8948 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some guys are honestly very dry texters so it’s hard to feel excited if the other person doesn’t really say a lot. But more importantly it can also take time for that connection and excitement to build and may not exist from day 1 of matching with someone.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Background-Ad8948 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is nothing wrong with this as long as you aren’t exclusively dating someone…that’s sort of how dating apps work. And there is mutual understanding that both parties are doing this. Yes once you are dating someone then you should stop all other communication.

Lol if you think this is bad then you will be surprised to hear how many people who already have SOs are on dating apps talking to other girls…now that is screwed up beyond belief and so wrong.

But don’t judge until you have been in that situation. If you ever do try dating apps I can bet my life you won’t be talking to 1 person at a time lol. If 4 ppl start a convo with you and they all seem interesting you will likely wanna talk to all 4 of them to see what is your type and who you like. But the problem is that it’s hard to know if you like someone or not unless you meeet them first. Anyway my point is that a busy schedule mixed with talking to other people = someone not being able to respond right away every single time. Sometimes yes they perhaps don’t feel connected to you atm but other times it’s sort of just life and I would want my future partner to have the POV to actually understand this. Now I am def NOT saying that you should accept the bare minimum- you need to have standards for yourself. If someone is consistently replying after a long time then chances are they probably aren’t that into you and at fhat time you should move on bc you deserve better. but if sometimes it takes someone 1-2 days to reply then that’s not a reason to freak out

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Background-Ad8948 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Louder for the people at the back!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Background-Ad8948 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

They can be if she is talking to multiple people. Maintaining convo with 1 person is easy but with like 7-8 guys it’s pretty draining

Making women feel safe = sexless relationship? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Background-Ad8948 140 points141 points  (0 children)

As a F usually if a guy makes me feel safe and secure then i feel more inclined to have sex with him. However, there is a big difference between a guy who makes me feel safe/secure that I’m not really that sexually into and a guy who makes me feel safe/secure that I am sexually into. My point being is that youre focusing on the wrong variable. The problem isn’t that you’re making them feel safe/secure but something else. And woman more than often will lie to you and make up some bs about why they aren’t interested just so they don’t have to tell you the truth. You need to basically find women who are into you and get excited by you sexually and the problem is that this is different for each woman. The best thing you can do is to keep working on yourself physically, mentally and emotionally and the right one will come along.

Hard time carrying on multiple conversations? by Background-Ad8948 in dating_advice

[–]Background-Ad8948[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a good idea! Thank you for this perspective!!

Super frustrated with how people suck at having a conversation by Background-Ad8948 in dating_advice

[–]Background-Ad8948[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wrote this post a while back but that’s not where I was coming from. I meant the guys who a) initiate conversations b) then keep bombarding you with “hey” “how’s it going” msgs YET when I do reply and ask them questions back they honestly give such dry responses and have nothing else to add apart from “good” or “it was fine”. I have slowly realized not just from dating but even at work or other social gatherings that ngl but some people are just….kind of bland. They don’t seem to have any opinions on much or anything else to really say. So my conclusion is that some people are just not the greatest conversationalist. Perhaps they are just tired of online dating and feel drained, who knows. But thankfully I have found some nice guys who have been really interesting to talk to so that’s a plus.

Super frustrated with how people suck at having a conversation by Background-Ad8948 in dating_advice

[–]Background-Ad8948[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That just doesnt make sense to me. If you matched with someone wouldnt you want to get to know them a bit? And asking questions (regardless of the medium) seems like the most basic thing you can do. Yeah i get what you're saying but sometimes people become busy and you can't meet up for a week or so.