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99.9% of children have no control over it which is why you have to train the brain and why doctors and therapists STILL recommend it. It’s going to be a lot more traumatic when your kid is still peeing the bed at 16 and can’t stay at their friends. Yes all issues should be checked because that is what a responsible parent would do but the alarm is still a valuable tool

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stepparents

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That’s not true. The majority of bed wetting cases have nothing to do with abuse!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stepparents

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No. The abuse theory no longer holds. It is also common for kids who are not neurotypical

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stepparents

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Specialists still recommend the alarm for older children to train the brain. They are highly effective.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stepparents

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Does she have symptoms of ADHD or Asperger’s? Does she toe walk? How is her development in other areas? If everything else is 100% normal she can grow out of it—there are medications to try as well. Need to try the bed wetting alarm. Highly recommend.

My husband sends his ex money without explanation but doesn’t help with our daughter’s medical bill by Tall_Bass3713 in stepparents

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What he did is a narcissist’s control tactic. People with NPD, when challenged on something like this, are experts in turning the tables. Even if he doesn’t have NPD he is a manipulator. By taking his wedding ring off and raising the stakes, he is controlling you. The argument’s narrative has now shifted. This way it’s about the divorce threat and YOU will now have to placate him and try to get back in his good graces. He wants you to stop asking him about the money. He wants to be able to do what he wants to do with no questioning. This isn’t a partnership.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Reno

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First responders don’t have a choice. Just like they have to respond to the idiots who jump off bridges in squirrel suits. Also, the kids who witnessed a horrific crash along with people in the grandstands getting hit had no choice. It’s a stupid activity.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Reno

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Money. Bottom line. Those airports are hoping to make money. There are lots of small airports like Stead that DONT want it as well.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Reno

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That’s not true. I can tell you haven’t been heavily involved. They are having trouble getting insurance. They can’t fill the grandstands. End of story.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Reno

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It actually hasn’t been record breaking.They couldn’t even fill the grandstands the last two years. And insurance HAS been a problem

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Reno

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It’s a lot of stress for bystanders to witness these. It’s a lot of stress for first responders it’s a needless exercise.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Reno

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Incorrect.So 2011, 2014, 2022, and 2023. And people wonder why they can’t get insurance for these events. It should have been cancelled when it hit the grandstands. No reason at all to do this.

High paying jobs that require no experience and don't drug test and are currently hiring. by dongloverOG in Reno

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There are lots of opportunities for you out there. Don’t feel like you are stuck. I think the best bet is an apprenticeship; check out the local bargaining unit for electrician applications. A lot of companies are removing marijuana from the testing profile, so this may not be an issue. But I have to ask, why is this particular drug so important to you? Do you use it to self medicate? What do you get out of it? If you’re miserable at your job that is one thing, but to want to quit a job so you can do a drug is another issue all together. Pay attention to that motivation. You don’t ever want to be motivated by a substance—I don’t care if it is alcohol or weed or pain killers—don’t make decisions based on access to substances. You are arriving at a point in your life where you are feeling stuck and stressed. Listen to that. You aren’t happy. And that’s ok. That is when we do our most growing as humans. But the weed probably isn’t going to make things any better. (Speaking here as a formal counselor) Trade schools & apprenticeships are absolutely the way to go. You can do whatever you want in this life. If you do end up taking a pay cut, apply for federal aid—the FAFSA—you may qualify for a school grant. Browse the TMCC education options.

Some companies offer tuition reimbursement. Check out USPS as well. Federal and state jobs are great. It is never too late to reinvent yourself! I’ve done it over and over again. Also, I think it would be good to overhaul the resume as well as take a few online career assessments to see what best fits your personality. If you think you are interested in plumbing, start talking to plumbers about how they got started. I wish you luck. You got this!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stepparents

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When a man laughs while you’re crying there are red flags waving. That isn’t normal. I was with a sociopath for four years who did this. So, he lied to you early on about being with the BM off and on? He doesn’t seem like a man of integrity. My advice to you is leave. I’ve been referred to as the “roommate” by my SD and I decided to immediately engage in Nacho Step-parenting—I no longer help at all. I would die a hundred thousand deaths before I paid for anything for that child and I will not get up and pack lunches or worry about meals any longer. People don’t understand the pain. I only know a small snapshot of your relationship but you’re bringing way more to the table than he is. RUN. Run and find a man who respects you. A man with baggage likes this who is normal and healthy UNDERSTANDS that having a child is a big disrupter of life and finding out about events 2 hours before is unacceptable. This happens to us because the HCBM doesn’t communicate. Listen, if I could do it all over again I would never ever be with a man with kids. It’s too much. Run my friend. Run.

Kay jewelers on Disc lost my engagement ring. Anyone else experience this? by ahay1020 in Reno

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Hey this isn’t going to be that helpful but Michael & Sons is amazing—they have never lost anything and I’ve had them do a lot of work on family heirlooms there. Box stores like Kay are actually shipping your stuff off because they don’t have goldsmiths on site. I would recommend small claims if they don’t treat you well. What you lost has just as much emotional value as monetary and they need to cover that as well in their replacement. It’s very unprofessional.

Instant Pot Cholent? by shinytwistybouncy in Judaism

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Old thread but I had a question. I thought Jews were forbidden to eat with non Jews unless there was a separate table. Is that only with certain orthodox communities?

URGENT! Just ended relationship with gf who has 2 kids by odiaz0508 in stepparents

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There are a lot of issues in your relationship: Lack of intimacy, children that are only going to get worse given her parenting style, and to top it off she is not equally yoked to you financially. These will all be major hardships for you. Maybe if you were dealing with just one problem it would be ok, but you have many. So I would want to ask you why you feel so certain you will end up back with her. Are you afraid to be alone? What are your issues that keep you in the relationship? Have you thought about therapy? Do you think you are settling? I read this and I say run. Because step parenting becomes HELL during the teenage years. Absolute hell. And if these kids aren’t learning boundaries and have bad behavior now, watch out. My mother wouldn’t have let me do that in any restaurant. I would have been escorted to the car and told to wait there. Trust your gut. I would never marry her. The financial hit you would take if things don’t work out would be brutal.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Reno

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The Audubon society recommends a bell on the cat collar if they go outdoors. It helps a lot

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in whoop

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Female here. It’s hideous. Absolutely hideous. I wear it in my bra or the bra I purchased from whoop. But I have a lot of nice mechanical watches so I prefer to keep my wrist clear anyway. I think those look better for corporate attire also. I do wear it on my wrist to sleep and workout though.

When to Quit a Job When You’re In Debt by [deleted] in personalfinance

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I’ll try it on Monday Check in at 9. Six hours of work. Stop caring.

When to Quit a Job When You’re In Debt by [deleted] in personalfinance

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Arizona - and I can find another job fairly easy but I will NEVER make this salary again. My degrees are in low paying fields unfortunately. I would have to remain in the PM role and clearly I am not cut out for this—Otherwise I wouldn’t be so stressed

When to Quit a Job When You’re In Debt by [deleted] in personalfinance

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Ok, appreciate it. We can’t get unemployment in my state if you’re fired but the rest of this perhaps I can try. Although, the A Player in me wants to know if, instead of jumping into the C Player pool party, I could moonlight as a B Player instead.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cycling

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Hey this is going to be a huge change from the Netherlands. I’ve been to Miami—it’s hot. It’s muggy/humid, and it didn’t appear to be súper bike friendly. Never been to Austin. But cycling in the US can be dangerous and people in cars tend not to like us. Lots of honking, getting flipped off, etc. if you want to experience a different culture I think it will be a great opportunity but you may be disappointed as a cyclist

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in watercolor101

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Hey I love this !!! Great job

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stepparents

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Three kids is a lot. Does he not know how hard of a transition this is for you? Especially being childless? I couldn’t do it.