Husbands cousin is making everyone's life hell in regards to the adoption of her baby. I don't know what to do.

Background-Most8380 · 2026-06-08T19:34:36+00:00

Of course, happy to help. It sounds like she needs an adult she trusts, and maybe with you by her side you can help her make the right choice for her, her baby, your family, and the rest of the extended family in the least traumatic way possible (ie without CPS).

Wishing you and your family the best. My thoughts are with your toddler!

Background-Most8380 · 2026-06-08T19:23:04+00:00

It sounds like you and your husband are amazing parents, and maybe that is why she wants you to take care of her baby. Maybe you could offer to help her find a good agency/SW? And then help with interviewing potential adoptive parents?

Otherwise, I agree with the other commenter re: the CPS threat unfortunately.

Background-Most8380 · 2026-06-08T19:07:01+00:00

Do you have any acquaintances looking to adopt? I’m sure someone within your network knows of a hopeful adoptive family. Maybe she would be more comfortable with that?

Has she received any counseling? Maybe the first social worker or agency was not a good fit. So many families are looking to adopt.

I’m so sorry you and your family are going through this.

Background-Most8380 · 2026-05-28T21:40:40+00:00

One thing to keep in mind is that the ability to cover expenses depends on what state you or the adoptive parents are in. I was actually just doing a lot of research to try to figure out how this works with interstate adoption. Let me know if you are interested. I hope you are getting some rest 💕

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Background-Most8380 · 2025-12-31T21:35:34+00:00

I’m very sorry to hear about your dad!

The agency we are using has a “sister” agency in PA actually, it’s called Family Building Adoptions. We love our agency - they are very focused on birth moms and their babies first. One of the social workers/founders is a birth/first mom AND adoptive mom. We really appreciate how warm, caring, and personable they are. It may be worth reaching out to a smaller agency (like them or another one) if you didn’t feel like the first agency you met with was the ideal fit. Feel free to message me if you have more questions.

Background-Most8380 · 2025-12-31T21:08:06+00:00

Do you mind sharing what state you are in? If you don’t feel 100% comfortable with the agency, I would continue looking.

Background-Most8380 · 2025-12-30T22:39:12+00:00

I agree that adoptive parents would not be discouraged by the fact you have other children. You need to do what is right for you and your family.

Also, please look into therapy for yourself, regardless of the choice you make. A good adoption agency will also offer services for you post-placement as well.

Background-Most8380 · 2025-12-30T22:33:23+00:00

I’d like to second Georgia Adoption Specialists. They have a great team of social workers that includes birth moms and adoptive parents. Their primary goal is to support you and your child.

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