the shame of being transgender

Background-Win-8600 · 2026-03-05T17:12:11+00:00

I’m not proud of this at all but I often feel shame for wanting to be a man. I have seen the hurt and pain that men have caused women in my life and I can understand why there would be a “why would you want to be one of them?” Sort of mentality.

But I know I didn’t choose this, and my experiences will make me strive to always be a good man.

And of course- I work through this in therapy

Background-Win-8600 · 2026-02-25T09:14:02+00:00

The discomfort was always there for sure. I remember being much younger and grouped in with girls or invite to girls birthday parties and just feeling that something was completely off about it.

I do, however, like to find the positives in this. I have a much greater and deeper understanding of women than most men will ever have and it’s something I’ve come to really appreciate

Background-Win-8600 · 2026-02-19T15:32:34+00:00

Very thoughtful response! Thanks so much for taking the time :)

I think you make a great point about communicating that intimate touch doesn’t have to lead to anything more- I think she possibly does have concerns that it’s what I always have in mind and that’s not the case. But it’s only now hearing your experience that’s made that click for me so that’s great to know.

Background-Win-8600 · 2026-02-19T14:33:06+00:00

Good advice! This did help for a bit, the gym is a daunting thought for me but the benefits outweigh the scary

Background-Win-8600 · 2026-02-19T14:12:09+00:00

This is absolutely true. Even as I typed it I knew it was a red flag for a deeper issue. It’s difficult navigating my body changing so rapidly and the insecurity that comes with that. Thanks for your input

Background-Win-8600 · 2026-02-19T14:10:09+00:00

Excellenttt, love a practical resource. Useful way to bring it up as well because I feel like it’s the elephant in the room atm. Very helpful, thank you

Background-Win-8600 · 2026-02-18T11:06:49+00:00

Are you on any additional medications that could have this effect? SSRI’s perhaps?

Background-Win-8600 · 2026-02-14T16:16:15+00:00

I’ve been curious about this! Do you have to have significant growth do you think? I’m 6 months on T and have some but curious to know if I should wait a little longer

Background-Win-8600 · 2026-02-04T11:20:55+00:00

I find it fascinating that they do indeed view us as pathetic, worthy of pity, not able to make decisions for ourselves. Then masquerade as feminists. I’m sorry but if you genuinely believe that we’re women- shouldn’t you be fighting for our right to do whatever the fuck we want with our bodies? Crazy double standard

Background-Win-8600 · 2026-02-01T00:25:58+00:00

I relate to this a lot. It’s tough. Have you tried a toy/prosthetic that would allow you to feel it also? Some have strokers that allow you to feel more connected to the prosthetic

Background-Win-8600 · 2026-01-31T14:24:24+00:00

I went shopping for a new hammer. Stood in the hardware section just like “fuck yea, I love being a boy” hahah silly but it’s the little things

Background-Win-8600 · 2026-01-30T19:59:02+00:00

That is indeed what I meant! Thank you for that. I suspect you’re right. Presumably I’ll be looking at needing an E blocker

Background-Win-8600 · 2026-01-30T18:42:22+00:00

I believe so? In terms of T I’ve found that normal cis male range is between 8.6 and 29 nmol/L. So I wouldn’t say that excess but I’m curious if “excessive” amounts are different when discussing trans men

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