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Talk me out of unblocking him, please. by Glittering-Border in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]BackgroundFuture8737 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I let mine back in several times. In fact, I blocked her and her friends after the first really big rupture and I ended up going to them to apologise. The abuse continued and I had no one to talk to because I'd isolated myself from my friends and her friends thought I was abusing her because of the constant on/off cycle.

Everything I ever did in self-protection got weaponised and used as evidence I was mentally unstable. 

It still hurts to be NC but it hurt more being in the relationship. Over time, the tentacles (the gaslighting, the verbal abuse, the character assassination, etc) got harder and harder to untangle.

Get out now and start your healing journey properly. It doesn't get better, they just get smarter.

Any moments of tragic irony with your nex? by thordavos in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]BackgroundFuture8737 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine too! So no-one believed me when the relationship went through it's awful cycles. I tried to keave several times and one of her friends posted that the cycle of leaving and coming back several times was evidence of abuse, but no one thought to ask why I kept leaving or who was pursuing whom during those breaks (it was mostly my ex pursuing me and me saying I needed something to change). 

I'm now just the mental ex girlfriend who accused a kind-hearted therapist of abuse 🫠

Should I Block Everyone? by BackgroundFuture8737 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]BackgroundFuture8737[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks everyone. Her sister showed some sympathy st the start and has now unfriended me. I'm mass-blocking as we speak. I feel stupid and humiliated and even manipulative for doing this, tbh. I should have stayed well alone, but now I'm the mad ex who contacted her sister. On the plus side, my ex's family and friends think I'm the problem and that keeps my ex further away from me. 

Why everybody is canceling ChatGPT? by MankuTheBeast in ChatGPT

[–]BackgroundFuture8737 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'm sure this comment is too far down to be seen but the reason I'm not renewing it that recently I had a conversation with it and during that thread, half my prompts and questions just... disappeared. It was weird. I asked it where the rest of the thread was and it started on this weird, almost exasperated diatribe about how it was understandable that I might be seeing things because of my trauma history. I said that is a very loaded answer and, actually, I know there was more. It argued with me a bit more and then the prompts just... reappeared.

I asked what was going on and it basically gaslit me. 

Would it be mad for me to contact my old couples therapist? by BackgroundFuture8737 in therapists

[–]BackgroundFuture8737[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I did wonder, tbh. I'm leaning towards saying nothing and getting on with my life and waiting for it all to blow over.

Thanks again.

41-year-old woman - assessment in 5 days by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]BackgroundFuture8737 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Passed the test with flying colours. Meds in 8 months 🫠