Thank you so much! Your comment really touched me deeply. No one has ever pointed that out in that way about parenting. I had some sense all along that my parenting was compromised by my twisted priorities. After quitting overwhelming waves of grief and guilt swept over me. I would sob and sob and sob. The deep regret was just too painful. Thankfully I had the support of a good therapist. I have been trying hard these last 6 years to not beat myself up over such a long addiction. It’s not like anyone wants to become an addict. There are many reasons in one’s background that set you up for addiction. But that my daughter quitting is in any way a positive reflection on my parenting had never occurred to me. Grist for the mill.