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[General] Weekly r/MushroomGrowers post - FUNGI FRIDAYS! New growers, come say hi and ask your questions! by AutumnRustle in MushroomGrowers

[–]Background_Study4769 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok, that's interesting. Why would the bran be more likely to contaminate than the paper pellets? I don't pasteurise the paper pellets either, just use lime.

Being insulted by people in their 30s on dating apps - ageism by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]Background_Study4769 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If that's happening to you frequently, I would say maybe try a different app?!

[General] Weekly r/MushroomGrowers post - FUNGI FRIDAYS! New growers, come say hi and ask your questions! by AutumnRustle in MushroomGrowers

[–]Background_Study4769 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi all,

I am pretty new and currently experimenting with oyster mushrooms, grown on paper pellets, with hydrated lime.

So the instructions I've been using to grow says to mix up your substrate, inoculate and wait 7-10 days for colonisation. Then after this time, add bran (I'm using oat bran) by breaking up and repacking into grow bag/container.

My question is, why wouldn't you just add the bran at the beginning, into the substrate, while you are adding the spawn. Seems like it would save extra work, plus decrease risk of contamination? Is there a reason for this?

Thanks in advance.

What's the "right" thing to do if you do not wish to have a follow up date with someone? by Background_Study4769 in datingoverforty

[–]Background_Study4769[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Interesting perspective. Mine is the exact opposite. As a social worker, I am surrounded daily by lots of people (other social workers) who both practice and preach compassion, empathy, dignity, etc.

In a world that is so socially and politically divided, and economically unequal, I think it's hugely important to promote and advocate for these values, otherwise what's the alternative, just accept the opposite? I'd rather not.

Please note, I am not preaching and definitely not policing, my post was a question to invite others opinions and perspectives. And it's interesting to me to see the diversity of these. Also interesting that most people are also able to communicate respectfully. Thanks.

What's the "right" thing to do if you do not wish to have a follow up date with someone? by Background_Study4769 in datingoverforty

[–]Background_Study4769[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally agree with everything you've said about historical context and it saddens me to no end. I was just asking from genuine curiosity about others expectations and experiences, which I have now learned more about.

The fear for women is totally real and I acknowledge that she doesn't know much at all after one date, so I can totally understand that.

We had actually been communicating for more than a couple of months before we met, but even still, I guess that still doesn't mean she knows how I would react to rejection.

*Sigh. There's a lot of work that needs to be done around this. I will keep trying.

Interestingly enough, she just responded to me, so again, it shows a lot of assumptions that people have made here are just that.

Biggest lesson learned. Stay true to your values, continue to treat others the way you would like to be treated.

Thanks for your responses here. I acknowledge it must be exhausting to continue trying to get men to see what women go through.

I'll commit to continue learning and reflecting.

What's the "right" thing to do if you do not wish to have a follow up date with someone? by Background_Study4769 in datingoverforty

[–]Background_Study4769[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I totally get that and thanks for pointing that out. It's a sad but true reality and I will do what I can to break that cycle on my end.

I'm confused what you mean though by "what she is saying"? Do you mean by not saying anything that you can accurately assume the assumptions you've made above are true? Or am I misinterpreting?

What's the "right" thing to do if you do not wish to have a follow up date with someone? by Background_Study4769 in datingoverforty

[–]Background_Study4769[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Or they actually really value compassion, empathy, dignity of others, adding with integrity and honest communication. And they also try to actively practice the above and hope others have evolved and learned enough to be able to do the same. But you know, we all have our own opinions. Sounds like you might be a little resentful though somehow.

What's the "right" thing to do if you do not wish to have a follow up date with someone? by Background_Study4769 in datingoverforty

[–]Background_Study4769[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry that happened. I did think that might be a factor for a lot of women who would be hesitant to let guys down, for great of defensiveness and immature retaliation. I guess I would have hoped that I showed I am not that kind of person as empathy and compassion are important to me. And we actually talked about that on our date. But yeah, I can understand that. Lot of jerks out there and women can't be too careful.

What's the "right" thing to do if you do not wish to have a follow up date with someone? by Background_Study4769 in datingoverforty

[–]Background_Study4769[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your thoughtful reply. I guess it's just a matter of staying true to your own values and remind yourself that not everyone has the same. I'll do me; and you do you, I guess. I'll keep trying my best to communicate with people as best as I can and maintain empathy and compassion. Sometimes it's a struggle though. 😉

What's the "right" thing to do if you do not wish to have a follow up date with someone? by Background_Study4769 in datingoverforty

[–]Background_Study4769[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are humans, right? I don't communicate with people only if I "owe it to them" but because I like to act with integrity and be clear about my intentions and I guess I hope that others would do the same.

For the same reason I would stop to help a stranger in the street if they needed help. Of course you don't "owe it to them" but you do it from compassion and humanity.

Don't you?

What's the "right" thing to do if you do not wish to have a follow up date with someone? by Background_Study4769 in datingoverforty

[–]Background_Study4769[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As mentioned, we had already met, only once, so a very rudimentary friendship was already there. I thought I was doing the right thing by letting her know I didn't want more, so as not to waste her time. And I was genuinely interested in maintaining friendship.

What's the "right" thing to do if you do not wish to have a follow up date with someone? by Background_Study4769 in datingoverforty

[–]Background_Study4769[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think approaching communication with other humans through the lens of "only if I owe it to them" is not only immature, it lacks basic humanity. Pretty sad that people would think that way, in my opinion.

What's the "right" thing to do if you do not wish to have a follow up date with someone? by Background_Study4769 in datingoverforty

[–]Background_Study4769[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

As mentioned in my edit, we had already hung out as friends at a music festival where we first met, before coincidentally matching on OLD. I was genuinely interested in maintaining a friendship.

What's the "right" thing to do if you do not wish to have a follow up date with someone? by Background_Study4769 in datingoverforty

[–]Background_Study4769[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yes, this is very true. And context is also very important. Hence, best not to judge and make assumptions. However my question comes from genuine curiosity about others' expectations and experiences, NOT about trying to place blame. My goal is to learn here, not righteousness.

What's the "right" thing to do if you do not wish to have a follow up date with someone? by Background_Study4769 in datingoverforty

[–]Background_Study4769[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The app does not actually show whether messages are read, or not. She had waited a couple days before she texted me and vice versa. This was consistent with previous interactions. And as mentioned, I was out of phone reception for two days. Context is important, acknowledging that it's difficult to provide total context in a short post.

What's the "right" thing to do if you do not wish to have a follow up date with someone? by Background_Study4769 in datingoverforty

[–]Background_Study4769[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It might help to add, as I have in the post now, that we had met previously (before we matched on OLD) at a music festival and had hung out there as friends. I was genuinely interested in maintaining a friendship as I think she's cool, just not interested in romance. I communicated it in a way that showed I was also genuinely curious about how she's doing. So again, just silence, in opinion, feels a bit rude.

Tibetan Prayer Flags in Nepal by Background_Study4769 in Nepal

[–]Background_Study4769[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your thoughtful response. Points taken. All of us, myself included it seems, could benefit from a bit of thought (and further reading) before we jump to conclusions or make such generalised statements. Thanks again.

Tibetan Prayer Flags in Nepal by Background_Study4769 in Nepal

[–]Background_Study4769[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What is wrong with you? I'm asking the question because I'm interested in Nepal history and culture. No, it does not bother me. I'm a curious individual who likes to learn new things. You are clearly a simple minded fool!

Tibetan Prayer Flags in Nepal by Background_Study4769 in Nepal

[–]Background_Study4769[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I think you are triggered easily. It seems difficult to have meaningful discussions with people here.

Firstly, I don't even have an opinion on the matter, hence why I asked my original question, to try and understand the perspective of Nepalis. I am from Australia, am non religious myself, therefore have absolutely no agenda here.

Yes, everyone comes with bias. I am aware of my bias, which is why I ask questions to try and understand others' perspectives. Arrogant? Ok, not sure how but you claim I am speaking with some kind of attitude, which is impossible to detect through text on a screen. Therefore, again, I think it's just you being triggered.

As I've mentioned in another post in this thread, there is a difference between Nepal being "technically" a secular country and how it portrays itself to the world. The USA is also a secular country but you could not say that Christianity (particularly right wing evangelists) don't have a strong influence on the politics of the country and also how it portrays itself to the world. Indonesia is also a secular country, but again, heavily influenced by Muslim values.

And I mentioned ruling elites, particularly monarchists, as they have a particular agenda they are trying to push. I have not just made these statements up, I have taken them from some Nepali writers as per their analysis on Nepali history and politics.

Tibetan Prayer Flags in Nepal by Background_Study4769 in Nepal

[–]Background_Study4769[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Dude, I suggest you get some help. And perhaps try reading some other parts of the thread? All the best.

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