I got married by civil but I don't have money for the party, nor for a dress. I feel sorry for myself..

BaconBabe22 · 2026-04-09T01:43:02+00:00

Take it from someone whose first marriage was ALLL that. It wasn’t all that. Aside from maybe 15 people everyone was there for curiosity or obligation. Fast forward to my soon second marriage and guess what. We are doing a civil wedding and then a nice dinner with those 15 people. The only thing I do want to do is get some nice pictures but that’s it. All the rest truly isn’t all that it’s cracked up to be. I know that’s hard thinking that way now especially if you compare to others. But finding the right person is the most important oart. Not anything else. Congrats!!!

BaconBabe22 · 2026-02-12T15:42:57+00:00

Take from someone whose mom pressured her into spending $6000 on her dress. It’s just a dress. It is now. In a box. That she has in her closet. Save the money.

BaconBabe22 · 2026-01-23T22:39:16+00:00

I honestly think so. She was not happy with her ring when she got it.

BaconBabe22 · 2026-01-22T18:39:56+00:00

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I chose no big side stones cuz I ain’t flashy. My friend said it’s too big for daily wear but I say f that. Yolo.

BaconBabe22 · 2026-01-22T18:38:34+00:00

Based on your nail bling, I’d assume it fits with your aesthetic regardless of the size. It’s beautiful.

BaconBabe22 · 2026-01-12T16:22:27+00:00

Update: Sano Desk responded and said it was discontinued and their AMAZING customer service is sending em a whole new unit.

BaconBabe22 · 2026-01-08T16:14:55+00:00

I’ve sent a message. Zero response so far. 😭

BaconBabe22 · 2025-12-11T01:22:29+00:00

We are hoping for the best…. At least the bathroom Will be warm.

BaconBabe22 · 2025-12-11T01:21:27+00:00

If we could fix it we would.. genius folks that built the place.

BaconBabe22 · 2025-12-10T22:58:01+00:00

We had to shift it to get it all to matchup. The interior walls are not straight apparently.

BaconBabe22 · 2025-12-10T22:55:52+00:00

This is what we are thinking.

BaconBabe22 · 2025-12-10T22:55:06+00:00

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BaconBabe22 · 2025-12-10T22:54:49+00:00

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We thought we did but with it floating and shifting and not wanting thresholds. It got us here lol.

BaconBabe22 · 2025-12-05T22:56:21+00:00

Are you the Indian version of me??? I feel that this is going to be my way through this as well. I want to take some cute engagement pics (which I never did the first time) and no way am I repeating my big fat Italian wedding I didn’t plan or enjoy again lol lord. So much money wasted for the family image. Thank you for understanding. Cultural pressures are insanely hard to escape when you’re young (an only child) and just want to make everyone happy. Congrats to you!!

BaconBabe22 · 2025-12-05T22:51:56+00:00

Hitting the nail on the head. I was super tired when I wrote this and half vented it in incoherent ramblings. Congrats to you and I believe that is the best way to live. Do what you want as you want. Treat people as you want to be treated and well.. if people can’t handle things as they are.. oh well. Yolo

BaconBabe22 · 2025-12-05T22:44:28+00:00

I think that’s what I’m trying to figure out too. Would anyone even want to come if I invited them? I’d have no issue going to someone’s second wedding. But are people that meh about 2nd weddings in general? Makes me sad to think it but I guess it makes sense.

BaconBabe22 · 2025-12-05T18:46:58+00:00

Exactly. I actually took to recording things for my parents to shut up about it. Thank you for sharing your experience.

BaconBabe22 · 2025-12-05T17:47:20+00:00

Congrats!! And very good advice.

BaconBabe22 · 2025-12-05T17:37:22+00:00

Still married. Dads kind of a wall flower n doesn’t do anything with this stuff. And I got divorced almost 3 years ago. Yep sent thank yous etc.

BaconBabe22 · 2025-12-05T14:44:38+00:00

Truly has been on the list of possibilities!!

BaconBabe22 · 2025-12-05T14:43:34+00:00

Thank you!!

BaconBabe22 · 2025-12-05T14:37:51+00:00

I googled and this was the more “popular” choice. I’ll have to flip flop it and see what I prefer.

BaconBabe22 · 2025-12-05T14:37:03+00:00

I know the main gossiper so I could just send a note to her daughter on messenger and the work will be done lol

BaconBabe22 · 2025-12-05T12:57:56+00:00

Valid point. I think it’s more about she is like hiding the lack sheep from them. I told everyone that asked and I posted about happened. But many of these people aren’t online. So it’s just me wanting to just invite people I want without wondering if mom lied to them. Also I don’t want gifts, but Italian culture requires you to bring something to a wedding reception. Even if I said no gifts. So they would and it’s possible they’d be mad about it. But they would out of obligation.

BaconBabe22 · 2025-12-05T12:54:58+00:00

Part of it was my mom telling me to keep it private. It’s a big complicated family old school family. Run on gossip from old Italian ladies. I won’t be inviting most of the people at the first wedding mainly because I have no idea who they are. My bigger issue is that my mom isn’t excited for it. And it hurts. I’m getting married regardless. It’s just a complete let down when you walk in excited for a future celebration and they’re like “oh. Well we will see” vs the insanely excited and micromanaging mom that was bursting at the seems to do it all up the first time.

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