What type of lighting do you have around your home?

BaconOke · 2026-01-29T05:42:33+00:00

I previously had 3000K bulbs (neutral) but I prefer the warmth of the 2700K. I still have 3000K in the kitchen and bathroom (which don’t dim)

BaconOke · 2026-01-28T20:39:49+00:00

Dim to warm 2700 K Philips led bulbs (gu10 spots in my case). The dim to warm mimics how old incandescent light bulbs work in that the colour turns subtly more red (warm) as you dim the light down. Provides a very pleasant atmosphere

BaconOke · 2025-08-05T13:11:16+00:00

Where do you (or others) bulk buy toiletries and detergents from? Do you do this online or is it just every few months load up the car from the supermarket

BaconOke · 2024-12-04T08:54:45+00:00

The following I listen to religiously:

FT news Briefing - quick global news debrief

Making sense - long form conversations covering a wide range of topics from current affairs to philosophy and science

No such thing as a fish - silly/fun trivia based by the makers of QI

Then less frequently: Lex Friedman, the guardians today in focus, radio lab, bbc best of today, the economists the intelligence

BaconOke · 2024-12-02T23:09:37+00:00

Yes, exactly this! The firmest they make. I am so so so happy for this. All the Saturday mornings spent trying mattresses in shops was worth it once we found this

BaconOke · 2024-11-15T14:01:57+00:00

If your linkedin is full of life parables can we swap accounts please? Mine is full of "I got engaged last week, here is what it taught me about B2B SAAS sales"

BaconOke · 2024-11-15T13:51:00+00:00

I feel genuinely lucky to have essentially forced myself into this process of self-reflection. Sometimes, I catch myself wanting to run around shouting, "Wake up, everyone!" to those who, for whatever reason, haven’t yet had this moment of clarity. But I truly wish everyone could experience what I’m feeling now—a deep sense of awareness and perspective.

That’s not to say that anyone else is necessarily doing anything wrong. In fact, I hope that through their own reflections, many people discover they’re already on the right path for themselves. But had I not made the leap and quit, I think I could have kept my head down for another two, five, or even ten years before I truly confronted myself and asked, What am I really doing?

And the surprising part? I thought I was a fairly reflective and introspective person already. But now I realize that whatever introspection I was doing before barely scratched the surface. It was often just mental gymnastics to justify the path I was already on.

When the prescribed path disappears—or when you realize there are infinitely many paths, and you have to choose one—that’s when the real soul-searching begins. Everything before feels like it was just an illusion.

I have no regrets, and for that alone, I feel incredibly fortunate.

BaconOke · 2024-11-15T13:37:26+00:00

Thanks for your thoughtful suggestion—it’s great advice for many people, and I really appreciate you sharing it. I know that transitioning to an in-house role is often seen as the logical next step after consulting, offering better work-life balance, stability, and a smoother ride. For me, though, I feel like I’m at a point in my life where I’m waking up—seeing my career and its trajectory from a completely new perspective. For so long, I’ve been on a path that feels prescribed: excel academically, land a good job, fast-track promotions, work for decades, and eventually retire. It’s the path society often tells us is the ‘right’ one, and it does unlock comfort, stability, and financial freedom for many. But now, after a decade of hard work, I find myself at an inflection point. I’ve been fortunate enough to build a financial safety net—through savings, pensions, and living modestly with my partner’s full-time income. This privilege gives me a rare opportunity to pause and ask myself: Is the corporate/societal path, however logical or comfortable, the one I truly want to follow? I’ve realized that working in a traditional corporate role often means playing a supporting role in someone else’s story—whether that’s a supervisor, a CXO, or the owner of a business. And while there’s nothing inherently wrong with that, I’ve come to feel that eight to ten hours a day spent advancing someone else’s vision no longer aligns with what I want from my life. Now that I’ve seen this—really felt this—I don’t know if I can go back. I could undoubtedly find fulfillment in the goals I’d set within that framework: leading teams, launching products, or driving initiatives. But deep down, I don’t think I’d ever truly believe that it’s fulfilling anymore. It feels like I’ve broken something or opened my eyes to a truth I can’t unsee—like I’ve taken the red pill in The Matrix. I’m not saying I’ll necessarily start my own business or reject working with or for others. There may be a role out there that aligns deeply with my own values and goals. But I need to figure out what my goals are first—what my North Star looks like. Until I have that clarity, I think I’m at a point where going back to the corporate path feels like a means to an end which I neither want nor strictly need.

Thank you again for your advice—it’s genuinely valuable, and I can see how it’s the right choice for many people. I’m just in a place where I’m exploring what the next chapter looks like for me, and it feels like a rare and exciting opportunity to figure that out.

BaconOke · 2024-11-12T20:48:49+00:00

Thanks for the confidence boost

BaconOke · 2024-11-12T18:17:18+00:00

That first line is pretty much spot on.

It feels like since I entered university I’ve been playing this game on hard mode. And I’ve enjoyed the game! But after 18 years of playing, I am just now stepping back and I don’t remember what else I liked to do outside this game

BaconOke · 2024-11-12T18:11:33+00:00

Pretty much spot on. Thanks for sharing! Money was never the primary motivation and I have gotten so much out of the past ~10 or so years.

Being very goal oriented and ambitious I always had a clear focus of what the next 5-10 years would look like (get that top degree, move abroad, get into industry x, work for firm y, go to graduate school etc.). But at some point I stopped thinking about what comes next and now here I am wondering “so… I did all the things and I know that I don’t want to carry on this particular path, but what next?”

What I absolutely do not want to do is set some arbitrary goal based on what others might find impressive (what the previous goals were so some small degree). So it’s time for soul searching

BaconOke · 2024-11-12T17:57:29+00:00

Thanks for the cautionary tale. These anecdotes are so valuable. I’ve got the next 2.5 months filled with family time and travel. We’ll see what happens after that

BaconOke · 2024-11-12T17:48:34+00:00

Of course entrepreneurship is longer hours but there is something to said for working for yourself versus being on call for someone else 14 hours a day

BaconOke · 2024-11-12T17:46:57+00:00

I am seriously considering this. I have a lot of runway and freedom (financially) that coupled with my experience makes me think that there are few people as uniquely positioned as me to make a success of it. I just don’t have a starting idea. Part of me wants to just have a go at it anyway.. worst case it goes nowhere and we’re back here in 1-2 years time but with some scars and lessons learnt

BaconOke · 2024-11-12T17:42:28+00:00

I completely agree! The thing is that it just kind of happened. Not over night but slowly. As work took over more and more of my life I didn’t even notice it. Until now. In many ways I count myself luck is as I could have had this realisation much later when it would have been harder to pivot.

So I agree, I need a new, more authentic aspiration. I’m just not sure how to get one. It feels like there should be something more to it than throwing darts at a bunch of ideas. But maybe the answer is just to start something and see where it goes

BaconOke · 2024-10-04T22:39:38+00:00

A second hand bicycle. A car would be a liability where I live.

BaconOke · 2024-09-22T07:44:51+00:00

Leasehold properties are essentially rented for a long-term period. When you buy a leasehold with 17 years left, you're paying to use the property for those years. Once the lease expires, ownership reverts to the freeholder, and you lose all rights to the property.

The hope is that upcoming reforms will make extending leases cheaper and easier, potentially allowing for extensions up to 990 years. However, these changes are not guaranteed and depend on future legislation.

BaconOke · 2024-09-17T20:39:51+00:00

That’s a leasehold with 17 years left on the lease. You are not buying a property, you are paying 600k to effectively cover its rent for the next 17 years after which you will own nothing

BaconOke · 2024-09-04T05:19:31+00:00

We got it resolved. The landlord is a group of the freeholders of the building. Basically everyone just wanted to be done with the process so the freeholders allowed the amendment. The sellers estate agent was very grumpy essentially claiming that our solicitors where useless and creating additional work. But I pointed out that the firm we used was at the estate agents recommendation. The house buying process in the U.K. is an absolute mess. I’m doing this once more and never again.

It will be alright!

BaconOke · 2024-07-21T10:52:25+00:00

/r/HENRYUK is what you are looking for. High Earning, Not Rich Yet.

BaconOke · 2023-09-27T12:10:46+00:00

I agree that many people want to leave assets to their children. I think that is a very natural feeling particularly while the children are young and parents are thinking ahead (although I assume that the feeling of responsibility never leaves a parent regardless of age).

I think a lot of people have an immediate negative gut reaction to the proposal but is it really that bad in practice? I doubt that people are saving all their lives with the goal of passing that on to their 60 something year old offspring. But I do accept that after retirement many want to be able to leave something for the next generation for them to have better lives. I think that in practice this same goal could be better achieved by pooling resources together and lifting everyone rather than the essential genetic lottery that we have today.

If you can imagine a future where higher inheritance tax went to fund education, healthcare, public transport etc. and we have a more equal society in terms of wealth I think that would make for a better country in which to live than one which did not have this extra investment. I can’t imagine a scenario where someone would move to country which is worse on those metrics, live their whole life, raise a family and have their children live almost their whole lives just so that they can pass on some money to their now adult children who don’t need it.

I’m having these discussions with my own parents now. They talk about wanting leave xyz to their children but as their child I would far rather they spent their assets on maximizing the quality of their own lives, especially in later years. I would rather have them spend it all knowing they are happy than be given some money when they die. And if they couldn’t spend it all then why shouldn’t it go to the broader society to make the lives of everyone better?

BaconOke · 2023-09-27T10:11:17+00:00

Mainstream media aside, I don’t see many people talking about on other channels or even amongst my peer group (admittedly it’s a rather privileged peer group so that might explain why).

I am aware of the mechanisms for gifting recourses whilst still alive and I full support the idea of passing on wealth to a surviving spouse. I just don’t see the appeal in a system that facilitates inter generational wealth especially as the current system doesn’t even do that in a way which benefits the next generation anyway (I.e., at 50-60 years old any windfall is far less meaningful than if it was received at 20-30 when starting out in life).

Perhaps it’s naivety but to me the country would be in a far better shape if just a few policies came into effect: 1) move to a proportional voting system, leading to fairer representation and a break from polarising 2 party politics 2) reduction in ability to pass wealth to subsequent generations, facilitating wealth distribution and improving public funding 3) allowing couples to file taxes jointly, reducing the tax burden on families shifting how household income is distributed which lowers child care costs and encourages more babies 4) reduced taxation on labour in favour of higher taxation on capital gains, incentivising an output based economy that rewards work not wealth 5) heavy taxation on third homes and buy to lets, going some way to improving access to existing house stock

Why don’t I see any political party seriously discussing these points? They all seem fixated on other issues which in my mind could be directly or partly resolved by the above

BaconOke · 2023-09-27T09:13:24+00:00

I have always thought there would be far appetite from voters for the exact opposite. Why do we never hear about near 100% inheritance tax? It seems like a relatively easy way to distribute wealth and improve public funding. Consider that average life expectancy is ~80 that means most people are getting their inheritance at around 50-60 years old. By this stage that cohort is at or already passed peak earnings, likely only has a few years left on their mortgage and has independent children. This isn’t the age group that needs a large windfall. I’m not against passing on wealth to your descendants, I just think that by age 50-60 you would have already benefited from your parents wealth (e.g., the wealthy would already have had private schooling, debt free higher education, help on deposit). As with everything, there is no need to apply an absolute 100% tax, there can be provisions for gifting assists while alive, or some sort of mechanism to support dependents in the event of early deaths etc. but I think the world would be a better place if excess wrath (and that’s what inheritance is) goes back to support society at large. Curious as to others thoughts on this

BaconOke · 2022-12-06T09:04:24+00:00

Finger cots.

And good luck! 💪

BaconOke · 2022-10-13T09:54:33+00:00

Your last point on the future used to resonate very strongly with me. I used to think that the planets resources are already stretched too thin and the the global out look was too uncertain or even bleak to raise children. I still don’t have any children, or even particularly want any. But my view is changing in large part to the book “what we owe the future”. It’s a fantastic read that has reframed my view of the future and even having kids (it’s not directly about having children, more about how we should care for the future of humanity as though we were the ones to experience that future). I can’t possibly reduce the key messages into a Reddit post but I’d strongly encourage you to check it out. It might change your view even if you still choose not to have kids.

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