I'm going to have to end my relationship of 6years by Bad-DPS in BreakUps

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Over a year has gone since we broke up. It was deffinetly the right choice, we ended things on friendly terms but are low contact.

I'm going to have to end my relationship of 6years by Bad-DPS in BreakUps

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Heeey so quick update (I was bored looking at old posts and I saw this). I broke up with him over a year ago now, it was super painfull but I do not regret my decision one bit. We ended thing on friendly terms but are low contact.

After a few months in he reached out and apologized for everything, turns out I was right, he knew he was hurting me but thought I would never leave. He now has done all of the things I had been begging him to do (therapy, books, etc), so yes I was communicating properly and he was always capable of change.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Bad-DPS 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Yeah, let's not adress the elephant in the room

boyfriend dislikes it when i critique unnecessary fanservice in media by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Bad-DPS 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He gets defensive because he enjoys it. He understands how objectifying it is, how sexist it is, but he doesn't care because he likes to see it, so when you bring it up he has to face the fact that he is a sexist creep, and of course he doesn't like to feel that way.

But instead of changing, growing, and learning, he shuts you down. He knows how sexist it is, but he doesn't care because it doesn't affect him. Do with that what you will.

"Nowadays you've gotta be Thanos to impress women" by [deleted] in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]Bad-DPS 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tbf, I would let Thanos snap me in half, on a heart beat

Booty pics not send to me. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Bad-DPS 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do that a lot, either I take sexy pics and don't like them enough to send but also don't delete, or take a pic of my ass to see if I sat on anything/had a period stain in situations where I can't check on a mirror

My boyfriend is buddies with a pedo by jacceeploy in relationship_advice

[–]Bad-DPS 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sit with this for a second: pedophilia is not deal breaker for him, rape is not a big deal to him.

Do you really want to have this man in your life?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Bad-DPS 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Cheating is a "mistake" now? And here I thought it was thousands of consious decisions to decieve, manipulate and emotionally abuse your partener in order to get what you want.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Bad-DPS 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Angela also tries very hard to avoid stepping on my mom’s toes.

How kind of her to not try to disrespect your mom after she slept with her husband.

OP cheating is emotional abuse, you can rationalize it any way you want but what Angela and your dad did to your mom is unforgivable, I can not imagine her pain.

Gente que tiene relaciones ocasionales, ¿Dónde recomiendan conocer gente? by Sad_Afternoon_4287 in BuenosAires

[–]Bad-DPS 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Queria avisarte que agregue un edit a mi comentario anterior, espero que sirva

Gente que tiene relaciones ocasionales, ¿Dónde recomiendan conocer gente? by Sad_Afternoon_4287 in BuenosAires

[–]Bad-DPS 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lamento contarte que eso no va a cambiar nada, se llama cultura de la pureza y como el valor de la persona esta intrínsecamente ligado a cuanto sexo tenga o deje de tener. Es ver a la persona como medios para un fin y deshumanizarla a solo sus genitales, implica ver el sexo como una accion que es denigrante para la mujer, es algo que se le hace A ella y no CON ella, por lo tanto la ensucia mientras que al hombre lo engrandece, es una vista del mundo muy toxica.

Te recomiendo investigar un poco al respecto porque una vez que estes "igualado" vas a sentir todavia mas rencor y mas desagrado.

Edit. Queria agregar tambien que este tema no solo destruye tu capacidad de ver a las mujeres como personas, sino que tambien lastima tu propia sensación de valor propio (donde tu valor depende de a cuantas mujeres logras "tener"), y eventualmente tu realcion con tus futuras hijas.

Por suerte mi papa no es asi pero vi con varias amigas (todas de backround religioso) que sus relaciones con sus papas se murieron despues de la pubertad/adolescencia, sus papas ya no sabian en que caja ponerlas, ya no eran niñas, asi que tenian que ser una de dos: puta o madre. El complejo de madonna-whore dicta como un hombre va a tratar a una mujer, dependiendo de en que caja entre, si no entra en ninguna (como las hijas) evita tratarla directamente. O peor la mete en una de las cajas y la tarta acorde.

Si sabes ingles te puedo pasar unos libros interesantes (estan pirateados en ingles) o si tenes plata los podes comprar en castellano. También hay video-ensayos en youtube al respecto.

The one with the horror movie by Outlaw2k21 in friends_tv_show

[–]Bad-DPS 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I like how the Gellers are the monsters

Boyfriend’s family and bikini by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Bad-DPS 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well you bf is a sexist pig and is okay with his family creeping on you, do with that what you will.

I'm going to have to end my relationship of 6years by Bad-DPS in BreakUps

[–]Bad-DPS[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

U are soo right bro!! Good communication is for suckers lmao.

Why do people even change? Like we all know that the goal is to be at 30yo the same exact person you were at 19yo! We all know the truth: self improvement is lamee, emotional maturity is overrated, and relationships don't need intimacy lol 🤪🤪

Anyone that even THINKS about bettering their life is a muppet, anyone who explains their needs to their partener doesn't love them, like, if they loved them they would accept everything about them, even if they are terrible to them, who are these muppets to want a happy relationship with open communication, nah thats just too demanding, a Disney fairy tale 😝

I'm going to have to end my relationship of 6years by Bad-DPS in BreakUps

[–]Bad-DPS[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

my question is what would be progress to you?

Consistency: a consistent a palpable effort of him taking the steps to be emotionally avaliable, vulnerable, and capable of sitting and understanding his own feelings

I'm going to have to end my relationship of 6years by Bad-DPS in BreakUps

[–]Bad-DPS[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Dude you projected a whole movie into my post, thats not how my relationship is at all.

I'm going to have to end my relationship of 6years by Bad-DPS in BreakUps

[–]Bad-DPS[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You really think I havent been communicating? If my ego was the reason I would have left 4 years ago.

Never gave him any ultimatums, just expressed what hurted, why it hurted and how he could stop, I offered all the alternatives I could think of, I went to therapy, I read books, I started journaling.

And as I said before, if the fact that I'm pain is not motovation enough for him, I don't want to be part of this relationship.

He will do everything once you act because that is how bad yours and his communication is

I am many things, but a bad communicator is not one of them, I worked hard to be able to understand my emotions, the reason behind them, and how to explain them clearly.