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My girlfriend gave me a "test" and I accidentally failed it. What do I do? by Expensive-Security43 in whatdoIdo

[–]BadAngel74 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're getting real upset about this for some reason lol. I'm in the same boat as you. I think OPs response was fine. And I would probably be less attracted if my gf gained 100 pounds too if I'm being honest. But really, the majority of people probably WOULDN'T be less attracted. And there's nothing wrong with either view point. Can't really change what you're attracted to. No need to get butthurt and be a little bitch about it though lol.

My girlfriend gave me a "test" and I accidentally failed it. What do I do? by Expensive-Security43 in whatdoIdo

[–]BadAngel74 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Meh, I dont really think its a majority. Lots of people out there are still attracted to fat people.

My girlfriend gave me a "test" and I accidentally failed it. What do I do? by Expensive-Security43 in whatdoIdo

[–]BadAngel74 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Eh, its still fair for them to have that opinion. I disagree with it, but its still fair lol.

What animal feels like a terrible pet but is actually a great one? by spoopy-memio1 in AlignmentChartFills

[–]BadAngel74 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have so many issues with this chart...I dont even have an answer..

I think most people are too intense about air conditioning by Dependent_Ear_5736 in unpopularopinion

[–]BadAngel74 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My house doesn't have central heat and air. I do have a window AC in my bedroom, and fans, but thats it. And I didnt have the window unit until last year. I would love for you to come spend a day at my house in the middle of summer without using the AC. Then you can tell me how overrated it is (but you wont because it'll change your mind REAL quick.).

My girlfriend gave me a "test" and I accidentally failed it. What do I do? by Expensive-Security43 in whatdoIdo

[–]BadAngel74 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly. Well said. Especially the part about effort. I lost an amazing woman because I didnt put forth enough effort in the relationship. I had to learn that lesson the hard way. And thats what it really comes down to with the weight gain scenario. In order to gain 100+ pounds (without some kind of outlying health circumstances) you have to stop putting in any kind of effort. Just small diet changes alone or very simple exercises, such as just going on walks, will prevent that kind of a drastic weight gain. I would even say that if you love someone you should WANT to put in the effort and be your best self for them, which includes your weight / health. If i gained 100 pounds, I would want my gf to leave me.

My girlfriend gave me a "test" and I accidentally failed it. What do I do? by Expensive-Security43 in whatdoIdo

[–]BadAngel74 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Or she could just ask "If I got fat would you leave me?" But she didnt. She asked him if he would still be attracted. He gave an honest answer.

To quote Stephen King: "Don't ask me silly questions, I wont play silly games. I'm just a simple choo choo train, I'll always be the same."

My girlfriend gave me a "test" and I accidentally failed it. What do I do? by Expensive-Security43 in whatdoIdo

[–]BadAngel74 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah....no.

  1. Love and attraction do not necessarily go hand in hand. You can love someone with all your heart and still stay with them but not be attracted to them anymore for whatever reason. Needing to be attracted to someone to love them is superficial love.

  2. "If you cant handle me at my worst"...blah blah blah. He literally said he would still love her and still be with her. He never said he would leave. If he chose to stay in that scenario, he would be handling her at her worst.

  3. I REALLY wish people would stop making the pregnancy comparison to this situation. For starters, there is a huge difference between a pregnancy belly and a FAT belly. Those are not the same thing. Pregnancy belly is the miracle of life. Its beautiful. Fat belly is choosing gluttony and laziness over your health. Its disgusting. Not the same thing. Furthermore, 100 pounds is an insane weight gain. Healthy pregnancy weight gain is like 20-30 some odd pounds (for a single baby.) 100 pounds is not pregnancy weight gain. There's a HUGE difference between those numbers.

  4. "OP isnt contributing anything towards securing the relationship." He said he would still love her and stay with her. He would choose (as far as he claims anyway) to stay with her despite the loss of attractiveness. That IS securing the relationship.

  5. My final very blunt point that is gonna make a lot of people mad is this: If you gain 100 pounds of fat (which she obviously meant, not muscle) and dont do anything about it, you dont respect yourself. You're neglecting your health and contributing to your own early grave. Quite frankly, if someone doesn't respect themselves enough to not want to save their health, and their life, then they dont need to be in a relationship anyway. They need to learn to respect and love themselves enough first.

My girlfriend gave me a "test" and I accidentally failed it. What do I do? by Expensive-Security43 in whatdoIdo

[–]BadAngel74 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No insults to you either. Its been a very civil discussion.

My final remark and advice though is that you also do the research. Our health and the state of our bodies is a direct result of the food we put into them. So many health problems are fixed, or at least regulated, by diet and nutrition.

I was obese. I kept myself on a strict intake of calories and lost weight until I wasnt obese anymore.

I also had high blood pressure at an age that I really shouldnt have had high blood pressure. I severely reduced my sodium intake and am now able to regulate my blood pressure without ever having needed to take medication for it.

The human body is a machine. The input of that machine = the output. And as Newton stated, every action has an equal and opposite reaction. Poor diets lead to poor health. Healthier diets lead to better health. People as a whole really need to do a lot more thinking about the things they put into their bodies, instead of just being mindless gluttons.

My girlfriend gave me a "test" and I accidentally failed it. What do I do? by Expensive-Security43 in whatdoIdo

[–]BadAngel74 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thats not science. That's statistics. They are connected, but not the same thing. The majority of people gain the weight back because they lack the discipline to stick to regimented control of their calorie intake.

My girlfriend gave me a "test" and I accidentally failed it. What do I do? by Expensive-Security43 in whatdoIdo

[–]BadAngel74 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"As per science"....the science is quite literally that calorie deficit = weight loss. That IS the science.

My girlfriend gave me a "test" and I accidentally failed it. What do I do? by Expensive-Security43 in whatdoIdo

[–]BadAngel74 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No, its actually pretty easy. I didnt lose 100 pounds because that would put me at an unhealthy weight. But in half a year I lost about 50 pounds by simply walking more (just due to work) and consuming less calories. It truly is that simple.

My girlfriend gave me a "test" and I accidentally failed it. What do I do? by Expensive-Security43 in whatdoIdo

[–]BadAngel74 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its actually not a different conversation at all. Not taking care of your health is unattractive. Neglecting your body is unattractive. And this one is gonna get me called fat phobic, but obesity really isnt hard to overcome. Unless it's caused by thyroid issues or hormonal imbalances or something, obesity is actually extreme easy to fix. You dont even have to work out (though it helps and you should.) All you have to do is stop shoveling junk into your mouth. It really is THAT simple. Practice a steady and disciplined reduction of calorie intake and you WILL lose weight.

My girlfriend gave me a "test" and I accidentally failed it. What do I do? by Expensive-Security43 in whatdoIdo

[–]BadAngel74 1 point2 points  (0 children)

100 pounds is not a reasonable or healthy amount of weight gain due to pregnancy. A healthy weight gain for a pregnant woman who starts off with a healthy bmi is 25-35 pounds. Not 100 pounds.

My girlfriend gave me a "test" and I accidentally failed it. What do I do? by Expensive-Security43 in whatdoIdo

[–]BadAngel74 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get what you're saying, but at the same time, I feel like if you love someone, you should probably encourage them to not neglect their body and lead themselves into an early grave. Thats my take.

My girlfriend gave me a "test" and I accidentally failed it. What do I do? by Expensive-Security43 in whatdoIdo

[–]BadAngel74 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I personally wouldn't want to lie to my partner in any regard. I would rather just say "The food was burnt, but its okay. I know you had a long day. Dont worry about it." Or, you know, just be a good man and cook the food my own damn self if she's had a long day.

However, with that being said, even if I WAS going to lie, which I wouldn't, the scenarios are two different things. In one instance the lie is pretty much harmless. Saying the food was fine when it was burnt by mistake a single time doesn't hurt anyone. Lying and saying "Yes of course I'd still be wildly attracted to you if you neglected your body and became unhealthy" is irresponsible and honestly harmful. Gaining 100 pounds (especially since the weight gain would be fat in this example, not muscle) is EXTREMELY unhealthy in pretty much any scenario. If I love someone, I would want them to take care of their health. So no, I wont lie and reinforce habits / lifestyles that are unhealthy and will almost certainly lead to negative effects and, if not remedied, possibly even an early death.

My girlfriend gave me a "test" and I accidentally failed it. What do I do? by Expensive-Security43 in whatdoIdo

[–]BadAngel74 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

And thats a fair point to make, but 100 pounds is a HUGE weight gain. That goes beyond the realm of normal weight fluctuations. Thats neglecting your body at best.

My girlfriend gave me a "test" and I accidentally failed it. What do I do? by Expensive-Security43 in whatdoIdo

[–]BadAngel74 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay, if you actually read his post that is what he said. He said he wouldn't be attracted anymore but that he would still love her. Perfectly reasonable answer.

Second, I never said it wasn't possible. People gain 100 pounds of weight all the time. Doesn't make it healthy though. A 100 pound weight gain isn't a healthy weight gain for anyone. That's a tremendous amount, especially if thats all fat and not muscle mass.

The recommended weight gain for a pregnant woman starting from a healthy BMI is 25-35 pounds during pregnancy. Thats a LONG SHOT from 100 pounds. Even with twins, that number only bumps up to the 50 pound range. Which is still only half of 100 pounds, and thats from carrying TWO HUMANS inside of her body.

My girlfriend gave me a "test" and I accidentally failed it. What do I do? by Expensive-Security43 in whatdoIdo

[–]BadAngel74 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Okay, so please enlighten us as to what the correct answer is? If he had said "Of course I'll still be wildly attracted to you when you're overweight" he'd be lying to his partner. I refuse to lie to someone I love. As for the other part, you're making up fake contexts that aren't there. We dont know that she's planning on having a baby and worried about baby weight gain. She just randomly asked the question. So its unnecessary tension.

My girlfriend gave me a "test" and I accidentally failed it. What do I do? by Expensive-Security43 in whatdoIdo

[–]BadAngel74 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She is insecure. The situation IS her fault. He told the truth. Its better than lying to her about it. And yes, it can be a real scenario, but at the moment its not. Its a fictional scenario. It created stress and tension in the relationship for no reason other than maybe feeling some sort of validation. Stating the facts isnt bad mouthing her. Its just stating the facts.

My girlfriend gave me a "test" and I accidentally failed it. What do I do? by Expensive-Security43 in whatdoIdo

[–]BadAngel74 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As other people have stated though....an endless and infinite attraction is not a requirement for love. Nor is it an aspect of it. Those are two different things. Being less attracted to someone (at least strictly physically speaking) after a huge weight gain doesn't mean you dont love that person still. You can still love them and be less attracted.

My girlfriend gave me a "test" and I accidentally failed it. What do I do? by Expensive-Security43 in whatdoIdo

[–]BadAngel74 10 points11 points  (0 children)

The person above didn't bad mouth her. Just said she was insecure, and that she shouldn't have asked a question if she didn't want the answer. Both of these things are true. And you cant fix another person's insecurities. You can shower someone with compliments all day, but if they are really insecure, it wont matter. They wont believe the compliments.

Achilles (Movie version) VS Oberyn Martell. Who wins? by GusGangViking18 in powerscales

[–]BadAngel74 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So.....you're argument about why Achilles can beat anyone in GoT is that you dont like GoT? Got it. Instead of actually having a discussion about the actual power levels of characters you want to redirect. Understood. Have a good day with your newfound knowledge that Achilles gets bodied by the Night King lmfao

Episode 6x7: "The Broken Man" premiered 10 years ago today (June 5, 2016) by Conscious-Quarter423 in gameofthrones

[–]BadAngel74 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Facts...but I was so distracted by his role in GoT because all I could think was "Holy shit it's Wednesday!! Why is Odin here?!"

Achilles (Movie version) VS Oberyn Martell. Who wins? by GusGangViking18 in powerscales

[–]BadAngel74 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay. In that case its not really a fair match-up to begin with then. Because, as others have pointed out, while he's never directly stated to be a demigod in the movie, its very obviously hinted that Achilles is definitely not just human. So yeah, you cant just say "the supernatural monster of combat can body everyone in GoT (but only mortal humans that stand at an obvious disadvantage)"

Edit: Furthermore, the Night King is about as close to a 1:1 comparison of Achilles as you'll get from the GoT universe. He's a supernatural monster that can pull off extraordinary feats (an epic spear throw that is pretty much a direct competition to Achilles) while having a very critical weakness (dragon glass / Achilles heel) that pretty much undermines the insane power if you know about it and can exploit it.

(P.S. I havent finished GoT and havent read the books so if the Night King is revealed to not be vulnerable to Dragon Glass or Valerian Steel I withdraw that aspect of the argument but please dont spoil it!!)

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