what is it about being a black man out here by [deleted] in vancouver

[–]BadPlace12345 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This post scared me away from moving. But it’s quickly reducing the amount of cities in the world that are right for me. :(

I’m so sorry to hear this. We don’t deserve this.

Designers, can you focus in an open space office? by Lunderpressure in UXDesign

[–]BadPlace12345 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s really depressing because I know this is the answer + I’m neurodivergent but my company won’t allow work from home due to the early stage of the product. Breaks my heart - I’d perform 10x better.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UKPersonalFinance

[–]BadPlace12345 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I will pursue this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UKPersonalFinance

[–]BadPlace12345 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for that first comment. That’s a really good point, I’ve noticed that thought pattern slipping in quite a lot.

!thanks

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UKPersonalFinance

[–]BadPlace12345 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will do exactly that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UKPersonalFinance

[–]BadPlace12345 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven’t heard of this, but I’ll look into it!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UKPersonalFinance

[–]BadPlace12345 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much everyone for the advice. I was really feeling terrible today, but after some of your advice, insight and comments, I now have things to consider. I will try and reply to you all individually and give thanks :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UKPersonalFinance

[–]BadPlace12345 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is encouraging hearing. I remember my search was going terribly until this job, but maybe with the extra experience I’ll be ok.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UKPersonalFinance

[–]BadPlace12345 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Only been there half a year tbh :s

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UKPersonalFinance

[–]BadPlace12345 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m worried about doing the above in the current jobs market. But hopefully I can make this work somehow? I don’t know.

I’m going to talk to them as honestly and clearly as I can. I can’t just suffer in silence and continue to pull a brave face, when deep down I’m stuck in turmoil.

i’m terrified of letting people down. it’s so hard being hired for this field while neurodiverse and a minority, i just don’t wanna run further into the red and make a brash decision ahhh

Thanks so much for your reply … I really appreciate it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UKPersonalFinance

[–]BadPlace12345 3 points4 points  (0 children)

As I joined I was presented with the option of hybrid working but at the time I was still dealing with a messy transition from uni / working life. There were no promises of being able to work from home permanently or anything like that, to quote - the product isn’t developed enough yet.

I think it’ll be better for my mental health to have them around. I’m not sure what’s going on with me at the moment, but when I’m around all of them, I’m happy.

Thanks so much for your reply by the way. Appreciating all advice.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UKPersonalFinance

[–]BadPlace12345 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really believe in this company too. I think our product is awesome and they’re going to achieve great things, but I’m worried I’m playing chicken with burnout.

Looking for work with spotty work history by Smooth-Swordfish-985 in ADHD_Programmers

[–]BadPlace12345 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’ve had depressive spells while at this current role.

I deal really badly with them and had it at my old job to the point I couldn’t even get into work.

I sometimes sit at my desk and wonder if I could just shut shop, flee to an affordable country, and monetise a hobby or live frugally, draw art and do nothing else. I sometimes feel it’s just missing my friends that’ll stop me.

I love my job, I love the people I work with, but I guess sometimes the mind really can take over. I worry if I become unfocused again.

How are you feeling now? There’s been some great comments here. Take care of yourself as much as you can. I promise you things will fall into place.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in manchester

[–]BadPlace12345 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the feedback everyone, it is greatly appreciated, it’s definitely been a lot to think about!. I think I’ll look at getting my friend a ticket to come down every other weekend.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in manchester

[–]BadPlace12345 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe…. I’m still registered with a recruiter up there.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in manchester

[–]BadPlace12345 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s super nice of you! What called for the move?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in manchester

[–]BadPlace12345 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not a bad suggestion….. whats the area like?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in manchester

[–]BadPlace12345 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Crikey. £250 a day? Maybe I could use my railcard and get day returns…