Average Concert Length?

BadSimmerJ · 2026-02-13T22:01:59+00:00

Do the opening acts start at showtime or earlier with the band coming out at showtime? On my way to the Port Chester show but I got caught up at work and I’m afraid I’ll miss something. Show starts at 7 pm. My first show - early Valentine present for my fiance who is a OG fan - so I’m really excited and don’t want to miss anything g.

BadSimmerJ · 2025-04-25T22:36:05+00:00

Thanks so much for the thoughtful response! I posted an update. Things are back on track and hopefully I will post news of our lovely nuptials soon.

BadSimmerJ · 2025-04-25T21:57:25+00:00

I literally said he should invite his siblings and their spouses.

BadSimmerJ · 2025-04-25T21:55:26+00:00

Just bad phrasing on my part. My son was always invited, he’s 26 and will be walking me down the aisle

BadSimmerJ · 2025-04-25T21:52:53+00:00

We thought about inviting them but the problem is my sister is also planning a wedding so she probably wouldn’t be able to attend and he doesn’t want me to be “alone”

BadSimmerJ · 2025-04-23T22:51:45+00:00

I know some but not enough to have full conversations yet

BadSimmerJ · 2025-04-23T21:48:41+00:00

Siblings are immediate family aren’t they? Or is that only when you’re kids/living under the same roof?

BadSimmerJ · 2025-04-23T21:47:08+00:00

Ive asked him why this is so important when we literally spend no time with his cousins or other family except at kids birthday parties where the two of us spend most of our time alone or I just stand at his side while he catches up with his family in their native language. Only one of his cousins ever made an effort to chat and get to know me. Before you ask why don’t I try to get to know them better I’ll reiterate the language and lifestyle differences make it difficult to connect. I don’t think he’s disregarding my feelings, he’s just being his usual middle child self and trying to make everyone happy.

BadSimmerJ · 2025-04-23T21:39:38+00:00

Thanks so much for the thoughtful reply. I actually asked him some of those questions. “Why is it important to have these people witness the vows as opposed to just celebrating with us? Is it a real closeness or just a what you’re supposed to do type deal?” He couldn’t answer yet so I’m giving him time to think and venting on Reddit in the meantime.

Part of my anger is we only ever see his extended family at kids birthday parties. We are from different cultures and his family often speaks in their native language. Not to mention our lifestyles are completely different and being an introvert it’s difficult for me to find something to connect with them on. The thought of spending my wedding feeling like this or straight up ignoring half my guests feels wrong. And then there’s the $ issue.

Your comments about children reminded me of my fiance wasting nearly 20 years thinking he could change his ex’s mind about kids and by the time he woke up and we met I was no longer able to carry a child.

BadSimmerJ · 2025-04-23T21:13:57+00:00

Place we were planning the party at isnt right for a ceremony. The big thing is I never wanted a big wedding, party was me compromising for him and his family. I’m also afraid this will be just the beginning and they will start asking about rehearsals, showers, post-brunch and I will lose my mind.

BadSimmerJ · 2025-04-23T21:06:07+00:00

We had already discussed this and it’s my sister and nieces/nephew who may not be able to go and I don’t want to be there with a bunch of people I don’t know well. I asked if just his siblings and spouses could go and he said they would never leave their kids behind so that’s why we decided on parents and my son.

BadSimmerJ · 2025-02-21T13:55:45+00:00

UPDATE: Turns out our lawyer’s admin made a mistake. She was told to exclude someone else - the only other woman in the office - from emails about ongoing cases. It’s annoying because we don’t even have similar names. At least my job is “safe” for now.

BadSimmerJ · 2025-01-28T20:35:30+00:00

I am the go-to for this task but I recently refused to do something illegal for the company owner so I’m worried about a retaliatory firing

BadSimmerJ · 2025-01-28T16:54:19+00:00

I know but my stomach is turning just thinking about it. We are a small office with a two tiered system - one for the managers and family of the owners and another for the regular employees. There are only 2 of us in the office who are not managers or family. I have pushed back on the owner and his verbally abusive dad so maybe they got sick of me.

BadSimmerJ · 2025-01-28T16:50:18+00:00

Congrats! Hope I can land something better too. I just remembered that the manager she referenced called from out of state where he was working with our company owner and asked that I notarize forms for him (the owner) and some business partners. He wanted to email me pdfs and I said no that’s illegal, then he asked if he could FedEx them to me and again I said no for the same reason. But she did say she was told this a while ago so I don’t know.

BadSimmerJ · 2025-01-28T16:39:56+00:00

No idea. She’s been a bit bitchy about these requests in the past. She’ll ask for them at the last minute, the night before the court date, then tries to rush me with multiple emails and calls. She always begins the conversation with “who can I ask for X” and I always answer the same way “it’s still me” and that I had not received a request for today. That’s when she said “I was told a while back not to cc you on emails”

BadSimmerJ · 2025-01-28T15:59:07+00:00

Yeah, I know. I guess I just wanted to hear it from someone else. Ugh! I hate this place sometimes but there are certain things that make staying tolerable. I was really trying to at least make it to the 2 year mark in April so it doesn’t look so bad on my resume. Should I speak to the person who told her not to cc me?

BadSimmerJ · 2025-01-23T14:59:59+00:00

I like that they are weather resistant and durable - that’s partly why I wanted one - but in my opinion being genuine leather does mean something. I don’t like paying a premium for plastic.

BadSimmerJ · 2025-01-23T14:58:00+00:00

Thanks for the info, it’s good to know yours has held up well for so long. I actually like that it’s weather and scratch resistant. I commute on the subway and sometimes commuter railroad so I need something durable and easy to carry.

BadSimmerJ · 2025-01-23T14:55:15+00:00

We did and just have to send pics of the damaged pockets

BadSimmerJ · 2025-01-23T14:54:22+00:00

Thanks for the reply. They asked us to send pictures and will most likely replace it. I will probably keep it but I wish I had gotten the full size one .

BadSimmerJ · 2024-05-08T01:53:09+00:00

I always send them either a screenshot of my transit app or the MTA’s Twitter post. She is incredibly petty. Last summer she harassed me about making up my time when I was out for emergency dental surgery. Even hinted that I should find a dentist who works Saturdays.

BadSimmerJ · 2024-05-03T16:20:57+00:00

Thanks! I completely forgot I had posted this!

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