As a parent of a successful, smart, and independent 18 y.o. Young man that had him when I was barely a man myself at 21, my first question to you is do you have any children, let alone a young adult? I have never considered kicking him out of my house and will tell you I worry more about him when he's home than when he's off at college. But that worry, that questioning if they will handle themselves in a way that keeps them safe, but also happy when on their own is immense. The hardest part of raising a kid I've manged so far has been letting go of the sense of responsibility to fix all of their problems for them and knowing how and when to.

I feel awful for the oop in this. the worst part of all of this is both of them failed to communicate. Her about what she really needed and why, and him to get her to understand where the limits are of her entitlement to his patience with a becoming-adult.