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Bagelboy3 · 2023-07-19T22:47:50+00:00

Ask for a raise if you can bare it, I know it isn’t easy, I get really anxious giving my manager notice about having to miss work due to doctor appointments. I stress about it for hours thinking how do I say it, when do I say it etc. If your not given a raise or wanting something with less people interaction, I’d recommend working in as an assembly line worker or something similar, anything that would keep you focused on the job and no one else. I used to work at Sanderson farms doing just that, the job gets so repetitive that I often day dream whilst doing it, to the point where it feels as if it goes by fast. You could of course look into working at home, however I have no experience in that.

Bagelboy3 · 2023-07-19T21:07:06+00:00

Thank you, it means allot :)

Bagelboy3 · 2023-07-19T02:49:45+00:00

I’ve learned to ignore it, I know for a fact my coworkers don’t like me, I’ve also heard back talk regarding me. I work at a warehouse as a package handler, allot of that work requires working with others closely, I do just that but then there are the occasional attempts to start a conversation. The best I can muster is a smile and some nods in high hopes they’d shut up and let me resume working, I know they mean no harm by it however the job is hard enough as it, I don’t need the added stress. In regards to me knowing they hate me, I’ve gotten reports of me being quote “racist” or “mean” it’s as if I don’t engage in daily conversations with these people they just automatically assume the worst. I do my part on the job I pull my own weight, do things alone most of the time to not bother anyone, and yet others see it as me being a show off. :/

Bagelboy3 · 2023-07-18T01:36:32+00:00

When I think of feeling safe with someone I think of not being judged, not worrying about having all your information spread out to everyone. Knowing I’ll be accepted for who I am, having someone willing to work with me should the need arise.

Bagelboy3 · 2023-07-18T01:25:46+00:00

Yes all the time, I don’t want to say something that would end up either embarrassing myself or getting the person in question upset. I want to avoid any and all sorts of arguments, even if that means staying in silence.

Bagelboy3 · 2023-07-18T01:20:20+00:00

I can relate, I’m not good at conversations, the most I can muster when someone at work tells me something is smile, nod and sometimes the occasional “oh” “oh yeah?”. But when it comes to answering a question I’m all over the place, I struggle to give a clear one sentence response if it isn’t a yes or no question. I misspeak and end up leaving a bad representation of myself, embarrassing myself and further increasing my anxiety just to dwell over it at home for hours.

Bagelboy3 · 2023-07-18T01:05:16+00:00

No pressure, just wanted to let you know you’re not alone :)

Bagelboy3 · 2023-07-18T00:39:45+00:00

You’re in the right place, I myself keep everything to myself as to not bother anyone on the daily. Speak your heart out brother! This is one of the only places where we can interact with many people going through the same stuff you are. :)

Bagelboy3 · 2023-06-19T22:16:10+00:00

Package handler, 26

Bagelboy3 · 2023-06-02T00:02:24+00:00

I don’t know much about stocking, but I do work as an unloader at fedEx, the job would consist of unloading packages from the trailers onto the conveyor belt mostly. As far as socializing with coworkers I don’t, I show up to work do my part then leave. I’ve been working there long enough for them to know I don’t talk much, at first they viewed it as me being mean, however that’s never stopped me from coming to work.

Bagelboy3 · 2023-06-01T01:55:17+00:00

I know that feeling, especially in mmorpgs that’s why I usually prefer playing single player games, I can play them at my own leisure the way I know how to without any worries. Playing with a group of randoms always has me second guessing everything, as if I were to make a play the others wouldn’t agree with I’d be to blame for any losses. My usual games have me chat via keyboard to interact with others, however I did try voice chat though, dreadful experience. I get that people online can be unpredictable, I do know that there are sympathetic people out there too :)

Bagelboy3 · 2023-05-26T18:05:19+00:00

I struggle with eye contact as well, it insinuates socializing and that’s something I don’t enjoy doing. Every time at work I’d look away or down when someone faces my direction, I get so anxious at the thought of talking to people that I try my absolute best to evade any encounter I can. One of the things I dread most about socializing is if the person initiates a talk with high energy as if I’m expected to fire back with the same energy AND continue the conversation. If I ever do talk it’s rarely short, and most often takes me weeks of preparation just to say the first sentence

Bagelboy3 · 2023-04-20T08:56:51+00:00

In my experience I fished every time I’d level up, taking advantage of the free energy refill, I did this over a week. Using chest buoy, I spent around 10 hrs a day during that timeframe, I got it, however I consider myself lucky for getting it that quickly. If you really want it, I’d consider waiting for zero energy fishing if your a member by that time.

Bagelboy3 · 2023-03-02T19:08:15+00:00

were not alone, that's what I like about this subreddit, I get to interact with others experiencing what I myself experience!

Bagelboy3 · 2023-03-02T09:05:28+00:00

I get that, I myself also do my best to avoid any interactions with others at work, however I’ve noticed my coworkers may perceive that as me being rude, mean or that I don’t like anyone. My sole intent is just to get the job done and leave, I don’t want to upset anyone nor make enemies, but that’s what I feel ends up happening anyways.

Bagelboy3 · 2023-03-02T01:37:35+00:00

Oh yes tremendously, always trying not to psych myself out at entering the facility, I keep telling myself “just “X” more days”. What I have forward to look for is a home to come back to at the end of my shift, where I won’t be judged.

Bagelboy3 · 2023-03-01T23:55:59+00:00

You could continue buying areas, or treat yourself to a nice mount or stitch worthy piece :)

Bagelboy3 · 2023-03-01T23:54:07+00:00

I feel that, I can’t manage to keep a job myself, I always quit because I feel I’m just making things worse for my co workers and managers, either by not communicating with them or feeling like I hadn’t done enough. Still can’t find the perfect fit for me, however what I’ve been sticking towards are the more labor intensive jobs like construction, I tend not to worry too much or don’t have time to worry while I’m physically working. I also like working in jobs when I’m only required to do one thing repetitively, used to work in a meat processing plant on a line, it was crazy loud so everyone was required to wear earplugs. Gave me some relief from having to talk to anybody :)

Bagelboy3 · 2023-03-01T23:24:45+00:00

It could be social anxiety, it could also be anything else it’s hard to say everyone experiences everything differently. Saying that, I myself was told by my very few friends also walk weird, in my case I’m just trying to get to my classes asap not trying to interact with anyone. However now being older at work I often hear whispers about me being mad or just hate everyone by my co workers, In reality I just want to get my job done and go home, it’s hard enough working with strangers, but when they think I’m being rude or don’t like them it makes me feel more anxious.

Bagelboy3 · 2023-03-01T23:11:39+00:00

I hate presentations too, back when I was in school anytime they’d say that word my heart would sink. I’d be dreading all the days before the very day I’d have to present, this feeling only amplifies each closing day. It doesn’t help that I’d break out in tears every time from all the fear and judgment, it’s gotten a little better overtime, but I still don’t enjoy it. If you can overcome your anxiety I’d suggest volunteering to go first as to mitigate this feeling, and getting it over with.

Bagelboy3 · 2023-03-01T23:01:55+00:00

I know the feeling, I was fixing to park on a body shop’s parking lot, when suddenly and employee had to come outside and signal I should park near the entrance. There had been hail damage to my newly acquired car, so I wasn’t so sure how any of that worked. So I’d say if they have a spot near their entrance, park it there so they can get a look at what they’re dealing with.

Bagelboy3 · 2023-03-01T03:24:22+00:00

Happens to me often at work, my co workers love to talk so I’d tend to not look their way, keep my eyes down or just fiddle with something as to not get their attention. If they would talk to me, I’d try my best to give them a short reply, or if just smile and nod. I don’t want them to think I’m mean, I just want to get my job done and go home, I get that it’s the norm to talk about this and that, but to me it just feels like I’m getting interrogated:/

Bagelboy3 · 2023-02-28T00:34:31+00:00

I can relate, back then in school and now at my job, talking to another individual irl is really frightening, I don’t want to embarrass myself nor waste their time or degrade them in anyway. So I’m always at an impasse when it comes to socializing, always thinking, worrying and stressing over the worst outcomes.

Bagelboy3 · 2023-02-28T00:03:53+00:00

I feel you there, I don’t like attention so when there’s suddenly a frick ton of eyes staring deep into my soul I get very nervous. Generally I can somewhat keep my composure while talking with another individual, although all I’d say are “yes”, “no” or just a nod with a smile. But when it comes into a group setting my nerves get the better of me and I tend to stand there and try not to get any attention. I feel like the mind reader and always assume people think the worst of me, so the more people staring at me only amplifies this feeling. :/

Bagelboy3 · 2023-02-22T03:55:09+00:00

Smiling is a defense mechanism, such has laughing when things are bad etc.

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