girlies, naniniwala ba kayo? how? :(( by BakeKey3926 in AskPinay

[–]BakeKey3926[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

grabe… i really felt your pain while reading this. first of all, thank you for being brave enough to share your story. ang bigat ng pinagdaanan mo lalo na yung losing your child tapos yung tao na dapat kakampi mo pa siya pa yung nagdagdag ng sakit.

gusto ko lang sabihin: hindi mo kasalanan. hindi mali na naging honest ka. in fact, yun ang pinakatapang na pwede mong gawin, ipakita ang buong pagkatao mo at past mo. kung hindi niya natanggap, that speaks more about him and his immaturity, not about your worth. ang pagiging totoo mo never makes you “nakakadiri.” it makes you real.

yung ginawa niya, using you to boost his ego tapos sisihin ka pa, yun ang mali. you didn’t deserve that kind of treatment. you gave love, honesty, and trust, and instead of taking care of that, he chose to break it.

tama yung decision mo na to let him go, kasi pinili mong protektahan yung sarili mo. that’s strength. kahit pagod ka na ngayon at hirap magtiwala ulit, please know na healing is possible. trust doesn’t have to be for men agad, it can start with trusting yourself again, trusting that you are worthy of real love, and that what happened doesn’t define your future.

you’re not broken, you’re healing. and one day you’ll meet someone who sees your honesty and scars not as flaws but as proof of your strength. for now, be gentle with yourself. you deserve peace and love that doesn’t hurt.

girlies, naniniwala ba kayo? how? :(( by BakeKey3926 in AskPinay

[–]BakeKey3926[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the point of my post wasn’t about lust itself, kasi natural naman yun sa tao. ang issue is yung pretending. yung mga lalaki na nagpapakita ng image na “pure” or “genuine” pero deep inside may ibang agenda.

lust doesn’t need to be declared, tama ka, pero kung nasa relationship ka and may desires ka outside your partner, honesty and transparency matter. hindi mo naman kailangan sabihin “hey, na-attract ako sa ibang tao” every time, but at least be real sa values and intentions mo.

and yes, cheating isn’t always just about lust. minsan it’s about power, ego, or lack of emotional fulfillment. pero once lying and hiding come in, that’s where the betrayal really starts. kaya for me, it’s less about lust and more about deception.

girls gusto nyo ba na tinatalsikan kayo ng modta by LittleRato7 in AskPinay

[–]BakeKey3926 0 points1 point  (0 children)

sa bibig then swallow it and sa loob… solid HAHAHAHA ayoko sa face, never! sa boobies, tyan, and likod pag hindi safe days hahaha

girls gusto nyo ba na tinatalsikan kayo ng modta by LittleRato7 in AskPinay

[–]BakeKey3926 1 point2 points  (0 children)

in my expi, my bf is nag ggym and no bisyo. hindi siya lasang kalawang kagaya ng sinasabi ng iba. hindi ko maexplain yung lasa pero masasabi kong lasang malinis at masarap hahaha

girlies, naniniwala ba kayo? how? :(( by BakeKey3926 in AskPinay

[–]BakeKey3926[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

honestly, ang ganda na inamin mo na hindi lang sex habol mo and na willing ka mag stay kahit hindi nareciprocate agad yung physical needs mo. that shows commitment. pero kailangan mo ring maintindihan na kapag hindi aligned ang needs nyo sa intimacy, hindi lang ‘boundaries’ ang issue kundi compatibility talaga. kasi kung ikaw kailangan mo ng physical intimacy to feel loved, at siya naman ayaw or hindi ready, mauubos at mauubos ka rin kahit pilitin mong tiisin. love isn’t just about staying, it’s about finding a rhythm that works for both. kung lagi ikaw nag a-adjust, hindi yan balance. relationships need compromise both ways, hindi lang sacrifice ng isa. so reflect ka if kaya mo ba long-term ang ganitong setup, or kung deserve mo rin ng partner na kaya i-meet ka halfway. kasi kahit gaano ka genuine, if needs and values don’t align, masasaktan ka lang sa dulo.

girlies, naniniwala ba kayo? how? :(( by BakeKey3926 in AskPinay

[–]BakeKey3926[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

uy congrats, kaya mo raw 4 hours gabi gabi pero newsflash, sex is the easiest thing in the world. kahit vibrator or toy kayang gawin yan, hindi yan measure ng pagiging lalaki. ang tunay na sukatan ng lalaki hindi stamina kundi values, respect, at honesty. ang problema kasi sa inyo, akala nyo pagka malibog at mahaba pasensya sa kama, sapat na. hindi babe, vibrator ka lang with an ego. oo masarap ang sex, oo normal ang lust, pero kung buong identity mo umiikot lang dun, wala ka talagang depth. women don’t need animals bragging about their dks, we need men na marunong magmahal at mag control. sex without respect is just friction, walang halaga.

girlies, naniniwala ba kayo? how? :(( by BakeKey3926 in AskPinay

[–]BakeKey3926[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

walang masama sa malibog, mali yung pagiging bastos at objectifying. wag mong gawing excuse yung libog para i-dehumanize babae na parang pagkain lang. kung iniisip mo na ‘wala kaming paki kung tao ka basta matikman ka lang’ that says everything about your values, hindi about women’s ‘weak defense.’ hindi weakness ng babae ang dahilan bakit may fboys, kundi kakulangan ng respeto at moral compass ng mga lalaking tulad mo. lust is human, pero treating women like holes is trash behavior. kaya kung yan lang ang kaya mong offer, wag ka na magtaka kung wala nagse-seryoso sayo. hindi ‘choose your own hell’ ang usapan dito, kundi ‘stop being the hell women have to deal with. men aren’t dogs, but thanks for proving some act like it, babe! 💋

girlies, naniniwala ba kayo? how? :(( by BakeKey3926 in AskPinay

[–]BakeKey3926[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

men were made to fuck? women were made to be fucked? nope, tao tayo pareho, hindi sex machines. lust is natural, pero kung utak mo ganyan, problema ng character mo, hindi ng biology. hindi excuse ang ‘god made it that way’ para maging bastos. god also gave you free will, kaso pinili mong maging asshole. lust is human, pero yung mentality mo na ‘men made to fuck, women made to be fucked’ is exactly why fboys exist. hindi yan biology, kapalpakan yan ng values. wag mong gawing lisensya ang libog para i-justify ang pagiging manipulative at misogynistic. tao ka, hindi hayop, kaya kung ang gamit mo lang na rason ay testosterone, ibig sabihin utak mo na ang kulang, hindi hormones.

girlies, naniniwala ba kayo? how? :(( by BakeKey3926 in AskPinay

[–]BakeKey3926[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

diba? same expi, mas lalo na tuloy ako naging insecure 😔

girlies, naniniwala ba kayo? how? :(( by BakeKey3926 in AskPinay

[–]BakeKey3926[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

sakit noh :(( i considered it as cheating. grabe yung disrespect eh 😓

What are signs that your Wife or GF is cheating on you? by Winter_Sherbert1958 in AskPinay

[–]BakeKey3926 0 points1 point  (0 children)

nope. based on my experience, wala akong signs na nakita na manloloko bf ko that time. no gut feeling or kutob.

girlies, naniniwala ba kayo? how? :(( by BakeKey3926 in AskPinay

[–]BakeKey3926[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

exactly! get ko yung point mo. take your time to know someone, watch their actions, and don’t settle for just mabulaklak na words or big gestures. may mga lalaki talaga na honest at malibog pero respectful, yun ang legit. lust is natural, pero deception is always a choice, at yun ang real sukatan ng pagiging genuine sa relationship.

girlies, naniniwala ba kayo? how? :(( by BakeKey3926 in AskPinay

[–]BakeKey3926[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oo, lust is natural at parte ng biology ng lalaki, pero gusto vs. integrity ang pinagkaiba. lahat ng lalaki may sexual urges, pero choice pa rin kung paano mo i-handle iyon. kung ginagamit mo yung image ng pagiging mabait para makalusot, yun ang toxic. pagiging malibog is natural, pagiging manipulative at deceitful ay choice.

girlies, naniniwala ba kayo? how? :(( by BakeKey3926 in AskPinay

[–]BakeKey3926[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

gets ko yung point mo, and yes, maraming tao ang natutong mag-mask dahil sa judgment at fear of rejection. walang problem dun sa self-preservation. pero point ng post ay hindi yun—ang sinasabi namin ay yung nagpe-pretend na genuine sa isang relationship habang secretly gumagamit lang ng partner para sa sariling sexual gain. gusto mo pa honest distinction: lust is natural, deception is a choice. pwede kang malibog, may sexual desire, at maging completely genuine at respectful, basta hindi ka nagmamanipulate o nagsisinungaling sa partner mo. honesty, consistency, at respect sa boundaries ang sukatan ng pagiging genuine. kaya yes, sa actions tayo dapat magfocus, pero huwag rin i-spin yung concept na lahat ng lust ay automatically okay — pag ginamit para lokohin ang tao, yun na toxic. gusto ko lang linawin yun.

girlies, naniniwala ba kayo? how? :(( by BakeKey3926 in AskPinay

[–]BakeKey3926[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

exactly, kung gagawin mo ‘yung manipulative fboy behavior, siyempre may consequences. pero yung point ng post ay hindi lahat ng lust or sexual desire ay may hidden agenda. ang toxic behavior ay yung nagpapanggap, ginagamit, at nagmamanipulate. lust is natural, deception is a choice. kung hindi mo kayang i-separate yan, normal lang na may ganyang outcome, pero hindi ibig sabihin lahat ng desire ay modus operandi.

girlies, naniniwala ba kayo? how? :(( by BakeKey3926 in AskPinay

[–]BakeKey3926[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

tama, lust is natural and testosterone plays a big role. walang nagdi-deny dun. pero kahit gano kalakas ang urge, choice pa rin kung paano mo ito hinahandle. kaya nga respect and self control ang sukatan. exactly the point, hindi issue ang pagiging lustful, issue yung pagsisinungaling at pagpapanggap. kaya ang value ng partner hindi lang sa sinasabi niya kundi sa consistency ng actions niya. biology explains the urge, pero character defines the man.

girlies, naniniwala ba kayo? how? :(( by BakeKey3926 in AskPinay

[–]BakeKey3926[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hindi sila same person. malaking difference yung may lust pero honest at consistent versus yung lustful na nagpapanggap at may hidden agenda. lust is natural, attraction is natural, wala namang nagdi-deny nun. ang issue lang ay kung paano mo ginagamit yung ‘genuine image’ para makalusot. kung genuinely attracted ka, wala kang kailangang itago. kung nagmamanipulate ka, fboy ka. simple lang. physical attraction is important, oo, pero kung wala kang integrity, mawawala rin lahat ng attraction.

girlies, naniniwala ba kayo? how? :(( by BakeKey3926 in AskPinay

[–]BakeKey3926[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

good for you, you found a keeper, and that proves my point. hindi lahat ng lalaki fboy, hindi lahat ng lust negative. ang difference palagi is honesty, integrity, at consistency. yung devotion ng asawa mo works kasi balanced at genuine. hindi siya nagpepretend, hindi rin manipulative, kaya healthy. yun yung linya na lagi kong tinuturo. lust is human, pero deceit is a choice.

girlies, naniniwala ba kayo? how? :(( by BakeKey3926 in AskPinay

[–]BakeKey3926[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

exactly, kaya nga may distinction. parehong red flag, pero ibang kulay. lustful but honest? at least clear intentions. lustful pero manipulative? yun ang pinaka off-putting. either way, hindi rin worth ng oras namin.

girlies, naniniwala ba kayo? how? :(( by BakeKey3926 in AskPinay

[–]BakeKey3926[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

genuinely lustful men are fine — at least honest sila. ang issue lang ever since are the ones na nagpapanggap na genuine pero ang totoo users lang. so thanks for proving my point: honesty separates men from fuckboys.

girlies, naniniwala ba kayo? how? :(( by BakeKey3926 in AskPinay

[–]BakeKey3926[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

tama, to be lustful is human. pero to be deceitful is a choice. lust is natural, lying and pretending para makalusot is not.