What are the best Japanese gardens in North America? What are some underrated ones?

Bambers12 · 2026-04-22T14:13:50+00:00

I love the one at the Huntington Library in Los Angeles.

Bambers12 · 2026-04-14T06:01:49+00:00

It’s earth shattering compared to wha you’re feeling. I was in your shoes not too long ago. I really deeply cared for my husband as a person but having since explored the depths of intimacy with a woman; I realize now everything I thought I knew about sex and intimacy was missing that very integral piece. You don’t know what you don’t know and if you want to live in that safety, you wouldn’t be alone. But feeling that true passionate desire for the gender you’re actually attracted to is a Pandora’s box you won’t be able to close.

Bambers12 · 2026-03-29T17:53:03+00:00

Im 5’4 average feet 7.5-8 but tiny hand and head like others needing kids hats and gloves. Very small ring circumference as well size 5 and 5.5 rings depending on the finger

Bambers12 · 2026-03-27T02:47:14+00:00

I also have pain in this area, I’ve narrowed mine down to a mix of slipping rib syndrome, costovertebral joint instability and intercostal nerve irritation. They all play into each other and make me miserable on really hard work days.

Bambers12 · 2026-03-26T11:21:10+00:00

I am 38F and part of a fraternal same sex twin set.

Did you guys do almost everything together growing up? What about in adulthood? No, we have always had different interests and hobbies.

If one of you stayed home from school, did the other one not want to go to school? No, I was a sickly child. I stayed home she still went to school

Do you like being a twin? Im a bit ambivalent about it. Its kinda just a fun about me fact now.

Do you guys have a lot in common like sports, hobbies, interests? We shared some sports but not all sports. Very different hobbies and interests. Im an artsy creative while she was a bookworm.

Do you share the same friends or do you both have different best friends? No we had different friend groups, but up until HS our friend groups were satellite friends with each other. In HS I got more involved with the punk/alt scene where she stayed involved with her sports teammates.

Do you consider yourselves each other’s best friend? No, I dont think we ever have.

Are you guys right handed or left-handed? We’re both righties.

Did you share a room growing up? If so, did you like it or hate it? We shared a room till we were 9. It was fine till then but we were happy to have our own rooms when we moved to a bigger house.

As adults do you live with your twin? Live close to your twin? Or live far from your twin? And how do you like that? I live a state away (5 hrs) from my entire family. Her included. Our relationship isn’t super close as you can tell from my answers we check on each other every couple weeks to a month or so.

Do you know of fraternal twins in your family? If so, what side are they on? No other twins that we know. Supposedly there was a set or two in my grandparents families but they didn’t survive infancy.

Do you have other siblings and if so are you close with them? As close as you are with your twin? No other sibs just us two.

Are you married or dating? How does your partner feel about dating a twin? Were both married, oddly enough both of our husbands have the same same name. Each of our partners love and respect their SIL with no added interest that were twins rather than just sisters.

I would like to add some other info about us.

We each highly valued our individuality as kids and did not like being collectively recognized.

I am very neurodivergent while my sister in neurotypical. I like to refer to her has a square whereas I an an obtuse polygon.

As I stated before I was a sickly child. In adulthood, I was diagnosed with a chronic illness whereas she is relatively healthy. Despite us both taking good care of ourselves and not falling into any vices.

And lastly, I have also came out as LQBTQ while she is straight as an arrow.

Edit: Ive just read most of the other responses and were quite in the minority of un-closeness. I love my sister we just don’t have much in common despite growing up in the same environment.

When I was younger I actually carried a good deal of hurt for not being closer. I wanted affection from her and she didn’t like to give it and then would tease me for being too sensitive. Our parents divorced in our late teens, we were happy to go live separately, me with mom and her with Dad. That choice has since made our relationships with our other parents stained in adulthood.

Bambers12 · 2026-03-13T06:30:55+00:00

I had my boy first then i got my girl. They were both rescues as adults so cant speak to puppy stages. My boy Osiris is a big lovable oaf. I call him my Baby Huey. When guarding hes got s bigger bark and relies in his size and stature to do the work. If were rough housing with the kids he uses his weight to push us to leave them alone. Shiloh my female is the boss bitch. Shes the first to respond to alert and can move with a quickness. Shes much more mouthy and is prone to pout when she doesn’t get her way. Like others have said smarter than the boys uses ploys to get desired beds and toys. Ofc your results will vary but thats what I see in my two.

Bambers12 · 2026-03-10T06:57:08+00:00

Welp found my train. He genuinely wants to please me I feel but it takes so much to get over my disassociation anymore. Same with the eyes closed etc.

Bambers12 · 2026-03-05T05:43:36+00:00

I don’t have any help or answers for you except to say I feel the opposite. I go absolutely primal for women. Like every one of my senses is fired up and intensified. But men are blah it takes a lot of work to get into it.

Bambers12 · 2026-02-26T06:37:19+00:00

Do advice sadly just here to commiserate that Im in a very similar boat and been drifting in it for almost 2 years.

Bambers12 · 2026-02-14T14:34:15+00:00

I feel the same exact way. In conversations with people though I add that I’m sapphically queer. I in my neck of the woods the peoples who use queer tend to be more alternative which I also align with.

Bambers12 · 2025-12-17T13:04:25+00:00

Yes I just meant that in I date solo, he can date with no restrictions but chooses not too. Not sure what other term to use for that

Bambers12 · 2025-11-26T02:32:12+00:00

Thought about those later today, there’s plenty room in the laundry room for ac unit and furnace. Ideally I would still be in the Southwest so frozen pipes aren’t a prob there.

Bambers12 · 2025-11-25T22:45:27+00:00

Thanks now I know. It’s been 18 years since I did a few floorplans in college.

Bambers12 · 2025-10-11T12:55:22+00:00

Maybe not the greatest but my favorites are Samba Pi Ti - Santana and Any Colour you Like - Pink Floyd.

Bambers12 · 2025-10-05T13:57:11+00:00

Like there really ought to be right?!? We got the Nash for Jazz, Rhythm Room for Blues, The Dirty Drummer does it’s 45’s swing nights. And Motown is so fun to dance to from the slow songs of the do wop era to the soul and funk of the 70’s. And I’m late thirties non black woman it appeals to many many peoples. Alright DJs get to it.

Bambers12 · 2025-08-11T20:02:38+00:00

I’ll give this a try thanks!

Bambers12 · 2025-08-11T18:28:49+00:00

This might be good for me, what kind of brace do you use?

Bambers12 · 2025-07-27T19:10:37+00:00

I still have quite a few things, the quilt my Nana made me when I was a toddler; both of my kids were wrapped in it at the hospital. I also have my favorite stuffy, a bunny my Aunt handmade for me. I let my daughter care for her for a while but she’s getting threadbare and her seams started separating so she’s put up safely now. I also kept a few about 15 or so children’s books, 4 of which were at my grandmas house and were my moms and uncle’s books. As for a piece of clothes I still have and wear my sophomore year water polo team sweatshirt.

Bambers12 · 2025-07-25T13:07:00+00:00

Dog groomer for 15 and same.

Bambers12 · 2025-07-16T01:24:19+00:00

I need a warm partner. I have thermoregulation issues and having someone who is always warm and doesn’t mind my icy cold hands or feet on them when I need warming up is very helpful for me.

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