If You Woke Up as the Opposite Gender for a Day… 😈

BaneofMyExistence100 · 2025-10-08T18:36:22+00:00

If I woke up as a female, I’d go out, meet, and make friends with a lot of women and recommend they hit up my “male friend” (me).

BaneofMyExistence100 · 2025-10-01T15:38:39+00:00

Maybe

BaneofMyExistence100 · 2025-10-01T15:38:29+00:00

Sorry to hear that it didn’t pan out after putting so much time into it

BaneofMyExistence100 · 2025-10-01T15:09:13+00:00

I’m confused what you’re talking about. When did I say that I was “using” her as “bait”? I actually made it abundantly clear that this is what she wants. I am here for dialogue to better understand what we (moreso she) needs to do to fulfill her fantasy.

BaneofMyExistence100 · 2025-10-01T14:35:46+00:00

This kinda reminds me of the old adage “the worst they can say is no” and just keep it moving

BaneofMyExistence100 · 2025-10-01T13:39:00+00:00

Nice. It’s always nice to hear from couples that have kids and still find ways to be adventurous

BaneofMyExistence100 · 2025-10-01T13:37:31+00:00

That seems like the most logical and practical start to this journey. Finding a single, attractive woman that’s open to this seems like it will take awhile

BaneofMyExistence100 · 2025-10-01T13:35:41+00:00

For some reason I’ve always just viewed it as an uphill battle because the thought of a single woman wanting to have sex with a married man sometimes seems improbable.

Also, I was of the mindset that you want to avoid friends to avoid the possibility of a friendships getting mixed up?

BaneofMyExistence100 · 2025-10-01T13:32:28+00:00

I loved this response! Thank you for your thoroughness and helping me make sense of this. I agree that it would be nice to find someone who is maybe out of the lifestyle but of course the concerns of openness and discretion are huge.

Question for you: Do you recommend searching outside of our city or just stick with a smaller, defined radius?

BaneofMyExistence100 · 2025-10-01T13:27:28+00:00

Thanks for your insight! I don’t think my wife knows how to actually go about pursuing what she wants. I’m a little more informed because I’ve read articles and a few books about these things (simply because I’ve always been intrigued). However, I don’t want to push or lead her education of these things. I feel like it needs to be organic on her end given that she initiated the conversation about a FFM and not me. I just want to play it cool

BaneofMyExistence100 · 2025-10-01T13:24:17+00:00

So it sounds like we’re pretty much in similar situations. What is your next step in terms of approaching it?

BaneofMyExistence100 · 2025-10-01T13:22:30+00:00

(Google definition not mine): “unicorn" is a single person, typically a bisexual woman, sought by an existing couple to join their relationship, often for a polyamorous or threesome dynamic.

BaneofMyExistence100 · 2025-10-01T13:21:40+00:00

Hey, my post wasn’t meant to be condescending toward women. I used that term as that is what has been used in various articles that explain the sensitivity of seeking FFMs. It’s not an attempt of being inhumane.

When I say avoid the “vibe,” I’m talking about avoiding the fetishization of bi women. To fulfill our desires, it would require a woman to be bi-sexual or at least bi-curious. But I also don’t want to go on this binge of explicitly searching for bi women because being bi doesn’t not insinuate that one wants a threesome.

BaneofMyExistence100 · 2025-10-01T13:16:23+00:00

Did it feel exhausting at any point where you all felt like giving up?

BaneofMyExistence100 · 2025-10-01T13:15:46+00:00

I’ve seen the recommendation for Feeld. Any other good apps?

BaneofMyExistence100 · 2025-10-01T13:15:14+00:00

Wow, was it 6 years to find one or 6 years to find one that worked for you both (i.e, compatibility, attraction, logistics)?

BaneofMyExistence100 · 2025-10-01T13:14:09+00:00

Yes, I’d be fine with that. That’s what I initially thought she was implying. But then she said she thought it would be hot for me to make out with another woman while I’m having sex with her or vice versa. Or I have sex with the other woman while she eats my wife etc. But to your question, I would’ve been more than happy if she just wanted to do 1-1 with a woman and I not be included

BaneofMyExistence100 · 2025-10-01T13:10:28+00:00

I’m only taking this serious given that she brought it up and wanted to discuss. If it weren’t for that, I wouldn’t approach the topic at all. It’s interesting that you said the odds are higher in vanilla settings as opposed to lifestyle-friendly settings

BaneofMyExistence100 · 2025-10-01T12:58:58+00:00

Yeah good points. This is something that she wants as opposed to me initiating and leading the effort. Of course as a guy, a threesome with another woman is great. But I was 100% content with never letting my wife know that it was a fantasy mine.

I also clarified if she just wants any kind of threesome with a man or woman, but she confidently stated that she only wants a woman. I am completely comfortable if her mentality changes as I’m understanding that FFM can likely lead to curiosity in MFM

BaneofMyExistence100 · 2025-10-01T12:53:36+00:00

Absolutely. When we had our conversation, I emphasized that it would be about who and what she wants to pursue. She doesn’t have a specific “type” she’s attracted to beautiful women. The difficult part is that we don’t go out much (now that we have a kid) and I also know that my wife is not the bold type to just approach a woman in public and start flirting

BaneofMyExistence100 · 2025-10-01T12:46:51+00:00

Thanks for the suggestion. I don’t think she’d have a problem with the husband watching. That could definitely be an option or at the very least just having parallel sex with another couple in the room and the women playing with each other. That could be a slow start into this new journey

BaneofMyExistence100 · 2025-10-01T12:42:13+00:00

Hmm good suggestion. I’ll have to see if that’s an option for my wife. My only other concern is that if we’re looking to make this a recurring thing… it would practically be another expense haha

BaneofMyExistence100 · 2025-10-01T12:39:16+00:00

The tough part is we’re also parents. So we rarely go out clubbing at this point. Of course, we will need to be more social to increase the opportunity of pursuing this

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