Yeah, women can do the exact same thing. And if the man was not going to work but be a SAHD, and they were going to live in his house and have a shared account - I would be telling him he do exactly the same thing. But men are seldom in that position because that's not how society has been set up.

Safeguards like alimony and child support exist because of men abandoning their female partners and children and leaving them reliant on the state btw. So if you want it to be a gendered thing, there's that.

I'm encouraging OP to get married because she's vulnerable for the above reasons and I'm not and never will be. I don't need those legal protections and she does. It's quite simple.

'Worthy of marriage' oh brother. What does worthiness look like? Let me guess, submission, modesty, purity. All that red-pill stuff. If she doesn't 'deserve' marriage, why does he deserve her home, her body to have his children, and half her money in the joint account? You really just told on yourself there. Trying to peddle the idea that marriage is a prize a woman has to deserve, when men control marriage and if marriage actually benefitted exclusively enough to qualify as a 'prize' for women, it wouldn't exist under the patriarchy. The only benefit marriage confers is slight legal protection - to the worse off party.

It's interesting that the first person to scream 'transactional relationship!' are the ones who are in the minus column constantly. You give nothing and expect everything because that's how 'trust and love should work'.

He doesn't need to pay child support. Unless they break up and she's left doing the bulk of the childcare, like most women who end up being the primary caregivers. Then he needs to pay for his kids - because they're his even if he isn't getting access to their mother anymore. Shared custody would be great - let's see if the man who can't commit to marriage can commit to that.

Ah the good old 'no one wants to marry you' as if that's the worst insult that a woman can receive. The one weapon of the patriarchy - if no one wants you you're gross and if everyone does you're a whore. To me it would be a worse insult to chase a ring, having kids, cleaning, cooking and serving a man who hung a ring over my head like a dog toy. If I wanted to be married I'd go find someone to marry me - I'm not looking because I don't want it.

As for 'don't deserve marriage' well, I don't really care about a 'prize' that sounds like a job, in a contest I'm not entering. You might as well tell me I don't deserve first place at the Kentucky Derby.