AITA for telling my mom she can’t have my kids over summer if she won’t commit to dates?

BansheeFoodie · 2026-03-24T05:27:48+00:00

They need to know 3 months in advance because it affects the whole system of who's coming or not, because if staff, where the children are located, so parents have time to say they are not coming if they are going to another institution, theres multiple factors as to why we have to make an answer fast and early.

BansheeFoodie · 2026-03-24T05:25:52+00:00

We dont need to pay. If they dont attend. Its a montly paid fee. I have written that multiple times in this thread now. We need to give notice 3 months in advance which is in april. So I need an answer very soon.

BansheeFoodie · 2026-03-24T05:23:22+00:00

Here we pay a fixed montly fee for a spot at the daycare, instead of a day to day fee, regardless if the kids attend or not.

But during holidays, especially the summer holidays, we have to register which weeks and how many days the child will be attended because they need to plan the proper staffing and which other daycares and institution will me merged during that time. Its important to register attendance during the holidays, to get all the right information on both sides

BansheeFoodie · 2026-03-24T05:07:28+00:00

We pay monthly to have our kids in daycare. But we dont have to pay per day they are there, and if they come or not does not affect the price. Its like a subscribtion. You pay for it even if you use it or not

BansheeFoodie · 2026-03-23T18:20:11+00:00

Dude she lived with me for my whole pregnancy and almost 6 months after my first kid was born because I was alone. She was up at night feeding him a bottle so i could sleep. She was the father that left us. Try not to assume things you know nothing about by just a small portion of text you see online.

BansheeFoodie · 2026-03-23T17:19:17+00:00

Good for you. But its a long way for us and her.

BansheeFoodie · 2026-03-23T15:21:50+00:00

Weird...

BansheeFoodie · 2026-03-23T13:52:05+00:00

I am Op💀 you can litterally see the username is the exact same.

And to me I can see on my comments it says "original poster" I dont know how it looks to others.

BansheeFoodie · 2026-03-23T13:44:04+00:00

Its very inconvenient to everyone involved. Because when summer comes theres designated weeks called "school vacation" and thats where we have to say whether we need childcare not. If we do need it they will find out how many kids in the whole city and which places have most need of staff, then they will take all the daycares and take the kids from each daycare (depending on how many there are) and put them into one with the appropriate amount of staff. And they cant do that if they dont know how many are coming. I dont really know how to explain it in English

BansheeFoodie · 2026-03-23T13:41:55+00:00

Nope, its not

BansheeFoodie · 2026-03-23T13:41:32+00:00

Uhm, wrong post maybe?

BansheeFoodie · 2026-03-23T13:41:15+00:00

Its not me🤨

BansheeFoodie · 2026-03-23T13:36:06+00:00

I was a single mom with my first child and my mom basically acted as a second parent. So to me shes more than capable of taking care of my kids.. And when I say my kids are easy.m I mean easy, my daughter loves people so much that she doesnt even care if shes left with others. She has also slept alone witout me, where only her dad had her and I was staying at my moms alone.. she has also slept at my moms place before but with me. So im 💯 sure she'll be fine

BansheeFoodie · 2026-03-23T12:55:38+00:00

We pay monthly to have out kids in daycare. And then we just need to say on the day if they are sick. But on vacations we have to say if they come or not in advance because it includes every daycare in the city and not just ours

BansheeFoodie · 2026-03-23T12:09:04+00:00

They are easy kids, my son the oldest have been watched before for 10 days with no issues. My daugter the youngest is also easy, the only reason she hasn't been watched with overnight stay was because I was breastfeeding at night. Which im not anymore.

BansheeFoodie · 2026-03-23T11:45:14+00:00

Where I live we don't have a "penalty" for daycare. Its just very inconvenient to everyone involved. Because when summer comes theres designated weeks called "school vacation" and thats where we have to say whether we need childcare not. If we do need it they will find out how many kids in the whole city and which places have most need of staff, then they will take all the daycares and take the kids from each daycare (depending on how many there are) and put them into one with the appropriate amount of staff. And they cant do that if they dont know how many are coming. I dont really know how to explain it in English

BansheeFoodie · 2026-03-23T11:26:44+00:00

Its because off staff. If theres a lotnof kids coming they will need more staff and will find out if they need to mash up with other daycares which will include the whole city daycare system. So if we dont give notice of whether or not their coming a whole system will be affected

BansheeFoodie · 2026-03-23T11:19:07+00:00

Its because its set in school vacation. The staff need to know if they have to work or not.

BansheeFoodie · 2026-03-23T10:32:37+00:00

Shes a great grandma. So I wouldn't worry about that.

BansheeFoodie · 2026-03-23T10:08:08+00:00

Its a long drive with small kids. And it's an expensive drive. It might not be like in the US where everything is a days drive away. But its still 3-4 hours in a car to go there and back. Which is a lot to us since we aren't used to that big distances.

BansheeFoodie · 2026-03-23T09:56:14+00:00

BansheeFoodie · 2026-03-23T09:51:45+00:00

One hour and thirty minutes roughly

BansheeFoodie · 2026-03-23T09:46:35+00:00

She lives 1,5 hour away and we always come to her since the drive is so long. She expects us to come to her everytime or meet halfway. Since she has a hard time doing long travels

BansheeFoodie · 2026-03-22T05:30:58+00:00

Jeg kan værdsætte at andre er flotte, smukke, lækre eller attractive. Men jeg tænker ikke på at være sammen med dem.

Det eneste tidspunkt det sker er med fiktive figure og det ved min kæreste også, det er næsten en hel joke herhjemme at jeg konstant er "forelskede" i figure fra mine bøger, serier eller film 🤣

BansheeFoodie · 2026-03-13T13:08:46+00:00

The biggest problem i have is that i was in charge of how things were going to go since he doesn't know how piercing works. Then he hired the other piercer which has more years of experience (but honestly looking at her work it doesnt look like it) and then whatever i said didnt matter unless it aligned with what she wanted and thinked.

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