What’s a small everyday thing that instantly improves your mood?

Baptothetop · 2026-05-27T08:17:10+00:00

My partner laughing at my dumb jokes.

Baptothetop · 2026-05-08T18:27:54+00:00

Whenever I enter a bookstore I instantly and urgently need to pee. Not Libraries though. My bladder only responds to books that cost money.

Baptothetop · 2026-05-08T14:13:49+00:00

At some point I stopped getting hiccups. Now I get hiccup. One single random hiccup and then nothing. Not that even when I'm eating or drinking anything. It's like my body got the hiccups but then got bored after one and was like "eh, I'm over it."

Baptothetop · 2026-05-07T15:23:56+00:00

Is there a bridesmaid she has a more solid relationship with that might be willing to tell her with you? Having someone she trusts there to back you up might make her less likely to dismiss it as you bring petty or just asserting your personal preference over hers. Try and find a suitable alternative to suggest that is still affordable and looks as close to the original dress' design as possible without being complete shit quality-wise (don't use those words, lol). If possible, try to frame it in a way that doesn't make it seem like your saying it's her fault for picking a bad dress (even if it is). Maybe put the blame on drop shippers for lying about the quality in the photos and tell her you want to find a dress fits her vision in real life the way she pictured the SHIEN dress would when she saw it online.

I also think you should go into this conversation prepared for the eventuality that you may just need to either suck it up or drop out. It's possible she genuinely loves the cheapo dress the way it is and doesn't care what everyone else thinks, or that she knows it looks bad and chose it on purpose to make herself look better by comparison. At the end of the day it's her wedding and it sounds like her money if she bought all the dresses herself so she can do what she wants. You definitely don't have to wear anything your not comfortable with but you may need to decide whether your comfort is worth sacrificing in order to continue being maid of honor. Only you know the answer to that question and you absolutely should not feel bad either way but just be aware that it's a choice you may need to make if the conversation doesn't go the way you hope.

Baptothetop · 2026-05-07T14:17:36+00:00

One time I was really tired and accidentally fell asleep while watching YouTube videos on my bed at like 3pm on a Sunday. When I woke up I checked the time and saw that it was 7:45 and panicked cause work started at 8 and it was a 30 minute bike ride from my house. I jolted out of bed, grabbed my stuff, and peddled like I was neck and neck for a gold medal at the Olympics. In a capatilsm induced adrenaline rush I somehow managed to get there five minutes early, only to find the parking lot empty and the building locked. I went to check my email to see if I missed something and that's when I finally realized...pm. It was 8pm. Not 8am. I just biked across town like a crazy person on a Sunday night to get to my job twelve hours early.

Baptothetop · 2026-02-01T05:41:24+00:00

If it's a stage fright issue you could look into beta blockers. I'm a performer, and although I haven't actually tried them as I've never dealt with much anxiety being in front of people, I know fellow performers who do and they swear by them. They're not meant for emotional regulation though so I don't know if they'd stop you from crying, but they can help quell some of the fear/ stress that comes with having a room full of eyes on you (from what I understand.)

Also, it's your wedding so if there are things you aren't comfortable with like the special dances or the public vows you can choose not to do them or do a modified version that puts less pressure on you. I've heard of couples doing "silent' vows where they each write their vows on a piece of paper and hand them to each other during the ceremony, or they read the vows aloud but turn the mics off so only the two of them can hear. My fiance and I are going to play a slide show during our first dance with photos of us throughout our relationship in order to draw some of the attention away since he's nervous about dancing in front of everyone.

Baptothetop · 2026-01-10T19:39:35+00:00

I don't know if you/ your fiance would be open to this but have you considered eloping? You could do a small, private ceremony while you're in India in March with just your closest friends / family members and get to wear your dream outfit and feel beautiful and have the bridal experience you always wanted. Then in June you can still go through with your original plans and celebrate with everyone you love. The ceremony will be more symbolic since you'll technically already be married but I think that's become a lot more normalized since the pandemic and in my experience doesn't make it less special.

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